The Love of the Sinner

S2 Chapter 110. Advice from Grandpa Yusuf

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Chapter 110

"Grandfather really hopes that you can be the one who always leads Aulia on the straight path and guided by God" said Grandpa Joseph.

"Husband's obligation to the wife is also very important to discuss as we often discuss the obligations of the wife that must be fulfilled in the husband. During this time, the value circulating in the community is more likely to demand that wives obey the orders of the husband without being balanced with the fulfillment of the rights of the actual wife is also important to do," said Grandpa Yusuf with his clear eyes looking at Alvan.

Alvan's heart felt smashed. Somehow she felt her chest tight as their netra turned.

"This presumption is certainly very wrong and unfair. Islam itself teaches its people to always recognize that husband and wife have the same position and equal in a marriage.

When the rights and obligations of each have been fulfilled properly, it will certainly create a safe home life, mawaddah, and warahmah. Marriage will also feel happier and more peaceful. When discussing the obligation of the husband to the wife, about what are the obligations of the husband that must be fulfilled according to Islam," continued the old man who is almost a century old.

"Tell me everything, Cake. So that I am not wrong in stepping," said Alvan with tears that just came out of his eyes. He did not know why he felt so sad when there were no words from Grandpa Joseph that made him cry.

"Give a Halal Lent. Lent is the right of the wife that must be fulfilled by her husband. In Islam, the husband is obliged to provide and provide for the needs of the wife that he gets from a good and lawful job. Keep in mind that in the household, the survival of the wife and also the children is on the shoulders of the husband. The obligation to provide a sufficient living that includes, the fulfillment of the needs of clothing or clothing, food for everyday, a home or a comfortable and safe place to live," said Grandpa Yusuf and told Alvan to write down the points he thought were important. So that one day he forgot to re-read the note.

"Then, what else, Cake." Alvan finished writing.

"Getting Careful of the Wife. In addition to the fulfillment of a living by birth, the wife is also entitled to be fulfilled the needs of her inner and also outward or s****nya. This inner breath becomes one of the obligations of the husband whose form is in the form of a husband and wife relationship that is friendly, intimate, and full of affection. For the criterion of good intimate relations according to the view of Islam, there is no element of coercion in it. Where both sides are equally willing and based on consent. If the wife refuses to have a husband-and-wife relationship for rational and strong reasons, then the husband should be able to understand it and not be angry" explained Grandpa Yusuf and Alvan quickly wrote all of it.

"Showing sincere affection. The obligation of the husband to the next wife is to always show affection to him. Men do not need to always look fierce or seem fierce, as the wife also does not need to always be gentle," said Grandpa Yusuf paused for breathing.

"Both need to establish good communication, including also avoiding talking in an intimidating way and as if to govern each other. So, try to as much as possible avoid talking in a high tone to the wife. Even more so, to put out harsh words and hurt the heart. This affectionate attitude is one of the signs of affection that will make the wife feel very loved and loved by the husband," continued the man who devoted his life on the path commanded according to the teachings of the Prophet.

"Hopefully I'll do this my whole life" Alvan said.

"Grandfather believes you can love and love Aulia for the rest of your life" Grandpa Yusuf replied with a genuine smile.

"Then, especially the cake?" asked Alvan excitedly.

"Honoring wife. The obligation of the husband to the wife that must be done is to respect the wife under any circumstances. This form of respect for the husband to the wife can be done in various ways. For example, by listening to the words of the wife well, respecting every opinion, carrying out his orders, and also keeping the good name of the wife in front of the family and others," replied Grandpa Joseph.

"So the husband should not be authoritarian to his wife. I totally agree," said Alvan.

"By telling the wrongs or ugliness of the wife will actually increase the risk of emergence of more complicated household problems and risk hurting her feelings. This will certainly make the wife feel sad and disappointed. So, the husbands must always keep the wife marwah by keeping a meeting of the wife's disgrace meetings. Keep in mind that the people who have the worst position on the day of the apocalypse are husbands who like to tell the ugliness of their own wives," continued Grandpa Yusuf gently and clearly. Because Aulia has a dark past. So, he hoped Alvan could understand and know this clearly.

The man nodded his head. He knows what a man who is already old means.

"Supervising the wife, the husband is a priest in the family and the duty of the husband to the wife is the main thing is to guide the wife and family to always obey the commands of Allah SWT and avoid all prohibitions. Guiding this family is not only about religion, but also about social life as well. For example, by providing proper education to children, allowing his wife to keep learning good things, and teaching good religious sciences to the family. This is explained in Surah At-Tahriim, verse 6, in,

“O you who believe, preserve yourself (and your son) and your wife from the fires of hell, whose fuel is man and stone; their guardians are rough, hard angels, and Allah does not disobey what He has commanded them. And they always do what they're told.” (QS. A-tahriim 6).

Grandpa Joseph shed his tears. The smooth and glowing cheeks were now wet with tears. It was also a warning to him.

So too with Alvan. He felt his chest brake_at firmly until he felt tight. He only realized today, if the task of a true husband is heavy as well. Not like his shadow.

"Pardon the wife's fault. Mutual forgiveness is a matter that is highly required by the Islamic religion. Likewise in the context of domestic life. Where the husband should forgive all the mistakes of the wife with a free heart and vice versa, the wife should also always forgive the mistakes of the husband. Forgiving will keep the husband and wife relationship from feeling vengeance that can lead to cracks in the household. In addition, both husband and wife must balance it with good communication. So that each side will not repeat the same mistake later on" continued Grandpa Yusuf.

"Not stingy with the wife. It is unfortunate that there are still many husbands who behave arbitrarily towards his wife, providing a limited and often not enough rations to meet daily needs. So, for husbands, the healthy always fulfill the obligation to meet all the needs of the wife well. Do not calculate if you want to give a living to the wife for household needs. Good and smooth household economic conditions are also one of the keys to the peace of marriage" said the husband of Grandma Halimah.

"If this is God's Insha I will give Aulia the money she needs" Alvan replied with a timid smile. Because, materially, he has more.

Yusuf's grandfather also knew that Alvan would be able to economically. He is also loyal to those close to him.

"Next, be the head of a good family. A husband is a priest, so he has an obligation to be a good household leader. The trick is to set a good example to the wife and children, meeting all the needs of the family well. However, this should not be a justification for the husband in being dominant in the family. Keep in mind that household life should be based on the concept of “saling”. Both husband and wife have the same position. Therefore, married couples must help each other. Allah SWT views men as protectors of the family stated in the Quran.

“The man is the leader of the women, because God has exaggerated some of them (men) over others (women), and because they (men) have given up some of their possessions.” (An-Nisa’ Letter verse 34).

Alvan quickly wrote the name of the letter and the verse. Later he could read in the Qur'an again.

'O Allah, make me the man who can be the best husband for Aulia.' (German)

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😭 Why do I feel Grandpa Joseph is like someone who is about to die. I cried incessantly while writing this part.

Waiting for the next chapter. Yuk, also read my friend's work. Nice and exciting story, you know! Cus skates into his novel.