I'm a Widow But a Virgin

Papah Wijaya

The morning prayer rang, Almira woke up from her sleep, it was a good night sleep. She forgot her husband had slept.

Seen next to him was Reihan who was still sound asleep. Almira wakes Reihan.

"Mas.bun up let's be dawn"

Reihan is not flinching.

"Buck...."

Almira shakes Reihan's body.

"What the heck dear.perasaan Mas just slept for a while, the time is already morning anyway"

"Yes, it's really morning, it's lhoo's morning"

"What time is it?"

Almira, who used to see the clock on her phone, immediately took her phone.

"My cell phone is dead, it seems like yesterday the batrenya is still full" Almira muttered.

Almira immediately pressed the On button on her phone.

"Hour Half five Mas"

Almira went straight to the bathroom, followed by Reihan, and they prayed together at dawn.

After the morning prayers Almira went to the kitchen to help Mama and Mama Ganis and Alisha cook.

"Morning all..."

"I woke up, baby" asked Mama.

"Yes now I have a husband so I have to wake up early in the morning shampooing" Ledek Alisha.

"I'm not shampooing this, Almira uncovers her veil for a moment"

"Heh you have this" said Sister Ganis.

"Bak let Mira alone, mbak accompany Ayyubi only"

"Ayyubi with his father Mir, leave it alone"

"Where are you guys on?" Ask Mama.

"Sleep again Mah" said Almira.

"Mas Hafiz is also still sleeping Mah, Reihan and Mas Hafiz chatted in the park until 11 more" Alisha said.

"Hehe sorry I went straight to bed, tired of it " said Almira.

"Mir after cooking we are jogging yuk"

"Maybe, it'll be half six" brother"

"okay"

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Finished cooking Alisha and Almira jogging around the complex alone enjoy the cool air of the morning.

"Mir How's the honeymoon?"

"So sweet brother"

"How has that been?"

"What's it?"

"Make Dede, hehe"

"It's brother"

"The son of Mir" Ledek Alisha.

"Yes ticklish how it is"

"Enak koh tickled"

"Just like that,"

They continued running. In the T-junction Almira saw a woman who was being beaten by a man. Almira and Alisha were looking straight at the approaching.

"Eh sir, not sir"

"Let it go, he deserves it" the man said as he slapped the woman.

"Our country is the law, you can be in jail" Alisha said.

Almira tried to pull the woman away from being beaten again.

"He's been cheating repeatedly, this is the 3rd time I won't forgive"

"Already sir, you better talk about it well at home, do not beat him in the middle of the road like this" said Alisha.

"I saw him here with his affair, he hasn't been home for 1 week,"

The father seemed to be regulating his breath because it was very emotional.

After the emotions of the two of them subsided, they finally went home to their home.

"Huftttt.., how horrible Brother"

"Hopefully our household isn't like that Mir"

"Aamiin"

Alisha and Almira decided to go home, it felt like the mood to continue the morning run was gone because of this incident.

Arriving at the house of Almira and Alisha immediately sat in the guest chair, there was already papah Wijaya, Mas Birru and Ayyubi.

"Oh my God, that man beat his own wife" Cerocos Almira.

Almira immediately sat down next to Mas Birru.

"What the hell is a Deck"

" There was a man on the side of the road there was beating his wife, he said his wife had cheated 3 times, what need to hit like that" said Almira.

"You're jogging what's gossiping Mir" Tanya Mas Birru returned.

"Oh this sister, I told you, brother, I saw her and we both helped her, she was weak, but she shouldn't be spanked like that,"

Papa Wijaya smiled looking at his daughter who kept talking.

"Mira There is a rule in An-Nisa's letter about hitting a bad wife" Papa Wijaya said.

"Well, papah, reward is allowed"

"Yes but, there's but Mir, there's his rule"

Alisha was also still sitting on the sofa.

Papa Wijaya then explained to his three children who were gathered in the living room.

"Women who are concerned about their nusyuz, so counsel them and separate them in their beds, and beat them up. Then if they obey you, then do not look for a way to trouble them. Verily Allah is Most High, Most Great.” [Letter of Nisaa: 34]

In the above verse, if the wife nusyuz or shows the characteristics of the character of disobedience to the husband, then the first thing that can be done advises. However, if the advice is not effective and the wife is still ungodly to the husband, then do separate beds so that the wife can realize her mistake. However, if this second method still does not work, then the husband is allowed to slap or beat his wife.

Punches or Blows Allowed.

The punch or slap in question is a mild blow and does not bleed and does not cause loss of life or disability in the body, fractures and so on [dharb ghoiru mubbarih].

This explains if the slap or punch in question is not like a boxing match, but is done to educate, repair and also straighten the wife. Husbands are forbidden to give slaps or hard blows that make the wife afraid and run away from her husband.

In addition, the husband is also prohibited to beat the wife if there is a dispute or a great quarrel such as for example the wife has committed insubordination against the husband.

The Prophet said, “Fear you to Allah in the case of women (wives), because you take them with trust from Allah and you justify **********they are with the words of Allah. Your right to them is that they should not allow someone you hate to step on (tread) your expanse (clad). If they do this3 then hit them with a not hard punch.” [SV. Muslims no. 2941].

The most important point is the blow or slap that the husband does to the wife is done if the wife is already very ungodly towards the husband, no longer listen to the advice given by the husband and become a warning action given by the husband. The blow made by the husband also should not leave a scar on the wife's body.

This we can see and an example of what the Prophet Ayyub did when he punished his wife. When the Prophet Job was abandoned by his wife, he made a vow that if he recovered, he would beat his wife 100 times and he did so. This is done with a bunch of 100 pieces and only hit as many as 1 time.

"There are Terms Husband Can Hit or Slap Wife too, so can not origin slap" said Papa Wijaya.

"What are the conditions for pah?" Ask Almira.

Papah wijaya explained.

There are some conditions that allow a husband to hit or slap the wife.

Know About the Causes of the Punch and Its Purpose.

A husband is allowed to beat his wife if his wife has violated the rules of religion, has desecrated the household that was built and can also threaten the honor of the husband. The blow or slap is not done because of the husband's lust, uncontrolled emotions and also because it is good to see the wife suffering while being slapped.

Giving Time Limitation.

The husband is also allowed to beat or slap the wife if the wife has not heard the advice given by the husband and does not want self-introspection even after separating the bed.

Restricting Tools.

A husband is not allowed to beat his wife using a whip or a stick but only with his hands, a wooden mongoose or a handkerchief that has been rolled. This means that the blow should not be inflicted with injury, torture or done wildly because it only obeys the nature of anger in Islam alone. The slap done is only enough to teach a lesson and not hurt.

It Would Be Better Not to Do.

Hitting or slapping should be the last option and should not be done as long as there are other options. Because, the risk behind a blow or slap is quite large, especially if it has seen improvement from the wife.

Wisdom and Authority of Husband.

The authority possessed by the husband through a blow or slap is quite difficult, especially if household problems occur many times and must always be taken to court. Islam is also very high guard about family harmony, especially when talking about the secrets and disgrace of husband and wife.

"What household will there always be quarrels?" Ask Alisha.

"It is up to us who run, if we are balanced in carrying out our obligations and rights will certainly avoid arguments, but for new ones like you, this, there must be things that don't fit, are in tune, that's natural, and you must learn to balance them"

"Does papah and mama often fight?" Ask Alisha.

"Yes, let alone the early days of papah and mamah getting married, we are both just learning, but we face it patiently, there will always be wisdom behind the quarrel"

"What's the pah?" Ask Almira.

Papa Wijaya smiled, He felt that he was being interviewed by his girls.

"The proverb says that quarrels are the spice of marriage. However, the fight is not just a storm and blame each other. The quarrel will be a beautiful ending when it ends with an exit or solution. Because without a solution, the quarrel will only cause prolonged injuries and can eventually become an atomic bomb that can explode at any time. Don't let this happen to your family.

Fighting when in a relationship, especially marriage, turns out to be needed so that the marriage you live in does not feel bland. In addition, quarrels in the household can also make love relationships healthier and make feelings more relieved.

There are several benefits of fighting.

Increasing the relationship

Surely some of you will feel the relationship is getting closer even more romantic after having a great fight. Why so? Because the two of you have made it through the hard times and reached the exit that makes the feeling of being empty again. You managed to open up again to be able to make peace with your partner and the impact, the marriage relationship will be stronger. Well, for that we have to address the root positively.

You can understand the nature of the couple

Of course through the problems and fights that occur, you will know more about the nature of the couple. In an emotional state, usually a person's character will be stronger. That's where you learn that if there will be another fight, you have prepared and can deal with it well and not be surprised by the original character of the couple.

Learn to be mature

There are still many couples who are immature even though they have been married for years. Couples who still think childishly still find it difficult to cope with the problem in an adult way. Sometimes the shortcut they take is through fighting. With the problem, they will certainly learn to mature themselves more in overcoming the problem wisely.

Overcoming misunderstandings

Misunderstandings that occur between two people, need a meeting point. Sometimes you try to find the meeting point and often it leads to a fight. When you manage to realize it, actually misunderstandings are trivial things that do not need to be disputed.

"For those of you who have just been married, you should never think of living happily ever after like a fairy tale. Because when you get married it's the beginning of your journey. A marriage must have a fight, to be able to achieve happiness" said Papa Wijaya.

Almira and Alisha embrace Papa Wijaya.

"Thank you for the life lesson today" Alisha and Almira said.

"Yes, that's where wake up your husband we have breakfast together"

"okay"

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[If the author actually started from a quarrel must have ended with ninu ninu, hahaha, intue starte quarrel later better continue to be closed using ninu ninu let the Dasim add languish, hahaha remember ga Dasim who?haha]

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