Let Me Choose

Initial procession

Arriving at Pekalongan around noon, Retno and Dr. Prabu welcomed the extended family Retno with joy, happiness so radiated from the faces of all the families who welcomed her.

The nuances of traditional and cultural parties that will be held so it feels all busy with their respective duties dr Prabu directly separated with Retno that afternoon as well. Retno entered her room which had more area than her usual room.

While Dr. Prabu was taken to his Pakde Retno home to be given the procedures that will be carried out processed by his marriage later. From the start of the pingitan there is a flush there is recitation until the wedding ceremony and the reception process takes place

All require gladiresik or exercise to get used to being flexible in time.

As a preparation procession in welcoming the wedding day, the celebration procession is carried out in the hope that the entire extended family and the bride-to-be who will carry out the deed are kept away from all obstacles and the whole event runs smoothly.

The family is busy starting the earliest procession that is to install the tratag and tarub. That's two days before the day H, which should be one day before the day H in because it will be so busy so the installation starts on the day min two.

Installation of tratag (decorated tents) and tarub (decoration of young leaves or palm leaves) displayed as decoration of this entrance indicates that the family is holding a ghost event. As for the yellow janur curved as the hope of blessing and prosperity for the two brides like asking for light to the Almighty.

Continue by placing the twins. This time, the ornament formed from a network of roots, stems, leaves, flowers, and fruit is believed to provide wisdom and motivation for both brides to live their new lives in a household. Usually, the leaves will be bent to a banana stem so that it resembles the shape of a mountain, keris, whip, umbrella, grasshopper, and bird.

Also put up tuwuhan. Tuwuhan which means these plants are placed in the flush place. You can also add fruits such as banana sets on each side as a hope that the bride will quickly get a baby.

Dr. Prabu was stunned to hear all the explanations of his Pakde Retno, so long all the procession that would be in his path.

"Sini Mas, as a man who will become the daughter-in-law of the Javanese, must follow the customs of our family here."

"Yes, Sirde."

"There is a flush, literally, a flush means a bath with water. In this ritual, there will be seven people who pour water on the bride. Later, the bride's father will complete the ritual that is symbolized as self-cleaning before carrying out the next ritual that is more sacred. In addition to the task of ending the flush, the father will also carry the bride to the bridal room."

"Am I not the only one who carries his bride-to-be Pakde?"

"Ish..saru it, this is a custom procession, if it is legal new her husband may, let alone the other sling may also do the doctor haaaa..."

It turns out that his Pakde Retno was happy to joke, inevitably dr. Prabu laughed too.

"Well here tomorrow will be held Adol dawet, both parents organize an event selling dawet as a dish to invited guests who have been present to watch the procession that has been running. However, the sale of this dawet is not paid with money, but with crews or pieces of clay pottery as a sign that the essence of life comes from the earth. Here, the mother will serve the buyers, while the father will protect the mother. What it means is to set an example to his children in the future that they should be working with each other in building a household."

"Yes I understand all of it meaningfully, sirde."

"Putting on with Cut Tumpeng. Tumpeng is a conical rice dish with various side dishes arranged around it on a round tray made of woven bamboo. In Javanese rituals, tumpeng is synonymous with the symbol of prosperity and well-being because its shape resembles a mountain. The procession of cutting the tumpeng will be done by the father and mother by taking the top of the tumpeng and side dishes."

"Yes, yes yes..."

"Don't be tired, you have to be tired first in everything and then we can enjoy the sweetness of the results of our struggle, right?"

"Yes Pakde, I will patiently follow all the processions from the beginning until I can say anything about the bride."

"Yes dong, the spirit of this is also equally meaningful, his name is Denangan concluded. That is the last bribe by the father and mother to the bride-to-be as a sign of the last responsibility of the parents to the child who is getting married."

"And later here there is a hair planting and chicken loose meaning? Embedding a second hair cut bride intends that all bad things are kept away from the household of her two children. After that will be followed by the release of the black rooster which indicates that both parents have mengikhlaskan their children live independently like a chicken that can already find its own food."

"Yes Pakde, all loaded with meaning, how our customs are full of such a sublime meaning."

"Will someone guide me through the stages of everything?"

"Of course, Pakde only introduced the stages by stages. Later there will be a special duty in a series of long procession events that must be passed."

"Yes, thank you for guiding me."

"Ish.Don't thank you now, later if it's past the legitimate night of being a husband and wife come to Pakde say thank you haaa..."

Dr. Prabu smiled, imagining one night that he had been waiting for years, the first night of being a husband and wife, What he was going to do, what he was going to do, or what expression will be said to Retno who has officially become his wife later.

"Don't many daydream doctors later also ngalamin haaaa. It's everyone's favorite show, the Midodareni event. The meaning of the word midodareni itself is an angel, so the hope of the night ritual before releasing this single period is that the bride will look beautiful the next day like an angel from heaven. On this night, the bride will be accompanied by her family only and is prohibited from meeting her future husband because he will receive advice related to marriage."

Dr. Prabu smiled after turning around in his Pakde Retno at the reception area, the location of the spray and other processions. Sighs tired but happy to want all quickly passed.

Dr. Prabu wants to see Retno immediately on her H day, see her happy smile and all the procession passed smoothly.

"Let's go back to Pakde's house, will Pakde give traditional recipes hereditary while drinking warm tea, and the bride must drink a special potion for stamina, later budenya make."

"Don't be bitter, sirde, enough of my bitter journey, my future must be sweet."

"Yeah..."

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