God's Choice of Mate

Marriage certificate.

The sun shines bright and bright, the sky is bright and clean. The morning air that feels cool and warm as if welcoming happiness will procession ijab qabul to be held soon.Today will be held a marriage contract between Kak Rafa and my best friend Wirda,a very important event that is sacred as well as the most thrilling in the wedding process for both. Where, the wait that Kak Rafa and Wirda will look forward to will finally be realized as well, namely bearing the legal status as a married couple that is their goal.

In a moment, two different hearts will be adrift and bound in one promise, a promise that will change all sets of worship to extraordinary.The sacred promise that will be uttered by Kak Rafa and Wirda, the, to link their hearts together in the service of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. In Muslim marriage, the marriage contract becomes one of the processions that are considered sacred and compulsory. Where the bridegroom will say a sacred promise in the presence of the guardian and witnesses to live with a loved one. And to welcome this procession, Rafa and Wirda decided to wear white clothes that symbolize purity, as well as the sacred promises they will pledge.

I looked at Wirda who was preparing to wear a kebaya studded with lace and sequins with a semi-shanghai collar, and a thick furing.

The white color kebaya worn by Wirda seems simpler but looks elegant when worn. Wirda looks charming with a hijab that covers his head. With makeup that is not excessive, but the cool aura of Wirda remains cool and beautiful to be seen by the eye.

Wirda held my fingers tightly, I felt her palm cold with tension.

"Hopefully the procession of marriage contract today goes smoothly yes Wir, so that Kak Rafa and you are able to live a new life as a married couple mahram, " my words floated a do'a to Wirda to remove her tension.

"Aamiin Ya rabbal 'alamiin. Thank you Ran, " said Wirda while smiling at me.

I, Bik Siti, Bik Inah and Kak Aisyah accompanied Wirda in her room, when the marriage contract will take place.Wirda was not presented at the marriage contract assembly in front of the penghulu, who was not present, because when reading the kabul ijab only needed the groom and guardian or the parents of the groom and also to avoid there is a possibility of contact with the non-mahramnya,because generally the marriage contract assembly is attended by many men who are not mahramnya, including KUA officials.

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In order for the atmosphere of the marriage contract to become more solemn, then in the arrangement of the marriage contract at the residence of the house of Wirda performed the reading of the holy verse of the Qur'an by a Fariz Ustad. He did indeed shrewdly chant the holy verse of the Qur'an in a melodious voice and make the one who was listening tremble his heart. And that includes myself.

The Quranic verse read by Ustad Fariz when the marriage contract was related to marriage and marriage. Intentionally Ustad Fariz chose a letter in the Qur'an relating to a mate or marriage with the aim to emphasize that marriage is a worship that is required by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and remind Kak Rafa and Wirda to carry out the wedding service as well as possible.

Ustad Fariz began reading ta'awuz and then basmallah, which he continued by chanting

Al-Qu'ran letter of An-Nisa verse 1.

" Yes ayyuhan-nasuttaqu rabbakumul-lazi khalaqakum min nafsiw wahidatiw wa khalaqa minha zaujaha wa bassa minhuma rijalan kasiraw wa nisa'a, wattaqullahal-lazi tasa'aluna bihi wal-arham, innallaha kana ‘alaikum raqiba.

Meaning: O man, fear your Lord who created you from one self (Adam) and He created from it his spouse (Eve). From both, God bred many men and women. Be afraid of Allah for whom you ask each other and (maintain) family relations. Verily Allah is ever watchful and watchful over you."

Then proceed with chanting the letter of Ar-ruum verse 21;

"Wa min ayatihi an khalaqa lakum min anfusikum azwajal litaskunu ilaiha wa jala bainakum mawaddataw wa rahmah, inna fi zalika la'ayatil liqaumiy yatafakkarun.

Meaning: Among His signs (greatness) is that He created pairs for you of (kind) yourself so that you would feel at ease with him. He makes among you love and affection. Verily in this are signs (of the greatness of God) for the people who think."

And again reciting the letter of An-Nisa which is 34-35;

"Ar-rijalu qawwamuna ‘alan-nisa'i bima faddallahu ba dahum ‘ala bala badaw wa bima anfaqu min amwalihim, fas-salihatu qanitatun hafizatul lil-gaibi bima hafizallah, wal-lati takhafuna nusyuzahunna fa ‘izuhunna wahjuruhunna fil-mada wadribunn, fa in ata nakumfala tabgu ‘alaihinna sabila, innallaha kana ‘aliyyan kabira.

Meaning: Men (husbands) are responsible for women (wives) because God has overestimated some of them (men) over others (women) and because they (men) have forgiven part of his treasure. Pious women are those who obey (to Allah) and take care of themselves when (husbands) do not exist because Allah has taken care of (them). The women you fear will nusyuz, give them advice, leave them in bed (break the bed), and (if necessary) beat them (in a painless way). But if they obey you, do not seek a way to trouble them. Verily Allah is Most High, Most High."

"Wa in khiftum syiqa bainihima fabasu hakamam min ahlihi wa hakamam min ahliha, iy yurida islahay yuwaffiqillahu bainahuma, innallaha kana ‘aliman khabira.

Meaning: If you (the guardians) are worried about a dispute between the two, send a peacemaker from a male family and a peacemaker from a female family. If they both intend to do islah (peace), Allah will inform them of both. Verily, Allah is All-Knowing, All-Meticulous."

And lastly Ustad Fariz recited the holy verse of the Quran Letter of At-Tahrim Verse 6:

"Ya ayyuhal-lazina amanu qu anfusakum wa ahlikum naraw waqakasan-nasu wal-hijaratu ‘alaiha mala'ikatun crazyzun syidadul la sunallaha ma anger wa wa wa yafaluna ma yu'marun.

What it means: O you who believe, guard yourselves and your families from the fires of hell whose fuel is man and stone. His guardians were harsh and harsh angels. They do not disobey Allah with what He commands and always do what He commands."

I who was in the room accompanied Wirda, was so astonished to hear the chanting for the chant of the holy verses of the Quran recited by Ustad Fariz, who said, his beautiful voice in reciting the holy verse of the Quran calms my mind and mind and makes my love for Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala stronger.

"Rabbighfir warham wa anta khairur rahimin.Yes my Lord, forgive me and love me, You are the best of the Deity of the Loving One, "I said softly.

After Ustad Fariz finished chanting the holy verse of the Quran, it is time for the presentation of the wedding sermon delivered directly by Abi. The purpose of the wedding sermon is as a reminder and provision of both brides for the importance of maintaining the integrity of the household and also is one form of our request to God so that the wedding to be implemented can be done launched by Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala.

First Abi read hamdalah, Istighhfar, pleading for protection to Allah, and shahada.

"Alhamdulilahilladzi khalaqa minal ma`i baseraran faja’alahu nasaban wa shihran wa kana Rabbuka qadiran. Wa asyhadu al la ilaha illallah wahdahu la syarika. Wa asyhadu anna Muhammadan ‘abduhu wa rasulahu. Allahumma shalli ‘ala sayyidina Muhammadin afdlalul khalqi wal wara wa ‘ala alihi wa shahbihi shalaman wa salaman katsiran.All praise be to Allah who has created man from a speck of water, then He made him a descendant and kinship, and your Lord is All-Powerful. And I testify that there is no God (who has the right to be worshipped) but Allah, the Most Merciful, no ally to Him. And I testify that the Prophet Muhammad is His servant and messenger. O Allah, bestow upon us the mercy of Ta’dhim and the welfare of our Prophet Muhammad, especially the creation of creatures and of his family and friends with the abundance of mercy of ta'dhim and abundant welfare. "

Then, followed the recitation of the holy verses of the Quran by Abi.

Surah Ali ‘Imran [3]: 102

"Ya ayyuhal-lazina aamanuttaqullaha haqqa tuqatihi wa la tamutunna illala wa antum muslimun.

It means: O you who believe, fear Allah with full fear of Him and do not die except in a Muslim state."

Then, Abi continued reading Surah Al-Ahzab [33]: verses 70-71.

"Yes ayyuhal-lazina amanuttaqullaha wa qulu qaulan sadida.

O you who believe, fear Allah and speak the truth."

"Yuslih lakum aka yagfir lakum wa yagfir lakum zunubakum, wa may yuti lahla wa rasulahu faqad faza fauzan ‘azima.

He (God) will correct your deeds and forgive your sins. He who obeys Allah and His Messenger, verily, wins with a great victory."

"Amma ba’du. Fa ya ayyuhal hadlirun, ushikum wa nafsi bi taqwallah faqad fazal muttaqun. Let us continue to increase our fear of God. Allah says: O people, We created you from a man and a woman and made you nations and tribes so that you may know one another. Verily, the noblest among you, by Allah, is the most pious among you.

Marriage means an agreement that legalizes the relationship between a man and a woman who is not mahramnya to give rise to rights and obligations between the two, by using lafadz inkah or tazwij .

The Marital Code is in fact a great promise before the Supreme Being, which must be accounted for. So let this great promise we hold fast. A man feels imperfect life before a wife, as well as a woman feels incomplete life before marriage.

My son Rafa, soon you will answer the qobul, answer kobul is easy to say in oral but heavy on the weigh. The marriage contract other than as a bond between a man and a woman is also a transfer of the mandate of a guardian to a prospective husband.Mandated is his daughter to be your wife, he said, ananda Wirda, daughter of Mr. Akmal. Accept the mandate with full awareness and responsibility, because every husband is in addition to being responsible for himself is also responsible for his family.

Fear your heart for Allah in the affairs of women because they live under your responsibility, and you marry them based on the mandate of Allah subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

Once men and women have been bound in the name of God in a marriage, each of them has rights and obligations that must be fulfilled and carried out.

That is, where the husband is obliged to fulfill his responsibilities to his family and children, among which the most important thing is to take care of them properly. The wife is also required to obey her husband and organize her household.

Each of the husband and wife bear the responsibility for the success of their marriage to get the pleasure of Allah subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. If each is more concerned and performs his duties towards his spouse than demands his rights alone, God willing, the harmony and happiness of their lives will last until the end of the day.

The ideal household is one whose husband's wife and future offspring become Qurrota A’yun a pleasant, impressive, personal figure, give the best to the wife or husband even though he does not give the best to us.House will be more blessed if in the house it is done many circumcisions taught by the Prophet Shallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Al-Qur'an Surat Ar-rum verse 21 which reads;Wa min ayatihi an khalaqa lakum min anfusikum azwajal litaskunu ilaiha wa jaha bainakum mawaddataw wa rahmah, inna fi zalika la'ayatil liqaumiy yatafakkarun.

Meaning: Among His signs (greatness) is that He created pairs for you of (kind) yourself so that you would feel at ease with him. He makes among you love and affection. Verily in this are signs (of the greatness of Allah) for the thinking people.

Where in the letter gives an overview of the ideal family it is, when in the middle of the family created sakinah mawadah warohmah.Sakinah interpreted serenely while mawaddah means love which is marked by a sense of love that is manifested to give each other. While warohmah means tangible love willing to accept each other's shortcomings. Thus the sermon that I say, may Allah subhanahu Wa Ta'ala always guide us, so that in traveling this life always obey His commands and avoid His prohibitions. And may the marriage of the two brides, may the pleasure of Allah subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, and be endowed by Him, and the two be united in goodness, Aamiin ya robbal'alamiin. "

After Abi has finished delivering the sermon of marriage, then arrived at the core of the arrangement of the wedding contract event that is ijab qobul.Kak Rafa sat opposite the ruler, Om Akmal, guardian, and, the marriage witness consists of two witnesses who sit beside the left and right sides,to watch the marriage contract procession take place as well as several invited guests from the closest family members of each of the two family parties. Rafa's sister will be ready to take the oath and wedding vows.Wirda who is near me becomes increasingly tense and anxious as well.

The reading of ijab qabul is the most stressful phase in the marriage contract event. Because here, the groom, according to Imam Shafi’i, if he makes a mistake in pronunciation, he only gets a maximum of 4 times the opportunity to repeat it. And if more than that, inevitably will have to be replaced to another day.That's what makes Kak Rafa and Wirda become very tense and a little afraid of mixed worries.

Pengupulu then guided Rafa to read some prayer readings, such as the sentence istighfar, two sentences of the creed, and also the prayer before reciting ijab qabul.

Sis Rafa sat with a tense but happy feeling, where his lips followed every remark said by Mr. Penghulu, where slowly the tension in his heart began to subside.

After that, Rafa will prepare to read the qabul ijab. Where Kak Rafa and Om Akmal hold each other's right hand as a sign of the process of handover or agreement.the situation becomes silent and everyone feels the tension to listen and watch the sacred procession. The reading of the kabul ijab begins with Om Akmal who reads the ijab in accordance with the existing provisions.

"Bismillaahirrahmaanirrahiim, by invoking the grace and blessing of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. Brother Rafasya Syarfan Imandar I married and I marry you with my daughter Wirdawati Oktarinto with a dowry of one hundred million rupiah paid in cash, "said Om Akmal who did his own word of ijab.

After that, followed by the recitation of kabul or receipt from men by Kak Rafa.

"I accept the marriage and marriage of Wirdawati Oktarinto bint Akmal Oktarinto with the dowry paid in cash, "say qabul Kak Rafa.

Then the reading of the qabul is complete, the ruler asks the witness for the validity of the qabul ijab that has been carried out.

" How is the witness, legitimate?, "asked the ruler while looking at the two witnesses.

And sound of voice.

" legitimate. "

"Well, "

"Well." Right."

"Alhamdulilbaobbilalamin.Barakallahu laka wa baraka ‘alaika wa jamaa bainakuma fi khairin. May Allah bless you in joy and sorrow and may Allah gather you both in goodness. I hereby declare that Rafasya's brother Syarfan Imandar and Wirdawati Oktarinto's sister are official and have become a couple, " said pak penghulu.

"Alhamdulillah, "said everyone gratefully happy.

After Rafa finished saying Ijab kabul.Tante Warti and Ummah brought Wirda out of his room.I, Kak Aisyah, Bik Siti and Bik Inah followed from behind, then we sat near the other guests. While Ummah and Aunt Warti led Wirda to sit next to Rafa, because they were both already a legitimate and halal couple. However, before Wirda sat down. Rafa stood up and looked at Wirda and held Wirda's hand and

kissing his forehead, then Kak Rafa holds the head or crown Wirda while praying blessings for Wirda. While rubbing, Rafa also read the following prayer:

"Allahumma inni as'aluka min khoirihaa wa khoirimaa jabaltahaa 'alaih. Wa a'udhu bika min syarri hana wa syarri maa jabaltaha 'alaih.Yes Allah, I ask You for the good of himself and the good that You determine over him. And I take refuge in Thee from his ugliness and the ugliness which Thou hast set upon him."

Wirda smiled brightly Kak Rafa, and they both sat together to listen to the do'a to be read by Pak Penghulu.

After the ijab qabul is spoken, the pengulu will recite the prayer of the marriage contract.

"Bismilohmanirohim .Allif bainahuma kama allafta baina Adam wa Hawwa, wa allif bainahuma kama allafta baina sayyidina Ibrahim wa Sarah, wa allif bainahuma kama allafta baina sayyidina Yusuf wa Zulaikha, wa allif bainahuma kama allafta baina sayyidina Muhammadin shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallama wa sayyidatina Khadijatal kubra, wa allif bainahuma kama allafta baina sayyidina ‘Aly wa sayyidatina Fatimah az-Zahra.

Allahummaj’al hadzal ‘aqda ‘aqdan mubarakan ma’shuman wa alqi bainahuma ulfatan wa qararan daiman wa la taj’al bainahuma firqatan wa firaran wa khishaman wakfihima mu’natad dunya wal afterlife.

O Allah, recompense them both as You recompense the Prophets Adama and Eve, recite them as You recompense the Prophets Abraham and Sarah, and recite them as You recite the prophets Joseph and Zulaikha, get along with both as You get along with His Majesty Muhammad Shallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallama and Khadijah Al-Kubra, and get along with both as You get along with Ali and Fatima Az-Zahra.

O Allah, make this contract a blessed and protected bond, instill in them a lasting harmony and resolve, do not make between them division, separation and enmity, and suffice both of them to live in the world and the hereafter.Aamiin ya robbal'alamiin, "said pak penghulu.

After Rafa and Wirda were declared legal as husband and wife according to religion after jab qabul, now is the time for both of them to sign the marriage book as one of the important documents so that it is not only legal in the eyes of religion but also legal in the eyes of the law and the state.

Then, after the signing of the marriage book document, it is time for Kak Rafa to hand over the dowry to Wirda. The dowry is symbolically handed over in nominal form of money.

After the handover of the dowry takes place, Rafa and Wirda will be welcome to pair the wedding ring on the ring finger of each partner. Because in Islam men are prohibited from using jewelry made of gold. Then the ring for Kak Rafa can be replaced with palladium material.

After that, each of the parents of Kak Rafa and Wirda gave each other marriage advice that contains about the obligations and rights of husband and wife in the household, namely,both in covering things that can and should not be done as a married couple.Kak Rafa and Wirda were solemn to listen to the advice of each of their parents. And after everything is done, it is time for the penghulu to close the wedding ceremony procession with prayer.

"It has become a provision of God to create people in pairs to know each other. And when his soul mate arrives, the kabul ijab will be spoken by the groom accompanied by a dowry as a sign of love and responsibility from the groom to the bride.

May Allah grant you blessings and bestow upon you blessings.

Baarakallahu laka wa baarakaa alaika wa jamaa bainakumaa fii khoir.May Allah bless you, both in joy and sorrow and always gather you both in kindness.And

may Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala bless you both in good times and in hard times, and gather you both in kindness" said Pak Penghulu.

"Aamiin ya rabbal'alamiin, " said everyone.

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Rafa and Wirda were photographed together, they looked harmonious with happy laughter wrapped in their parachutes.

Bik Siti and I shed tears of happiness looking at my best friend Wirda is now officially the wife of Kak Rafa as well as being the daughter-in-law of the Imandar family.