MY HEART DOCTOR

Abi's Advice

With his heart still in control of emotions, Ryan went down to the dining room.

In the room, the family sat on their seats.

"Assalamualaikum" said Ryan when he arrived at the dinner table. Ryan immediately kissed the cheeks of ummi and her abi.

"Greetings" they answered simultaneously.

"Nih eat first." said Ummi while giving squtu burgo plate to Ryan.

"Thank you" said Ryan.

"Where's your wife, son?" Ask ummi.

"Emm she's still above ummi." replied Ryan.

Ummi Hanye nodded and smiled, but her eyes looked at Ryan's hands especially in the handbooks.

Without much question Ummi moved and walked towards one of the cabinets that were in the dining room. Ummi took the P3K Box, not to forget ummi also took a small basin and poured oanas water and mixed with cold water until the water felt warm and did not forget also a small towel.

Arriving at the dining table, Ummi sat next to the child.

"Here let ummi compress and treat first." said ummi while taking the injured hand Ryan.

"Morning boxing training om?" chirping Baiq, Ryan just nodded and smiled.

"No need to ummi" said Ryan by holding the hands of the ummi who gave birth to him.

"Later Ryan treat in the hospital." added Ryan, ummi shook her head and pulled Ryan's hand back.

"Don't argue, at least let ummi compress and love the wound ointment" Mimi said as she began compressing the wounds in Ryan's handbook, after being compressed by warm water, ummi returned to compress with alcohol.

"Hissst" said Ryan, as alcohol inflicted its wounds.

The pain in the wound was not much, but his heartache in the attitude of Di'ah was very piercing even slicing his small heart.

"Other times multiply istighfar son, do not follow lust. Controo your emotions with a lot of istighfar so as not to hurt yourself" said ummi with words of advice.

"Yes ummi, I'm sorry Ryan." replied Ryan.

"Son" call Abi.

"Yes Bi." Answer Ryan.

"Ammi, grandfather, Baiq is ready. Baiq left for school first." said Baiq as he moved from the chair and swgera approached ummi and abi to shake hands, not forgetting to his two om also in his salami.

"Ohx yes Iq, magtic don't wear right?" ryan asked when Good was in pain.

"Ndak om, did Baiq pack moge om Ryan hehehehe" Baiq replied by rolling one eye.

"Where's matic key?" ask Ryan back.

"It's in the front bofet, do you want to wear matic to go to work?" baiq.

"Ndak, om work by car. That's for Aunt Di'ah." said Ryan.

"Oo giru, yes the key in the front bofet, Baiq left first. Assalamualaikum." said Baiq.

"Greetings waalaikum" replied ryan and the others.

"Student learning." Ryan continued by wiping his nephew's head.

"Siiiip is." Baiq replied by brandishing his two thumbs.

After Baiq left for school, Abi went back to talking to Ryan.

"Where are you going? why don't you just go with him." Ask Abi.

"Yes, where are you going?" sahut ummi's.

"Emm Ryan wants to go to Bi's hospital, it just so happens that these two three days there are many patients who have been scheduled for surgery." Ryan replied, Abi just nodded.

"Nah yesterday Ryan went to the hospital and met umma. Umma asked for help Rendi to memghandle patients who have been scheduled by doctors who handle patients before."

"Where's the doctor handling it, son?" tanya ummi is on the sidelines bandaging Ryan's wounds.

"Two doctors previously were there seminars and counseling in bali and in Jakarta. One of them is taking the Ummi exam in Singapore." replied Ryan.

"So the surgeon only has Rendi, so umma asked Ryan for help as well as Rendi ummi, Abi." said Ryan.

"Oo if so do the umma mandate well, son. Without him maybe abi can't send you this high abroad anyway."

"Butting your responsibilities well, not only your responsibilities at work but your responsibilities as a child and husband" Abi added.

"Yes, God willing." replied Ryan

"Do you know that your responsibilities as a husband are also your obligations as a husband to your wife?" ask Abi.

"Ryan knows Bi." replied Ryan lowered his head.

"If you forget, Abi will remind you."

"According to Imam Al-Ghazali in his book entitled Al-Adab fid Din in Majmu’ah Rasail, Imam Ghazali (Kaira, Al-Maktabah At-Taufiqiyyah, palam 442) explained about the husband's relationship with his wife, which reads as follows:

“Adab husband against Wife, namely: interact well, speak soft words, show love, be airy when alone, not too often question mistakes, forgive if the wife does wrong.

Then also take care of the wife's property, do not argue much, spend money on the needs of the wife in an immoral (pelit), glorify the wife's family, always give good promises, and always be excited about the wife.”

"There are also some obligations of the husband to the wife according to the Islamic religion that you must fulfill, among others:

Giving Mahar

You need to understand that dowry is not just a valid condition of marriage. But also a form of fulfilling your obligation as a husband to a wife for the first time, no matter how nominal.

Giving a Halal Lent

Lent is the right of the wife that must be fulfilled by her husband.

You need to remember that in the household, the survival of your wife and children will be on your shoulders. The obligation to give a sufficient living and give your family a halal living.

Raising the Wife Well

In addition to the fulfillment of a living by birth, the wife is also entitled to be fulfilled the needs of her inner and also outward or sexual.

Showing Sincere Compassion

Establish good communication with your wife, avoid speaking in an intimidating way that seems to rule over each other. Never speak in such a high tone to your wife, son. Especially to let out harsh words and hurt his heart.

Love him your love is as sincere as your heart.

Honoring Wife

Honour your wife as you respect the ummi, listen to your wife's words well, respect her every opinion, carry out her orders, and also keep the good name of the wife in front of the family and others.

Respecting Wife Family

Respect the family of the wife, glorify her family, especially her parents, as you respect abi and ummi

Guarding Aib Wife

This is what matters, son, you as a husband are priests in the family and your obligation to your wife is the main thing is to guide the wife and family to always obey the commands of Allah SWT and avoid all restrictions.

Abi is proud that you allowed your wife to continue studying at this time. But also, give and help him to learn in various good things, and teach good religious knowledge because it is also very useful for him which he will become a mother, which is his madrasa for your children later.

Forgive the Wife's Mistakes

It is also your duty, if your wife makes a mistake and she realizes and apologizes to you then forgive.

Although he has not realized his mistake, forgive him son because by forgiving will keep the husband and wife relationship from feelings of resentment that can lead to cracks in the household. In addition, it is filled with good communication. Not to repeat the same mistake later.

Not Stingy Against Wife

Do not count if you want to give a living to your wife for household needs. Everything is for the family too.

Being a Good Family Head

Allah SWT views men as the protectors of the family stated in the Quran of An-Nisa, verse 34:

Meaning:

“The man is the leader of the women, because God has exaggerated some of them (men) over others (women), and because they (men) have given up some of their possessions.” (An-Nisa’ Letter verse 34).

Serving Wives

In the house of Tabgga it is not only the wife who has to serve the husband. But the husband must also be able to serve the wife so that the husband and wife relationship is in harmony and always intertwined in the household.

Fulfilling Wife's Wish

The next obligation of the husband to the wife is to fulfill all the wishes of the wife. As long as the wife's desire does not burden the husband or contradict the teachings of religion, then the husband is obliged to fulfill it well and sincerely.

Not Suspicious of Wife

Apply mutual trust because it is a very important foundation in married life so that your household is durable and lasting.

Guarding the Wife's Treasure

This is also an obligation, son. Take care of his treasure even if it is obtained from you.

What else is a treasure of itself. Like now he works too even though you have given him a living and he saved some of your living.

If at any time you need money or any fees but you don't have a penny, then if you need it, then, come to your wife and tell her that you are in need and intend to use your wife's rights or savings.

Even if you as a husband feel you have full rights to your wife's property, then wqjib for you has permission from her.

The sovereignty of women over the ownership of this property has been clearly stated in the command of the Quran in Surat An-Nisa’ verse 4 regarding the obligation to grant dowry by a husband to his wife.

Meaning:

“Give mascawin (mahar) to women (whom you marry) as a gift with utter willingness. Then if they give you a portion of the makawin happily, then eat (take) the gift (as food) that is tasty again good as a result.” (An-Nisa’ Letter verse 4).

Saying Soft Words to Wife

As tang abi said, self-talk is not yet communicating in a good and gentle way that will make your relationship and wife become more harmonious.

As explained in the verse:

(Fa bimaa rohmatim minallahi lingta lahum, although kunta fazhzhon gholiizhol-qolbi langfadhdhuu min haulika fa’fu ‘an-hum wastaghfir lahum wa syaawir-hum fil-amr, fa izaa ‘azamta fa tawakkal ‘alalloh, fa, innalloha yuhibbul-mutawakkili.)

Meaning:

“Then thanks to the grace of Allah you (Muhammad) were gentle with them. If you are hard-hearted and rude, they should stay away from your surroundings. Forgive them and ask forgiveness for them, and make war with them in this matter. Then, when you have resolved, trust in Allah. Verily, Allah loves the trusty.” (QS. Imran Ali: 159).

Giving a Good Promise

If you are not able at this time then give an appointment to your wife but give a good promise to herself and your family.

Acting Awkward When Alone

The latter is also very important, but Abi believes that you can son because now you have lived.

But later if you and your wife are united, Abi means no longer LDR. Then do not leave the independent attitude that you have lived before with him.

In that household, we need to stand shoulder to shoulder with each other. For example, in taking care of the household.

If your wife is cooking, at least help her at least make the bed or clean the house, whether it's sweeping or mopping.

Now so want an explanation of Abi about the obligations of the husband to the wife that you must fulfill and understand.

This Abi said aims that your household relationship is always well established and can bring you and your wife into a peaceful and close life with Allah SWT.

So that kid's some of the duties a husband has to a wife, okay?" said Abi.

"Understand Bi" replied Ryan.

"If you understand, let's say son." said Abi.

"Hmm Bi, not Ryan don't want to buy her what she wants Bi, it's all Ryan's been thinking." Ryan took his breath in.

"Not Ryan can't afford to buy him a car, but for what? whereas he didn't stay here for a while, if ei bought a mobio now what's the point? she doesn't wear it either."

"Ryan just thinks going forward, rather than buying a car better money to charge him while in LA, make the cost of living and college."

"If Ryan's book costs who else. Ryan's backing him to go to college again because science is important."

"Then Ryan did not want to comply with his wishes because he needed it. If the two don't go to college and live here, Ryan will fulfill his wish" Ryan said.

"Hemm so." Ryan nodded

"Then, talk carefully and give your wife an understanding" Abi said.

"Yes Bi, thanks for the advice. God willing Ryan will apply." said Ryan.

"Emm Bi, it's noon. Ryan left first." said Ryan while greeting both parents.

"Oh yes Mi, if Di'ah go down and just know the key to the bike Baiq." added

Ryan.

"Yes, be careful of work. You're saying the same thing Di'ah? ummi.

"So it's ummi, Ryqn left first. Assalamualaikum." said Ryan.

"Waalaikum salam." replied ummi and abi and Di'ah behind the wall.