I'm a Widow But a Virgin

Flush

1 month later....

Lusa Alisha and Hafiz will hold a marriage contract, today according to the Javanese customs that they will use for their wedding procession will be flush at their respective residences.

Siraman is a ritual ritual ceremony inherited from our ancestors that contains many philosophies in it. In each step on the procession flush is interpreted so that the bride and groom clean themselves and the heart so that the more steady to hold the wedding the next day.

At this more internal ceremony the whole extended family gathers, shares likes, gives blessings and moral support to the bride and groom to enter a new phase in his life.

Siraman event equipment consists of: 

Gayung Siraman, a golden yellow rice strand that accompanies the dipper symbolizes bowing and nurturing the family. 

Bengkolo porridge has the meaning of being a disaster repellent so that everything can run smoothly.

In addition there is a decoction of tubers that grow in the ground (better known as pendem namapolo) is interpreted so that the household that will be built by the bride will have a strong foundation.

There is also a network of skin fruits, water flush pitchers where water is poured ablution, Tumpeng Robyong which means hope for safety, fertility and well-being.

Tumpeng for the last feed event, and not to miss Kreweng, which is money from clay that will be used to buy cendol in the “dodol dawet“ event.

What needs to be prepared is also a bowl of flower water and scissors for the ceremony of haircut after the flush, as well as a mini shovel digger hole for the rikmo planting ceremony (plant hair).

If the owner wishes to provide an eye sign (souveneer) for the elders who will water or for the invitees of the flush event, should also be prepared.

Water Flush and Installation of Bleketepe.

The activity begins by preparing water flush that comes from 7 sources into the barrel. Water sources are usually taken from besan houses, rumah pini sepuh, and traditional houses which are then stirred with a mixture of flowers.

While waiting for the bride-to-be to get ready for the flush, the father did the installation of bleketepe (woven coconut leaves) as tarub on the gate of the house. The installation of tarub is interpreted as an official sign that there will be a ghost in the house in question.

The procedure for installing tarub is that the father climbed the stairs, while Mother held the stairs while helping to give bleketepe. This ceremony is a symbol of gotong royong both parents who become family organizers.

The history of tarub installation activities began when Ki Ageng Tarub, one of the ancestors of the kings of Mataram had a wish to marry his son Dewi Nawangsih to Raden Bondan Kejawan, who was the son of the king of Mataram, Ki Ageng makes shade from woven coconut leaves. It was done because the small Ki Ageng house could not load all guests, so that guests outside the house were covered with coconut leaf payon. Given ’payon’ that space used for the guests Agung become spacious and accommodate all guests. Then the payon of the coconut leaf was called ’tarub’, derived from the name of the person who first made it.

After finishing installing the tarub, the cloth cover tuwuhandi both sides of the entrance gate in the open. Tuwuhan means a hope to the child who is betrothed in order to obtain offspring, to carry out family history.

The project consists of :

The king's banana tree whose fruit is ripe. The purpose of choosing a ripe banana is, it is expected that the couple who will get married has mature thoughts or has cooked. While the king banana has the meaning of hope that the couple who will be married will have prosperity, glory and honor like a king.

Red colored cane. It is used as a source of sweetness. It symbolizes a good life. While the meaning of wulung for Javanese means old or old. After entering the marriage stage, it is expected that both brides have old souls who always act with ’kewicananan’ or policy.

Gadhing clover is a symbol of the womb where the baby jabang or the symbol of descent.Daun Randu and Pari Sewuli Randu symbolize sandang, while the stingray symbolizes food. So that it means that the two brides are always sufficient clothing and food.

Godhong nothing (various foliage) Like a banyan leaf that symbolizes the aegis, grass reeds in the hope of being free from all obstacles

The flush event begins with the sungkem of the bride and groom to the parents to ask for blessing.

Alisha who has been wearing a special suit directly sungkem to papah and his mama.

"Well, Pah Alisha begs for blessings, pray Aisha well Pah that Alisha's household can be happy like Papa's mother" Alisha said with tears.

Papa stroked Alisha's head "Yes papah always pray for you, pray for papah's children so that everyone is happy, be a good wife Sha, look for always ridho husband"

Alisha nodded, though,

Alisha then moved to her Mama, Alisha immediately hugged her mother with a full day.

"Congratulate Alisha yah Mah, so that later Alisha can be a good wife like Mama, forgive Alisha if all this time can not be a dutiful child"

Mama crying, releasing a daughter feels so hard, but this life will continue to run, and her children deserve happiness with their partner.

"Dear dear mama restui, learn to be a good wife, a coolant for your husband"

Alsiha nodded.

After that Alisha is guided to the flush place that has been prepared.

Siraman starts from both parents Alisha followed by pini sepuh who have been selected namely budhe and pakdenya. Wudhu water then poured by Papa Wijaya from the flush jug. Then the jug was broken by both parents Alisha as a sign of breaking the prestige of Alisha as a mature woman and radiating rays of charm.

The haircut, followed by Papa Alisha holding Alisha into the house symbolizes the affection of parents who always accompany their children until the last second before the new stage of the child's life.

While waiting for the bride-to-be to change clothes, the whole family gathered to prepare tumpeng for a bribery event at the end of the event. Almira, Rengganis and Mas Birru then distributed the crew money to be used at the cendol sale (dodol dawet).

The meaning of the dodol dawet is taken from a circular cendol, interpreted as a symbol of the unanimity of the will of parents to match their children. For people who will buy the dawet must pay with kreweng (critical fragments) not with money. It shows that human life comes from the earth.

The one serving the buyer is Mama Alisha while the one receiving the payment is Papah wijaya. It teaches their children who are getting married about how to make a living, that as husband and wife should help each other. Behind it there is also the witty meaning of this event, which is a symbolization that tomorrow at the time of marriage and reception, the guests who come will be as much and as many as the sale of cendol/dawet!

Next the ceremony is continued by planting rikmo/hair by the parents. Planted is the second hair cut of the bride, done after the representative of the bride's family returned from the residence of the groom with a haircut.

The release of the black Rooster is the next procession which means that the parents have wholeheartedly released their daughter to live independently. Like a chicken that is so released can already find/fine its own food, it is expected that in the future the child can live independently, obtain a wide and baroque windfall.

"Sad yes Ma'am" Almira told Rengganis.

"Yes, I remembered Ibuk "

The eyes of Rengganis are already glazed.

Mas Birru stroked the Shoulder of Rengganis, "It's dear"

"So you used to be with Mbak Ganis no flush?" Ask Almira.

"No, did Mira know for herself, first sister immediately married"

"Mama and Papah know brother naughty times"

"Just son, brother loves Ma'am Ganis so much that he won't be naughty"

"Seru lhoo kak show flush like this"

"Exciting brother is, immediately bathe mbak Ganis, yes dear" said Mas Birru with his laughter.

"Ih Mas, Almira is very young, can not talk carelessly" replied Rengganis.

"Still young how, soon Mira will feel it"

"Oh this brother,"

"You want to be married to Reihan like a big brother" Ledek Mas Birru.

Almira fell silent.

"Why silence, Reihan will be taken by the lhoo people"

"That's not it" Ceplos Almira.

Mas Birru laughed at Almira's expression.

"You don't hayo"

"Yes yes if you want a soul mate" said Almira.

"Well, that's how you'll get married, hahaha"

"Hadn't teased Almira anyway,"

Baby Ayyubi woke up from her baby carriage, Albirruni directly carrying her.

They then ate together. Rengganis fed Mas Birru who was carrying Ayyubi.

Almira watched her two brothers,

I also want to be like Big Brother, romantic and affectionate with Sister Ganis, Inner Alisha.

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[I think the same rituals in Javanese customs, because there are so many philosophies contained in it, and it is also a prayer]

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