I'm a Widow But a Virgin

Walimatul Urs'

The Wijaya family held a walimatul ursy event. They were in unison wearing white Muslim uniforms.

Mr. Ustad gave hospitality to the newlyweds. Mr. Ustad gives a picture of a marriage, who is married must also remember the purpose of marriage in order to always be harmonious in living the mahligai household.

Brother, this afternoon with the pleasure and this father of Allah SWT, Mas Hafiz and Mbak Alisha, Mas Reihan and Mbak Almira arrived at the most beautiful, happiest, moment, but the most thrilling in your life.

The most beautiful moment, because from today love is not only in the form of dreams and fantasies. The happiest time, because finally Mas Hafiz and Mas Reihan managed to accompany the woman you love (God willing). The most thrilling moment because from now on you carry the mandate of God to be the leader of the family.

You were once free men who went as you please. Look since today when you haven't come home too late at night, at home there's a woman who can't sleep, because it worries you. Now, if for days you do not go home without news, in your room there is a gentle woman who will wet her pillow with tears.

In the past when you got a disaster, you only got a greeting, ‘ in a row grieve’ from your friends. But now, a wife will be willing to sacrifice anything in order to regain your happiness. Now you have a lover that God created to share your joys and sorrows with you.

Mas Hafiz, Mas Reihan the woman sitting by your side is not a lump of meat that you can grind arbitrarily, and not a slave that you can treat arbitrarily. She is a woman who is given by God to make your life more beautiful and more meaningful. It is the message of God that you will answer before Him.

The Prophet said :

“There are two sins that God will precede his tormentors in this world as well, namely: Al Bagyu and disobedience to both parents”. (CHR. Turmudzi, Bukhori and thabrani)

Al Bagyu is arbitrary, tyrannical and persecuting others. And Al Bagyu who is most wronged is to do injustice to the wife, to hurt her heart, to rob her of the warmth of her love, to humble her honor, to neglect her decision making, and to deprive her of her right to the happiness of living with you. Therefore, the Prophet Muhammad SAW measured the high and low dignity of men from the way he mingled with his wife, the noble Prophet said :

“ Won't glorify women except noble men, and won't demean women except low men anyway”.

The Prophet is the most noble man. And Aisha ra. Tells how the Prophet glorified him:

“At home, said Aisyah, “Rasulullah serves the needs of his wife cooking, sweeping the floor, milking and cleaning clothes. He called his wife with a good title”.

After the Prophet died, there were some friends to meet Aisyah, asking her to tell the behavior of the Prophet SAW, Aisyah momentarily did not answer the request. Tears are breaking. Then with a long breath he said “Kaana kullu amrihi ‘ajaba’ (Ahh ... his behavior is beautiful).

When urged to recount the most dazzling behavior of the Apostle. Aisha then recounts how the noble Apostle in the middle of the night woke up and asked Aisha for permission to pray at night.

“Allow me to worship my Lord,”, the Prophet told Aisha.

Imagine, until the evening prayer only needed permission of his wife. There is a gathering of intimacy, purity, loyalty, and respect.

The husbands present here “Glorify your wife so that later if Allah wills you to die first, then we ask your wife about you, she will answer like Ayesha: “Ahh…. All behavior is beautiful, amazing.”

The Prophet's Will, to the woman beside you, is your wife,

[Read carefully, this particular cart of mothers, the above was for fathers,hehe]

“If I may command men to prostrate to other men, I will command wives to prostrate to their husbands because of the great rights of husbands God has bestowed upon them”.

Many wives demand that their husbands make them happy. Rarely do they think about how she makes her husband happy. Though affectionate love will grow and flourish in the atmosphere ‘give’ instead of ‘take’. Love is ‘sharing’ share each other. You will not get love if what you spread is hate. You won't reap affection if what you plant is anger. You will not achieve calm when you subdue resentment and disappointment.

You can give whatever you have. But, for your husband, there is no gift of the happiest wife other than a heart that is always ready to share pleasure and suffering. Outside the house, your husband may be shaken with various difficulties. Outside, he found stern faces, sharp spies, harsh words, and heavy life struggles. He wants to come home, find a cheerful face, cool eyes, gentle speech, and take refuge in the shade of your affection. Your Husband wants to melt the entire burden of his soul with the warmth of tears rising from the ocean of your affection.

The noble apostle once said that the best wife is:

“The best wife is the one who makes you happy, when you look at her, who obeys you if you tell her to, and keeps her honor and your treasure when you are not by her side.”

The Apostle said that heaven lies under the feet of the mothers, so whether the household you build today will be heaven or hell, depends on you as a housewife. Home will be heaven if you decorate it with patience, loyalty and purity. Allah SWT said:

“Women remember the verses of Allah and the wisdom recited in our homes. Verily Allah is Most Merciful and All-Knowing.” (QS. 33:34)

Later when your household boat collides with sharp gravel, if the dream of teenagers has turned into a bitter reality, if the hills of hope are shaken by an earthquake ordeal, if the dream of teenagers has been turned into a bitter reality, we'd like to see you stay steadfast next to your husband. You keep smiling even though the sky is cloudy. At such times there may be nothing more soothing to your husband than to see a heartwarming sight. He wakes up at night, finding you are not there. But, it was with a voice that he knew right.

“Yes Allah, grant us wives and descendants who appease our hearts, and make us rulers of those who fear”.

My sister, once Aisha ra. Tells the story, nature after the death of Khadija ra. :

“Almost every time the Prophet SAW, going out of the house, he called Khadijah's name while praising him. So that one day, when he called her again, my jealousy arose and I told her, “Isn't she just an old woman, while God has given you a better replacement than him?”

Hearing that the Prophet SAW looked very angry, so that the front of his hair shook because of it. Then he said, “No, by Allah ! I don't get a better replacement than him ! He believed in me when people denied me. He helped me with his treasure when no one but him was willing to give me anything. And Allah has bestowed on him the offspring, and not on his wives.” (Al Hadith)

My sister, if it is destined that your God dies first, then we meet your husband, and we offer you a replacement. At that time, your husband will tremble furiously, and like the noble Apostle, he said, “For the sake of Allah, nothing can replace him. He who strengthens my heart when I am almost desperate, he trusts me when everyone is away from me. He gave me sincerity when everyone betrayed me”. When that happens be happy you, my sister, because the Prophet said :

“If a woman dies, and her husband is very happy with his behavior during his life, then the woman enters paradise”.

Let us take the bride and groom to their new life. To them both want us to secure the word of Allah SWT :

“Bangkallah you guys, actually the best stock is taqwa”.

Finally, let us offer the baroque prayer to the two brides :

“Barokallahu laka wa baaraka ‘alaika wa jama’a bainakumaa fi khoir”

“May Allah grant you the blessing and set the blessing on you and gather you both in the goodness of” Aamiin.

After the lecture, many mothers and fathers who glanced to listen to advice about the household well.

After the completion of the Urs walimatul event, the Wijaya family tidied up the room and cleaned their house.

In the evening they all fell asleep because they were tired of tidying up the house.

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[On ga'patient reading Part ninu ninu Reihan ma Almira, hahaha later in the honeymoon Part]

[Sorry yes new Up, today author biz report division at school, did not meet the child2 3 months more, same mother2nya also jd for rapot 1 child only 30 minutes long confide, hihi, just, it feels so tired]