Holy Prison

PS2. 5 – Advice Before Getting Married

At the dinner table, my mother kept smiling at me. His face was so happy to see me. This made me recall our conversation two days ago before I had my wedding. The conversation took place in my room and it was just the two of us.

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“My boy?” call Mama.

Knowing Mama's presence, I'm very happy, “Iya, Mama?” my many.

“How do you feel, Son?” ask Mama.

“Contact, Ma. Honestly, Nindy did not understand what Nindy was feeling. It feels like all the flavors gathered together into one inside here.” I said honestly, while holding my chest.

Mama smiled, “That's normal, son. Mamapun used to feel the same way.” said Mama.

“So, like this was what it was like when Mama was about to marry Papa?” my many.

Mama nodded. He rubbed my hair, “Mommy's son is already big.” Mama said.

A tear fell on Mama's cheek. I hurried and hugged him. In that embrace, my mind wandered to many places. I thought about what it would feel like if I couldn't get close to Mama anymore, it wouldn't be this free to meet and hug Mama, and all the other things.

“Excuse me, Nindy, Mama.” I said.

Mama rubbed my back. “What's the apology for, son? Already, do not apologize yes.” said Mama.

Mama let go of her embrace.

“Beautiful son Mama, will get married tomorrow. Happy mama. What else would be a daughter-in-law like Gus Faiz.” Mama said with a smile.

I nodded, and smiled shyly. "Thank you for everything, Ma." I said.

“Mama is happy to see her son married to the person she loves. You've loved her for a long time, haven't you?” mama said, she teased me.

“How does Mama know?” ask Mama.

“Mama is your mother, son. Mama knows how you feel just by looking at your eyes.” Mama said.

I just kept quiet, trying to listen to Mama's next sentence.

“Then, 4 years ago, in the hospital, Mama saw a different look from you at her. The gaze that as long as Mama knows you can not give to anyone other than him.” said Mama.

I smile shyly.

“Justice?” ask Mama.

I'm nodding. “I am so grateful to be reunited with someone like him, Ma.” I said.

“Mama is sure, if she can make you happy.” Mama said.

“Thank you, Mama.” I said.

“By pleasure, Dear.” Mama said.

“Mama, can Nindy ask you something?” my many.

“Of course. Ask as many as you want.” Mama said.

“Is Mama not mad at me about my decision?” my many.

“Why be angry?” ask Mama.

“Nindy thought of this, Nindy just graduated, not yet able to give happiness to Mama and Papa, but despite knowing that, Nindy selfishly still accepted the proposal Gus Faiz.”

It does run in the heart. Although I am very happy to be married to Gus Faiz. However, at what part of my heart asked the selfishness of my decision. I just got out of the cottage, haven't gotten a job or made my family happy but tomorrow I have to get married.

“You're not selfish, son. This is the way. Anyway with you agreeing to Gus Faiz's proposal, makes Mama and Papa very happy. It was the most beautiful gift we received. What is happier than being happy with your best friend?” ask Mama.

“Mama..” I said. I can't speak anymore. I hugged Mama. It was comfortable to be in his arms.

“Before, before Mama married your Papa, Mama got 10 messages from your grandmother so that the marriage could be happy. It doesn't feel like just yesterday Mama got the seizure, and now it's Mama's turn to give away to the child Mama.” said Mama.

“What is it, Mama?” my many.

“You probably already know what you're going to say. However, Mama hopes you want to hear and remember.” said Mama.

I nodded steadily. “Of course, Mama. God willing, Nindy will always remember the message from Mama.” I said.

“Alright, Mama started yes, first, after marriage later, be a submissive wife. Follow your husband.” said Mama.

I'm nodding.

I'm nodding.

“Three, less-reduced traveling or going with friends. Honestly, Mama used to forget this advice. Mama is very sorry, what else because of frequent travel, Mama forgets Mama's children. Don't be like Mama, son. Take good care of your children.” said Mama. My mother's face was very sad.

“Mama, already, Mama no longer remember the past. For Mama's children, Mama is still the best mother for us.” I said.

Mama kissed my cheek.

“Mama is very lucky to have a child as good as you.” Mama said. “The fourth, if you want to go or go anywhere must be permission to the husband.” continued Mama.

I've heard a talk about this, but still I really want to listen to what Mama says.

“Good, Ma. I will not travel without permission from my husband.” I said.

I realized I said my husband. Making my cheeks instantly hot, I'm sure my face is already red like a tomato at the moment.

Mom smiled and continued. “Who now?” mama said while chuckling.

“The fourth, Ma.” I said.

"Fourth, do not be happy in the grief of your husband, nor be troubled over the happiness of your husband" said Mama.

I nodded again

“The fifth, say good. You must not be rude to either your husband or your friends or neighbors. Speak well, choose good sentences or words. When the time comes you are so eager to curse, be quiet. Silence is better than saying bad words.” Mama said.

I'm nodding.

“The sixth, welcome the husband after work. Smile when your husband comes. Make your home before your husband comes home. Take good care of your body. Greet your husband in good clothes too" said Mama

I nodded again

“Yang seventh, keep the disgrace of husband and family disgrace. In the world of marriage, we cannot deny that problems will inevitably occur. Well, Mama advised not once in a while you badmouth your husband to others huh. Especially to create a status on social media. Mama saw lately that people like to open the disgrace of their husband and family on social media, seriously, not only one person knows, but the whole world knows.” said Mama.

I nodded again.

“Yang eighth, never talk about bed business to others.” Mama said.

I'm nodding.

“The ninth, watch your appearance before your husband. Always look clean, fragrant, and dress up. Don't let your husband come you stink and musty.”

“Dare, Ma?” my many.

My mind floated on the question of whether I should dress up like someone who wants to go.

“It's not like you went the condangan ya. Hahaha.” Mama said as if she could read my mind.

“Then like what, Ma?” my many.

“If you dress up full make up every day your face is spotty. Natural makeup is important do not just plain and I just peel your face.” said Mama.

I'm nodding. Justifying all of Mama's words.

“Then the last one, arrange finances well, do not wasteful.” said Mama.

I nodded too. “Thank you, Mama.” I said kiss and hug Mama.

Mama hugged me back.

Hearing 10 messages from Mama, I remembered Umi. Back in the cottage, when I visited his house. He told a story about the contents of the will of Umamah bint Al-Harith for his beloved daughter on her wedding day. The advice is 10. This advice is advice for a happy marriage. The content contained in it is more or less like Mama mentioned. My mind went back to that moment.

“What is the contents of the will, Umi?” I asked Umi at the time.

“First and second, relax live with him with qana’ah nature (feel enough) and hang out with him with a good listening attitude and full of obedience.”

“Third and fourth, take good care of everything that does not please his sight and all the scents that do not suck his nose. So do not let his gaze glance at something unpleasant from you and do not let him smell something from you except with a good aroma.”

“Fifth and sixth, keep well the bedtime and feeding time. Because prolonged hunger is something that makes emotions and disruption of sleep is something that can arouse anger.”

“Seventh and eighth, keeping both his property and maintaining his honor and family. The key to success in maintaining the treasure is to properly medium arrangement on the family with good caregiving.”

“And last, ninth and tenth. Do not defy him, and do not spread his secret. For if you disobey his commandment, it will surely make his heart sumpel. And if you spread his secret then you will not be safe from his infidelity."

I memorized these ten pieces of advice well.

I'm so lucky to have Mama and Umi. I want to be a wife like them. I hope I can live up to all of Mama and Umi's messages at my wedding. And can be a sakinah family, mawadah, wa rahmah.