SOULMATES

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After several months of repaying my father's debt from my work, it turns out that my father's boss came home and freed my father's debts, because the debt was a customer's debt not my father's debt, my father was just an officer. Thank God for always giving a way out to every difficulty that I and my family go through.

My father is still unemployed, his work goes to the mountain of bird nyari that does not make money. At least dapet 1 month is 20 thousand rupiah only.

After 3 months of working training as QA, Zara was transferred directly to the Admin holding 1200 employees. Not an easy matter because at that time Zara replaced the old Admin who ran away because it was not strong to take care of the employees of the department that I was holding at that time.

Always start from zero. Zara appointed Mr. Bae to be his Admin. Until I resigned for 7 years I worked in a shoe factory I never moved parts always had to hold this department. Because no one else will and no one will be a good match for Mr. Bae and Pa Tigor. Batak and Korea unite with their equally harsh nature, educating Zara from a tearful Zara to a hard-wearing Zara. It is not an easy thing to do the work with these 2 people who are strong in character always contradict his opinion and I must always be an intermediary among these fathers. But every time I want to give up I always remember Mom's words. If Zara stopped working what mom and dad want to eat, that's what always strengthens me to survive working 7 years in this shoe factory.

Pa tigor once said to Zara.

"Zara remember, if later you get out of this factory especially from this department. I am sure you will be strong to face any test that you will pass in your life. Let's just say here you're learning about the rigors of life. Mentally sharpen you so as not to give up easily with life."

"Yes pa do'ain Zara is successful.

"Yes always. You know you're strong despite your cry."

I laugh.

And I also always remember the words pa Dani my superior in the same department as Adrian back then.

"Never settle for staying in the comfort zone. Life is full of challenges, you have to be able to go through everything well. And doing anything must be in accordance with procedures and rules, so that when we make mistakes it will not be fatal. We can be a little easier to fix. "

They are the best mentors I have ever met in my life. They always taught me their harsh nature, sometimes hurtful, and even made me cry, but the goal was to make me a better person. Her lessons I have never forgotten until now.

Like A Rangga, I think his words are right. It's just his attitude that makes me hurt and cry. But his good purpose makes me personally better now. Her changes into my personal self were real after I got to know A Rangga I more often introspect myself, improve myself. Even about the meaning of marriage I learned from the purpose of his marriage a Rangga. That marriage not only unites the heart, but also unites the soul, ego, person, different thoughts for the same purpose.

Whereas back when I decided to marry Ditto I never thought that deep. I met Ditto and his mother and father came to the house and then got married. I don't know what Ditto's background looks like.

One day before the wedding Ditto told me honestly, if he was not actually a virgin because he had been dating for 9 years and lived with his ex-girlfriend when he was in college.

Oh yes, I cried and talked to my mother, do I have to keep the wedding or how.

"What is Zara, because the man makes no difference whether virgin or not for men the same. The important thing is that you have been made home by your future father-in-law, your father-in-law is very dear to you Zara. "

"But why did Zara maintain the sanctity of Zara if in the end Zara's husband like that, not if the soul mate reflects ourselves ma'am. Aren't women good for good men, ma'am. "

Mother said nothing because of what she thought of matter and matter. Even I married Ditto was not based on sincere Love but because of material things as well.

After marrying Ditto I got another bullying from my mother-in-law's brother, from Ditto's sister they looked at me one eye. Because of the difference in social status between me and Ditto. I can't be a socialite like them because I'm just an ordinary person, a village person who doesn't know anything.

Another case with my father-in-law who is very affectionate with me, even his mother Handoko's father thanked me very much for wanting to marry Ditto. Mbah feels very lucky that Ditto can marry me.

Years passed, there was happiness there was also a quarrel even ended in divorce because it was until finally me and Ditto were still different thoughts. Household-focused Zara, a future-focused Zara. Zara who thinks of her precociousness. Contrary to Ditto's relaxed thinking, likes the night world, likes poya-foya, gathers with friends and wants to live freely. Eventually we split up and chose each other's way of life.

The last time I met my father-in-law, I was given a book. Handoko's father said it was my father's legacy. The book, 7 Wonders of Life, was written by Ippho 'Right' Santosa, a right-brain expert. The inscription written in Handoko's father's handwriting is for Ananda Ditto my son. Handoko's father instead gave the book to me not to Ditto because Ditto left so he would not connect this book to Ditto.

The last time I communicated with Handoko's father.

"Dad, Zara was no longer able to with Ditto, Zara gave up Dad, Zara had tried her best to carry out her father's mandate when Zara married Ditto, Dad left Ditto to me, pay attention to his behavior, he said, pay attention to his association, pay attention to his prayer. Ask Ditto to be a better person. I'll leave Ditto with you. But now Zara can't fulfill Dad's wish. Sorry Zara's dad."

Last I heard from Handoko's father was sick, now loss contact I don't know how.

I understand that we cannot change the nature of others. What we must change is our own nature and behavior, if it can not be together for what is maintained. Because maybe God's destiny also requires that I and Ditto separate.