"My Husband Doesn't Match My Expectations"

Without Ridho the wife is all for naught.

The husband is no longer smoking, after falling from a 7th floor elevator at work, and in hospital for 14 days for 14 days it is also not allowed to smoke. The habit of not smoking for 14 days became carried away, once tried to smoke intended to spend the stock of cigarettes at home, it turns out the cigarette was bitter in his mouth.

We are very grateful that the husband survived this accident, this accident was not included in the work accident, there was no compensation money from the company, money for treatment for herbs, he said, khusuk or therapy also no help from the company.o This accident in the company claims as the fault of the husband himself because in the elevator itself is in written again broken, damaged, besides the elevator is for transporting goods not for transporting employees. At that time the husband was entering night shift work, probably because he was lazy to go down the stairs, so he tried to take the elevator just so as not to be too tired. Elevator dropped from 7th floor of 1st floor. The event has passed 3 months ago.husband can already do normal activities as usual.sometimes sometimes fussy in doing.

Not smoking the husband does not necessarily make our family life better. There is a mother-in-law who must be taken care of, taken care of, and meet her needs. Father-in-law rarely came to town to visit, but he was retired, asked the neighbors of the father-in-law in the village, they said there was no rice fields or fields to do, every day just wandering out of the house, they said, sometimes in coffee shops. Mother-in-law often said that the father-in-law cheated, but we do not believe it, we think it is because of his innate pain that causes him to be sensitive.

"right you know, your father was cheating, the Sumiati his cheating name" said the mother-in-law seriously talk.we just emotionally responded to her "eat quickly healed, Jambak aja later his affair" replied I sober. "You can't believe it, your father was cheating" the mother-in-law spoke seriously as she glared. "Here it is, tired I thought", I left it. Not once or twice has the mother-in-law told me that the father-in-law cheated, it has been a lot. But we always scolded the mother-in-law, "that's it, that's all that's in the story, so it's healed" so I always scolded her. But in the least mother-in-law there is no spirit to heal, even tend to dream often. I also sometimes usually respond that the mother-in-law has told me about the affair of the father-in-law, "emmmmm already" I said angrily.

I then told my husband that my father-in-law cheated on me, my husband just kept quiet, sometimes there is a point said the mother. Remembering what my neighbor said in the village. My husband told me emotionally. That may be the cause of her so that the father does not want to take care of the mother, so that she is free with her affair. I'm quiet too.

Tempramental nature of the husband is derived from the nature of the father-in-law is tempramental, the father-in-law also never hit the mother-in-law. I asked my mother-in-law once, and she said she was playing at my father-in-law until my mother-in-law stopped at her parents' house. It was returned not because of the father-in-law but because the husband who picked up while crying, when he was in 4th grade Elementary.

I'm also worried about the cheating nature of my father-in-law going down to my husband. I must take care of my health, I must not be sick, even if the actions of my husband are so rude, I can only give up and pray to God so that I can be comforted, I must not be hurt. Because it would be a disease for me. Mother-in-law is also like that, maybe the father-in-law is too bored to take care of the sick, the mother-in-law has been sick long enough.

Tok.tok.tok the door on tap, I ran in a hurry, I saw from the window it turns out the husband came, came home from work. After the husband from work homework is done, cook rice, bathe children, bathe mother-in-law, feed children and mother-in-law, all I have done.

I asked the husband, "what did you bring?", "take the bird", said the husband with a smile, Though in my heart I was very irritated. the count of birds plus the cage must have been 500,000, he said, where do you get money from?. Because the husband is looking for money, the husband does seem to want to buy anything. Though yesterday my brother who was the 3rd grand tried to borrow 200,000 money for the cost of the fare he returned home because his wife gave birth, even though my brother grand has promised for next month will definitely pay him back. Husband said there was no money, but maybe he thought later would not be paid by my brother grand. I can't say anything, I'm also sad that I can't help because I don't have any money.

I just shut up and didn't say much about the emotion and pain of this heart. Just as I am my own husband calculation when it is not for my own interests for husband, children, even for mother-in-law. If the husband is an understanding person he should lend the money to my brother grand, because I have been willing to take care of his parents, if taken a nurse to take care of the mother-in-law must have come out a lot of money. Not asking to be paid but not seeing my fatigue, understanding my feelings. Again I must comfort myself, I must be strong, I must not be sick, for the sake of children, there is no way I can ask for a divorce with my husband.

I asked the husband "buy birds from where?", "From friends, because from friends pay her cheap" said the husband calmly, "Buy how much?" ask me ketus. "cheap only" he replied as if.

As cheap as anything that would have come out a lot of money. "Dispose me, instead of me to the coffee shop", with her husband talking lightly. Indeed, I do not want, do not need entertainment, not in view of me. Again the thought raged in my heart.

If I had my own income, I would not ask for husband's money, that's my greatest desire, it feels like this has been lost little by little because of the selfishness of my husband.

Two months later the husband bought another bird, even more expensive than the first bird, a stone magpie complete with a nest. Husband only said "cheap, from friends only 700,000 of these people must be 1 million. What else is this, this heartache.

That is indeed if all is not sanctioned wife, a few months later the first bird cutter flew off the cage, because the husband forgot to close, the husband limp. I was just silent, even though I have mengikhlaskannya already, it can not do anything, let it be, someday he will be aware of his actions.

Lost in the buy again, so changed, whether it was how many birds that had flown, but the husband still did not realize and still bought new birds without telling me and without my consent. And lastly, the stone magpies, bought at a great price, died eating rats. Somehow the rats got in. It was nothing from my treatment that was purely happening huh because the husband was despotic to the wife. Not blessed even in vain all that is done without the consent of the wife.