I'm a Widow But a Virgin

Wedding Wulan&Dimas

Wulan's long-time best friend Rengganis is finally getting engaged today to have her wedding.

Rengganis and Albirruni yesterday have arrived in Jogja, as promised Mas Birru will return to Jogja if the best friend Rengganis married.

Wulan used a simple white kebaya for the Kabul ijab, then continued the blue dress for the reception, the reception was held immediately after the Kabul ijab.

Kabul ijab events and live receptions are held in the same building.

Rengganis uses a robe because her pregnancy has begun to enlarge, not suitable if wearing kebaya, so Ganis chose to use only the robe, the pink brucat gamis.

Melly and Aisha wear pink brucat kebaya, and Dion also accompanies Melly.

Wulan is flanked by Rengganis and Aisha to the Kabul ijab.

Kabul ijab event was started, Dimas was very loud in saying the word kabul.

Rengganis so happy finally his best friend can get happiness with his partner.

After the Kabul ijab event is completed, proceed directly with the traditional Javanese reception.

After ijab kabul, the Javanese customary wedding procession continues. The procession after the kabul ijab is called the grill ceremony.

The first procession done in the grill is a gantal jar. If you have seen brides throwing betel nut at each other this is called a balang gantal.Gantal is made with betel leaves filled with banana flowers, betel chalk, gambier and black tobacco.

This procession was carried out, Wulan and Dimas stood in the direction of the fight and threw each other gantal. This ritual symbolizes the two brides throwing affection at each other.

The next ritual Ngindakan endhong in Indonesian means egg stamp. This procession means the hope of both new partners to get offspring which is a sign of love. In addition, it is also symbolized as the loyalty of the wife to her husband.

After the egg stamp procession is complete, the bride and groom will continue with the procession. Sindur fabric will be snapped to the bride by the mother and together led the father to walk to the guarantee. This is the hope that the newlyweds are ready to face all the difficulties in life.

After that, the kacar procession.

Before the procession of kacar kucur carried out there is a procession of scales where the new couple is sitting on the lap of the father of the bride. After the new kacar kucur custom process, the groom will disburse grains and dime which is symbolized as income. This shows a man is responsible for giving a living to his family.

Furthermore, the process of bribery or trays is also in the procession of Javanese customary marriage. This repetition carries a figurative meaning that male and female partners are expected to always get along well and understand.

The last procession is the crater bubak will usually take place very festive and most awaited. The crater is usually done during the first ghost. The expression of gratitude of both parents because their children were first married.

The family prepared kitchen utensils mounted on piculan which was then paraded around the guests by the father. Guests are usually busy scrambling for this kitchen equipment because the myth is who gets this kitchen tool can be easy to mate.

This traditional Javanese procession is indeed very complicated and requires quite a long time. So now there are some Javanese weddings that only use part of the procession. Although it seems complicated the whole procession has a very good meaning that praying for the life of the newlyweds is always abundant in blessing and ease.

Terakan Rengganis saw a series of Javanese customary processions that were going on, his eyes glazed over.

He remembered his marriage to the late Mas Abymanyu first, using the Javanese customary process.

The rengganis then stroked his stomach,

You should not think of a man other than his husband especially now there are prospective children who are also being born.

Albirruni saw and felt the anxiety of Rengganis.Ia wanted to ask why it seems Rengganis was even sad at the wedding of his best friend.

"Dear you why?"

Rengganis immediately wiped away a bit of her tears.

"No Mas, just moved to see my best friend happy",

" Really?"

"Yes Mas, we've been eating yuk Mas, Ganis hungry,dede baby is also hungry like it"

Rengganis could not say if he remembered when he married Mas Abymanyu, Even though now Mas Aby is dead, but Ganis believes Mas Birru must be jealous too.

"Yes, you have been looking for food there, yes, in the gudeg area, you want to go to the toilet first" said Birru.

Rengganis nodded then headed towards the buffet place that contained gudeg.

"Hi Rengganis"

Rengganis.

"Eh Mas Andra"

"Went to the toilet Mas, where could Sinta?"

"Love don't come"

"Owh"

Rengganis then took the plate and scooped the rice on his plate.

"You're fat now?"

"It's not fat, but it's two bodies"

"If my papah hadn't banned me before, maybe now what's in your stomach is my son, and I'd be the happiest man in the world"

Rengganis was very surprised by Mas Andra's speech which according to Rengganis was not worth saying.

"Mas can't talk like that"

"Why, I can accept Sinta's presence in my life but not with my heart"

"Mas, that's enough"

Andra fell silent, she felt hurt to see the woman she loved now was pregnant with someone else's child even though Andra now had received Sinta well, but not with her heart.

"Emmm"

Rengganis and Andra turned towards the voice that was beating, Albirruni said.

"Tuh gudeg spoon, don't keep looking at people's wives" Birru said with her sharp gaze.

"Mas, let's eat what" said Rengganis.

"Eat what you eat dear" Birru said with a smile.

"Ganis you usually like to bacem and know his bacem" Andra said.

"Eh yes, my"

"I want his chicken dear, do not want to be telor" said Birru while glancing at Andra.

Rengganis realized there would be a war drum if it did not leave immediately.

"Mas Let's eat there yah" said Rengganis while holding Mas Birru.

"Mas Andra I go first" said Rengganis saying goodbye.

Rengganis and Albirruni walked to the dining table.

"Darling why there must be Him anyway?"

"And He's a friend of Mas Dimas, It's Mas,"

"I'm jealous"

Rengganis smiled, Mas Birru is sometimes very easy to be jealous, He is very mature but if you are jealous immediately turned sulky like a child.

"It's been, I've been yours Mas, there's been a baby in there too"

Mas Birru smilingly confirmed Rengganis' speech.

"More tomorrow we take a walk yuk, mumpung in Jogja"

"Where's honey?"

"To ngandong beach on the mountain kidul, Ganis heard the beach is very clear water"

Ganis.

"Okay baby"

Rengganis and Albirruni continued eating, followed by Dion and Melly who also had brought their own food.