MY HEART DOCTOR

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After the Dzuhur prayer, Mimi started her lunch with a menu of tofu chili and potato leaf kakap gulai.

When Mimi ate her phone ringing and the name of someone who means a lot in her life, Syahril contacted Mimi via video call.

"Assalamualaikum deck," he said there.

"Waalaikum salutations" replied Mimi with a sweet smile.

"Newly eating deck?" shahril asked when he saw Mimi taking gulai.

"Hehehe is yes, brother, you ate?" answer Mimi and ask back.

"Hmm nih want to eat too." replied Brother Syahril with a sweet smile.

"Yaudah let's eat together" invited Mimi who was sitting in front of the tv.

Mimi and Syahril eat together while telling stories, Mimi also tells what she did this morning without anyone being covered, immediately the look on the face of Brother Syahril is unsightly.

Syahril looked at Mimi with an unworn look, but Mimi had not noticed the change in Shahril's face, Mimi still continued to tell her what was natural this morning.

When Mimi did not hear the response from Syahril Mimi also dismissed the story and looked at the screen of her phone more precisely passing towards the face of Syahril who had already !enatap Mimi sharply.

"Big brother why?" mimi asked when she saw Syahril's face that was not wearing, Syahril did not answer.

"Kaak.." call Mimi.

"Hem." Shahril just cleared his throat.

"Sister why? did Mimi do anything wrong? if Mimi is wrong, say not to be quiet" Mimi replied.

"According to adek?" ask her coldly.

"Hmm Mimi no one made a mistake" Mimi replied.

"Oh that!!" shahril said still in a cold tone and Mimi just nodded.

Mimi still felt that she had done nothing wrong, because everything was told to Shahril, even every day they always told her what they were doing like this morning.

Syahril felt jealous when Mimi told him that her senior brother had Mimi ride in his car and drive to the market even his senior also followed him and brought groceries and drove Mimi home to the boarding house.

Syahril felt unwilling if Mimi walked with another man, even the man also knew the cost.

"Sister." call Mimi because Syahril didn't respond.

"Sister why? if Mimi's wrong Mimi apologizes." Mimi said again and Mimi !finish eating.

"Waste the food?" shahril said with a sharp look.

"Ndah has no taste." replied Mimi.

"Ench the food on the deck" he said a little high.

"Mimi was full." Mimi and Shahril answered, staring at Mimi.

"So why hah!! did Mimi make a mistake? kalaunkya said." said Mimi with a tremble holding back the cry.

"What about your own adek?" ask again.

"Mimi felt she had done nothing wrong, even what Mimi did in her days Mimi told her sister without Mimi covering her up from her sister" Mimi said.

"Who's the guy's name!?" Syahril.

"Where's man?" ask Mimi who doesn't understand.

"Lelaki who delivers shopping adek Denpasar dann!take me home." replied Syahril.

"She's a senior in the sibling's box" Mimi said.

"Whose name?" ask Syahril.

"his name.... Who are you." muttered Mimi forgot her senior name. Mimi never memorized the names she just knew, what else with her seniors even met while at the mosque.

Syahril was still waiting for an answer, while Mimi was still trying to remember her.

"No memory of my sister." Mimi replied with a smile and Syahril simply frowned her eyebrows.

"Sorry Mimi did not remember her name, acquaintances were also just yesterday" said Mimi.

"Jude, finish the food." Syahril softened, Syahril knew who and how Mimi, he would not remember or memorize someone's name if he did not!wants her.

"Mimi has no taste" replied Mimi, who had no taste.

"Get down the deck, remember the message of mamak and Umma..,

"sahril.

" Hmm yes." answered Mimi lethargic.

"Don't eat it" Syahril said.

"Hmm but you have to promise" Mimi said.

"What promise?" ask Syahril.

"Promise if Mimi has one brother says don't be guaranteed Mimi, Mimi will not know that Mimi is wrong if you don't know" said Mimi sadly.

"Hmm, eat the rice." said Syahril.

"Yes, I promise you" said Mimi.

"Yes, I promise, but I also have to promise to keep hagimadek for my brother" said Syahril.

"Yes, brother Mimi promised. Mimi's heart only makes her brother and sister unite us." said Mimi. " Unless." added Mimi.

"Except what?" shahril asked with a sharp look.

"Unless you have someone else there, unless you're dating someone else, Mimi will open your heart to someone else" Mimi said.

"Brother promises brother's heart and even brother's self only make one until death separates" said Syahril steadily and earnestly.

"Is that not enough deck? The life of brother oun will give brother to adek." he added again.

Mimi was moved by the earnest words of Shahril, who would not be moved by the promise of our dearly loved one, the one we love so much. But all is only God who determines the life of his people.

"Don't you promise me that, brother, because we don't know what it's going to look like. We don't know who our soul mate is going forward. Whether we are betrothed by Allah SWT or arranged through the intermediary of others" said Mimi.

We as humans can only try to live a relationship, choosing a partner who we think is good.

At first glance choosing a mate or life partner looks an easy job if only considering sexual desire.

However, if you think deeply about choosing a life partner or mate in this case husband and wife is not an easy job. Regarding the soul mate, Prophet Muhammad warned his people to be careful and not carelessly choose a life partner.

Narrated from Imam Ahmad that the Prophet said:

"Then choose a wife who is religious (Islamic) and ethical (good) so that both hands (yourselves) are safe. (HR Al Bazzar and Ibn Hibban).

The warning of the Prophet of the SAW aims that in marriage not only seek physical interests, but first pay attention to religious requirements. Because with his religion he can guide his mind and soul, be patient and realize his responsibility and right to take care of himself. After that, only pay attention to things that are physical and world (beauty, heredity and treasure).

As for the hadith about a mate or choose the ideal partner as taught by the Prophet SAW:

Trusty woman

مَا اسْتَفَادَ الْمُؤْمِنُ بَعْدَ تَقْوَى اللَّهِ خَيْرًا لَهُ مِنْ زَوْجَةٍ صَالِحَةٍ إِنْ أَمَرَهَا أَطَاعَتْهُ وَإِنْ نَظَرَ إِلَيْهَا سَرَّتْهُ وَإِنْ أَقْسَمَ عَلَيْهَا أَبَرَّتْهُ وَإِنْ غَابَ عَنْهَا نَصَحَتْهُ فِي نَفْسِهَا وَمَالِه

Meaning:

”There is no good luck for a believer after fearing Allah except to have a sholihah wife. Which when told, according and when viewed pleasingly, and when the promise is kept, and when left to go can take care of herself and her husband's property.” (CHR. Ibn Majah)

Well done

Before applying, it is necessary to examine the religion and its ethics in order to create a family that is sakinah, mawaddah, warahmah. The Prophet said:

عن أبي هريرة قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم : إذا أتاكم من ترضون خلقه و دينه فانكحوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد عريض . رواه الحاكم وقال هذا حديث صحيح الإسناد و لم يخرجاه

Choosing a life partner or mate needs to consider several things including religion and morality. (Photo: ist)

Penyabar and Fertile

The Prophet encouraged to choose a loving and fertile wife candidate.

تزوجوا الودود الولود فاني مكاثر بكم الأمم

Meaning: “Marry a loving and fertile woman! Because I'm proud of how many people I have.” (CHR. An Nasa’I and Abu Dawud)

 4. Good Religion

The Prophet asked SAW to choose a candidate for a good partner of his religion.

تنكح المرأة لأربع: لمالها ولحسبها وجمالها ولدينها، فاظفر بذات الدين تربت يداك

Meaning: “Women are usually married for four things: because of her property, because of her position, because of her face and because of her religion. So you must choose because of his religion (his Islam), because otherwise you will lose.” (CHR. Bukhari-Muslim)

The Independent Woman

Choose a spouse who is not married or married. In addition to being called the actor, marrying a married life partner who is married or married so as not to cause problems.

مَنْ أَرَادَ أَنْ يَلْقَى اللَّهَ طَاهِرًا مُطَهَّرًا فَلْيَتَزَوَّجْ الْحَرَائِرَ

“Whosoever wills Allah to be holy and sanctified, let him marry a free woman." (CHR. Imam ibn Majah)

Not Lying for Someone Else

أَنْ يَبِيعَ بَعْضُكُمْ عَلَى بَيْعِ بَعْضٍ وَلَا يَخْطُبَ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَتْرُكَ الْخَاطِبُ قَبْلَهُ أَوْ يَأْذَنَ لَهُ الْخَاطِبُ

That is: “Sesama mukmin is a brother, so for him it is not lawful to bid for goods that have been bid (bought) by his brother and not halal to ask for women who have been betrothed by his brother, he said, unless his brother has cancelled the proposal.” (Al Hadith Bukhari and Muslim History).

Slightly Expensive

The Prophet advocated to choose a wife whose dowry was not burdensome.

عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ عَنْ سَهْلِ بْنِ سَعْدٍ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ لِرَجُلٍ تَزَوَّجْ وَلَوْ بِخَاتَمٍ مِنْ حَدِيدٍ

From Abu Hazim of Sahl ibn Sad that; the prophet Shallallahu alaihi wasallam said to someone: "Marry even if the dowry is only with an iron ring." (CHR. Bukhari) [No. 5150 Fathul Bari] Shahid

Sholihah

The Prophet said that the world is jewelry and the best jewelry is the women of prayer. 

الدُّنْيَا مَتَاعٌ وَخَيْرُ مَتَاعِ الدُّنْيَاالْمَرْأَةُ الصَّالِحَة

“The world is a decoration, and the best decoration of the world is women Sholehah.” (H.R Muslims)

This sholihah woman should be given priority to be a wife because it will help her husband in all affairs, especially the afterlife.

Orgasmic Care

The Prophet taught that whoever marries a woman because of her prestige Allah will add insult to her (husband). Whoever marries a woman because of her property, Allah will increase her poverty. Whoever marries a woman because of her breed and her nasab, Allah will add humility to her. And whoever marries a woman with the intention of keeping an eye out of vices and adultery or connecting family relationships, God will bless her and her wife. (Sr Thabrani).

Marriage is a religious order. Therefore, Muslims who are already capable of both physical and economic well should get married immediately.

Allah SWT said:

وَاَنْكِحُوا الْاَيَامٰى مِنْكُمْ وَالصّٰلِحِيْنَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَاِمَاۤىِٕكُمْۗ اِنْ يَّكُوْنُوْا فُقَرَاۤءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللّٰهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهٖۗ وَاللّٰهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيْمٌ

"Take care of those who are alone among you, and those who are worthy (married) of your male and female servants of danger. If they are poor, God will empower them with His gifts. And Allah is All-Knowing (His Gift). (QS: An Nur:32)

Mufasir Ibn Kathir explained, the verse is an order to marry. Some scholars argue that everyone who is able to marry is obliged to do so. They hold to the outward meaning of the hadith of the Prophet which reads:

«يَا مَعْشَرَ الشَّبَابِ مَنِ اسْتَطَاعَ مِنْكُمُ الْبَاءَةَ فَلْيَتَزَوَّجْ وَمَنْ لَمْ يَسْتَطِعْ فَعَلَيْهِ بِالصَّوْمِ فَإِنَّهُ لَهُ وِجَاءٌ»

The Prophet said, "O young men, whoever of you has been able, he should marry, and whoever is not able, so he should fast, because the fast actually became a fortress for him.”

If seen from the above advice, Syahril is a prospective partner or prospective husband. People who at a young age have had income, the main driver.

But all of that cannot be denied if the so-called soul mate Allah SWT is the one who determines it.

The soul mate is one of the secrets of Allah SWT which is a big question for humans. The soul mate is a provision that has been set by Allah SWT written in the Mahfuz and is destined for its causes.

"God willing deck, we both pray with God that we are united in a sacred bond later, because I believe Mimi is the soul mate. Because Mimi is the dream girl of every Adam. Mimi has a sincere heart." said brother Syahril with all his praise of Mimi.

"Yes, same with my brother. Brother is the ideal priest. Candidate priests who are kind, loving and especially nurturing their partners. But later if we are not matchmaking Mimi hopes that her brother's soul mate is a good person as well." said Mimi.

"For a good brother and the best is someone" Syahril said with her nervousness.

"Heleh dreadful." replied Mimi.

"Well kok gombalmsih deck, adek will say that his brother is good. As the saying goes, a good woman or man will undoubtedly be met with a good one, and vice versa" said Syahril.

"Yes, brother, but in the process of searching alone there are those who argue that the soul mate is determined through effort and effort which the rest is left to Allah SWT." replied Mimi.

"Well therefore the deck, we both pray that the name of the city both have recorded their soul mate in the farul Mahfuz Allah SWT" said Syahril.

"Amin ya rabbal alamin" said Mimi.

"Amin ya rabbal alamin, I believe that the deck of the soul mate becomes a reflection of ourselves and will not be far from who we are today. Like HR. Bukhari and Muslim say:

الْأَرْوَاحُ جُنُودٌ مُجَنَّدَةٌ فَمَا تَعَارَفَ مِنْهَا ائْتَلَفَ وَمَا تَنَاكَرَ مِنْهَا اخْتَلَفَ

Meaning:

“The spirits are likened to soldiers who are in pairs, who know each other before will unite and who deny each other will quarrel.” (CHR. Bukhari and Muslim). " Sayahril said to me!read the hadith.

"God willing, brother, may we match. Although it is impossible for our soul mate there is still a test hehee." said Mimi jokingly.

"Who's a soul mate wants a National exam deck?" answer Brother Syahril.

"Yes, hahaa" said Mimi, laughing.

"Jaudah, let it go" said Brother Syahril.

"Well done, " answered Mimi by showing the plate that only fish bones.

"Even good to see if the meaning is a lot that, emm dekekmil first yes brother maun went to campus." said brother Syahril.

"Emm .." replied Mimi with a frown.

"No need to frown, later tonight we are satisfied" he said.

"Yaudah, miss u sister" said Mimi.

"Miss you to honey, assalamualaikum muaach" said brother Syahril pamit and ended with a kiss.

"Waalaikum salam muaach." replied Mimi with a blazing kiss from Syahril, the video call connection was interrupted and Mimi immediately went to the kitchen to put the dirty dishes all in her washing.

Kampus, Dillah and Bryan cold war.more precisely Bryan cold with Dillah.

Next in the next chapter.

--tbc-------