"My Husband Doesn't Match My Expectations"

My husband is Slowly Softening

The birth of a boy in the middle of our family really makes a great joy for all the family, especially for my husband and me. It feels plong, sometimes if there is a family gathering must be asked "how many children?, which man?", even though only a boy is certainly very grateful. Father-in-law is also very happy at least at the age of this twilight, before the end of his life he already knows that there is a successor to his family, his family, she was in tears and came to visit her newborn granddaughter.

The growth of my newborn child is really grateful healthy, weight gained a lot, not fussy, and I can calm down and recover postpartum energy, too, my first and second children can do housework, clean, cook, and cook. I was not overwhelmed like before when I gave birth to 1,2,3 children.

Although postpartum recovery is very long almost 1 month, often dizzy, not strong road and long standing, maybe because the age of giving birth is 40 years, all is well because the child is independent.

Many of the prayer and material support we have received from our family, neighbors and good friends for the birth of our son, what a great joy.

The husband can gradually change and begin to open his mind to be more attentive and caring to his wife. Than before when I was 3 months pregnant with a husband with a stand can add to his collection of birds, namely, the Murai bird, later I know the price of 2 million before the husband had a stone magpie, but died from being bitten by a rat.

This time the magpie is rather expensive because the husband bought the saplings, just born 1 month of his privilege can be trained to whistle loudly.

"Now long to be home from work? ask my husband because usually the husband comes home from work on time at least 10-15 minutes from work hours, this time a difference of 2 hours.

"Yes, pick this up from a friend's house" he answered, moving the bird that had been in the cardboard box to an empty cage.

"New again" I asked full of question marks

"Betched cheap earlier the same friend, again need his money" he replied with a heart full of fear I was angry

Again I just kept quiet, that's how my husband cared about me, in the third month of my pregnancy I had nausea, vomiting what nothing came into my body, sometimes I limp because there is no food in my stomach because everything has been spewed.

Instead of giving me nutrition in the form of pregnant milk, adding to my monthly allowance cake, the reason is always to say no money, if I ask always ask "What I gave you yesterday is up?" that's always what he said.

Now instead of buying an expensive bird without my confirmation, if confirmation is certainly not allowed, that is probably the reason he did not permit me first.

"Why should it be put in her bird house?" ask my husband, because every night the bird is always moved into the house, even though the house already has a security guard complex, the fence has been closed there is no way the bird stolen my grunts in the heart.

"An expensive bird" the husband replied with a sneak peek.

"How much did you buy?"I keep trying to investigate

"2 million" the husband replied

" How can it be expensive" I asked pura, not showing an angry expression

"Birds of children, newborn 1 month, if the children are easily trained to whistle melodious" he replied enthusiastically

"oh" I'm just a mangosteen

If I was bad and upset that I had to give my heart to the bird, I could have poisoned it when my husband was at work or not at home, but because I was still sane, there's no way I'm gonna take my heartache back to a bird.

I just keep quiet not too grumbling, I do not want to happen before before because it is not ridho finally bird, die in the bite of a mouse, fly almost 3 tails. Birds have been bought for 2 million, dear if dead or stolen. Buy it later which is more expensive.

I think it must be expensive, because the usual, husband once told me he bought 200 thousand, now the size is large, the husband once said he bought 200 thousand, the hook is also large as in carving carving must be very expensive the price of my drum in the heart.

"There's a new one" I answered pura smiling not showing any annoyance.

"Yes, credit from Ali" the husband replied without guilt

Ali is a coworker husband, Ali can provide any credit loan according to consumer demand, This time the husband asked for credit to buy a bird cage.

"Why does it look like an old cage?" ask my husband

" The old cage is narrow" answered the husband

The magpie newly bought by her husband had long tail wings, the old cage was too small, If she again took a drink or took food in the corner, her wings liked to be stuck in the gap of the cage, if she had a drink, sometimes the fur falls out.

What I can do, I'm just a non-working wife that just depends on the husband's gift. Want to protest for sure the reason "than I hang out hanging out at the stall, I'm still a good husband does not like to wander, always straight home from work" that is all the words and pleadings of the husband against him as if he were right.

Whether because of what the husband arrived angry, maybe because of the behavior of children who do not fit his wishes, the husband accused me "this is if the child likes to be spoiled, maybe because the child likes to be spoiled, teaching too soft if it is difficult to teach why tired tired ngockeh or screaming, mengeningan the child was immediately slapped so deterred, otherwise tomorrow the child will step on you" my husband said to me with emotion.

Then talk also to the children" If you want to step on your mama, step on it there, but if the same I you mikukan I beat you" what does that mean. According to my husband too soft to children, I do not teach good to children.

I was upset by the assumption of such a husband, where there is a mother who teaches the bad to her children, indeed I did not beat the hard most Cubit thighs, yelling and chattering prolonged.

Either the teaching from the wrong beginning, so the child becomes hard and opposed. I also then deny the words of the husband, if it is angry the husband said it to be rude and thin, the smartest make people hurt, if you are angry, and because I was also protesting about his nature he was getting angry and almost playing punches.

I immediately parried his hand while saying "your heart acts yes, once you make me hurt, do not let me out of this house, if I have come out of this house, if I have been out of this house, until whenever I won't be back".

Husband immediately resisted the collision of his hands that almost landed on my face.

Then I also said" Do you appreciate me, you are not shameless, did you ever give something to me, a gram of gold you never gave me, but you, you, buy a bird until how many times, try to count it how many have come out for it" I was full of emotions and tears convey all my heartache to the husband.

He was silent, still insisting. "What am I, I never hang out in the stalls, I don't eat hidden, if there is a food visit from work sometimes I take it home, not ashamed of it I take it, he said, be patient with you, there will be time, if our economy improves"

"You're good on that side, but on the other hand you're selfish, you ever care about my feelings" I said in self-defense.

Our commotion had made our fourth child who was 4 months old cry to hear us fighting great, his older brother was also only silent after everything I told into their room.

Usually if we fight I always give up and end it. The principle is that if we fight in the morning do not let the dark not be finished, must be finished before dark, if it is dark or the night of fighting do not get the light of the problem, must be finished before morning. The point is that the problem should not be finished for days that day.

In order not to be prolonged I relented, apologized, and finally we were able to reconcile again.