I'm a Widow But a Virgin

Marriage Law

"Your mother and she will only discuss a job, I want to show that I am not childish even though I am 18 years old, this is the source of your fortune that will be made to support me later" said Almira.

Reihan smiled happily, I don't know, Reihan's feelings were instantaneous like they were showered with such beautiful cherry blossoms.[Away from the cherry blossoms, hehe]

"Mir, later Mas will name this cafe R&A,Reihan Almira" Reihan said excitedly.

Almira smiled, "Mira prayed that Mas is always successful"

"Ehhmmmm" Mas Birru cleared his throat from the back of Almira.

"You are married"

"You once I Mas, but...Papa Mas Birru has not allowed it fully" Reihan said.

"Let's help" said Albirruni.

"Certainly Mas?"

"Yes, I see you guys are even legally obliged to marry Lhoo"

"Why is that like, brother?" Ask Almira.

"Yes look at your chatter, already talking about the living of all"

Almira smiled shyly "That's not what it means sister"

"Then.remember Deck, Marriage can be sunnah, obligatory, makruh or haram, this is because :

Sunnah, to marry when concerned :

a. Ready and able to carry out biological desires.

b. Ready and able to carry out household responsibilities.

Mandatory marriage, if the person concerned has a strong biological desire, to avoid things that are forbidden to do maksiat, to avoid, also concerned has been able and ready to carry out responsibilities in the household.This is in accordance with the word of God Q.S An-Nur :33

Makruh, if the person concerned does not have the ability to channel biologically, even though someone is able to carry out the responsibility of living, etc. Or vice versa she is able to channel biological, but not able to be responsible in fulfilling the obligations in the household.

Haram married, if he has a venereal disease that will be transmitted to his partner and his descendants.

It is better before marriage to check health to make sure correctly, that we are in a state of complete health. If the person with a dangerous disease continues his marriage, he will get the sin of deliberately passing the disease to his partner.

For those who carry out marriage in a state of obligation and sunnah, it means that he has carried out a heavy covenant. If the covenant is broken, God will curse it.

"Reihan, try to think of you in which category?"

"What yes, yes obligatory and sunna like it?"

"Why does it seem, choose one"

"Yes I am ready to support the inner birth of Mas, I seem to be able, about biological desires I am also an adult, sometimes I ya ngebet as well, but I can still hold it, I know the limits"

Almira immediately patted Reihan's arm "Ih even discussed the biology of everything, ashamed to know"

"Later I'll help you talk to Papa and Mama" Albirruni said.

"Yes, yes"

"But sister, Mira is very young, afraid of not being able to be a good wife" Almira said.

"You being good is Reihan's job, he's supposed to guide you later"

"I'm afraid, there are so many cases of divorce due to marrying young and immature sister"

"Sister believe you easy to learn Dek, you sister brother, Brother believe Reihan can guide you as well, He is also well established, his religion is good, it seems to love you very much too"

Almira nodded, though,

"Listen to Brother, When marriage is sincerely carried out, we will be glorified by Allah Almighty, and placed in the environment of God's love.

Then what should the two (husband-wife) do in sailing the household ark? If a marriage is based on seeking the pleasure of Allah SWT and practicing the sunnah of Rosul, not solely because of physical beauty or fulfilling his desires, then Allah will guarantee the harmonious life of his second household, full of love, and compassion, as the word of God in Q. S. Ar-Rum :21, as we often hear.

"And among the signs of His authority is that He created for you wives of your own kind, that you may tend and feel at ease to him and be made among you affection. Verily in this are signs for the people who think". (Ar-Ruum 21)

Wives of your own kind (pairing couples), which have the same size, size in the field of purpose, science, spiritual, etc. And each can well understand its function, and carry out its obligations and rights well. Husband as a priest in the household, and wife as his representative.The early days of marriage, where we must be able to equate the view by adapting to each other's partners, and leave the individual nature.

Restful, which is a period of marriage where we have understood each other's nature, and began to arise a feeling of calm, along and in line in realizing the purpose of marriage.

Love, this is the next stage that we feel in our partner, where we love not only based on physical or economic circumstances alone, or external circumstances only, he said, but there has been a deep feeling of love, because of Allah SWT, which is not swayed by temptations.

Rahma, is the final stage which is the final fruit of all feelings, where at this stage, we actually run the marriage without any annoying obstacles, and can continue to pair up to the Ridho Allah SWT.

But why are so many households destroyed when God has guaranteed in the letter above? This is certainly a mistake on the wife or husband or both violate the provisions of Allah SWT.

Allah instills love and compassion when both exercise the rights and responsibilities of God and seek the pleasure of God, that is what will be recorded as worship.

"Heavy Covenant" Ijab Qobul, also as a transfer of responsibility from parents to husbands. The bridegroom has expressed his purpose or answered the qobul ijab of the bride's guardian by calling her qobulu ijab. That is a very heavy covenant that Allah SWT participated in its implementation. This is often forgotten by married couples and the public.

Responsibilities that change hands. The responsibilities of a guardian to a woman transferred to a man who marries the woman include:

Responsibility gives enough lust, both born and inner, and,

The responsibility of providing a proper place to live, as,

Educate morals and religion well,

Dominate, protect his wife's honor and safety.

After ijab qobul, the husband becomes the leader in the household that will determine the future pattern of life in his household (husband as priest)."

"Remember Rey, the household is like a ship, and you are the captain, you are in control, so you have to learn as best you can, continue sailing or sinking it depends on you" Birru said.

Reihan nodded his head "Thank you for the advice"