Talak After Shah

Argument Adu

After the children fell asleep, my husband entered our room.

"Mother should not behave like that" my husband said while sitting on the edge of the bed.

I leaned my body behind him. I pretended to close my eyes.

"She's my mom anyway, I love her so much" she added

"I'm not defending anyone here, but I don't like you answering my mother's words. What's wrong if you shut up when my mom says to you, isn't it hard to shut up?" continued

I'm still quiet not shaking.

"I know you haven't slept yet, so please next time you're dealing with my mom take care of your attitude" she said.

For a long time I could not stand being cornered by him. I sat down and answered her words.

"Oh, so you think I answered your mother wrongly, I was wrong to fight?, okay well I know I was wrong because I answered your mother's words. But you never felt the pain of my heart when your mother lightly cursed me. Not just this once your mother behaved like that I was, from the beginning, from the first meeting your mother was not like me" I said at length

My husband fell silent while lowering his head. The clock has shown almost twelve o'clock at night.But we continue to fight arguments.

"But don't behave like that to my mother" he replied

"You remember how many times I was silent when your mother cursed me, when your mother said to me, when your mother humbled me" my voice began to rise

"You must not overdo it, my mother is not like that" my husband said

I smiled at her hearing her answer.

"I know, no matter where your mother is, you will definitely defend your mother" I replied cynically

"I don't defend anyone. You're my wife, she's my mother, you're the woman I love. There's no way I'm gonna be unfair with you two" she said

"Avil?" I said while pulling his shoulder to point towards me

"Where is it, huh? fair from where? try telling me your fair attitude between me and your mother where is it?" my voice was burning with emotion

My husband kept silent to see my angry reaction.

"You remember, every month your salary is ten million. From the beginning of marriage to having three children, only six hundred thousand that you give me for shopping money, is for your mother? two million every month you send him Well, two million" my voice grew.

I don't care when it's late at night.

Adam moved, maybe he was distracted by my voice earlier. I immediately patted his body to fall asleep again.

Andi tepekur heard my last words.

"He is my paradise Bun, so I have to be devoted to him" he said.

"I know that the father belongs to his mother father.but mbok yo fair between me and your mother, I do not matter your salary money, you give it to your mother, you give it to your mother, but is it fair enough between six hundred thousand and two million?, Ah already, the edges of each language our mother must be noisier. Now please think to yourself, if I wrong monggo blame me, if I correct the error correction mother, and correction also the attitude of the father towards me and mother" said I as I lay down behind him.

"That's my duty bun" he continued.

It turned out that he was still not relieved by my words and was still provoking my answer

"Your parents are rich Well, the palm is in packages, car two, every month tens of millions of them get money from palm oil, so I don't think you should feel that mom is your responsibility. There are still people" I replied lazily

"So you swear my father is dead" he replied

"Astaghfirullahal adzim" I answered immediately sitting down.

"Dad really rattled ya. Okay, do you want to fuss what model I jabani, hayo, fuss us. Hold on to your mother, defend continue. Love all your money with him, let me and your children starve" my emotions ignited again.

"Ask the ustadz, ask the pious man, how should a man behave if he has married his mother. Which one to go first, his mother or his family. Indeed, the degree of the mother was three times higher so it was the obligation of her children to glorify it, but that does not mean abandoning her family well" my emotions exploded.

" The Messenger of Allah once said that it is sufficient for a Muslim to say that a person is sinful if he withholds food from his dependents"

"Do you know what the hadith meant? ahh I don't think I'll understand, the father is more concerned with his mother than us" I replied while laying down the body

"The storm continues tomorrow, yes, it's past one o'clock, I'm sleepy" I said, closing my body with a blanket and closing my eyes in annoyance.

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Indeed, a wife must be patient if she knows that her husband is more concerned with his family than his wife. But most husbands forget which one to put first, their little family or their parents.

A husband is obliged to provide for his wife first rather than to provide for his parents (Do not forget the obligation to the wife and do not neglect service to parents).

A husband has an obligation to support his wife and children, and he is also obliged to provide for parents who do not have the property and work that meets his needs.

In Islam the law precedes the mother over the wife in terms of providing is not obligatory for the child, except with two conditions:

Poor parents and need help

A rich child who has an excess of income after a living that he can give to his wife and children

Start by giving yourself. If there is a remnant of alms be your family, and if there is any more rest give it to your relatives.

(Hadith Muslim history, no 997)