"My Husband Doesn't Match My Expectations"

Passing through life

I always think about my dream last night, I dream my sister Andi seemed to escape from her pain, she was dressed in pure black white and very happy. I asked in my heart what it meant, ahh maybe it was just a flower sleeping.

After my father's departure, I always communicated with my mother, at least once every two days I tried to call my mother, I said, "Are you healthy?" "Healthy" replied the mother on the other end of the phone.

"Your sister Andi, is not well" my mother replied adding to our conversation.

"what's he sick?" ask me if I want to know

"it's been two days that she's been vomiting, and she's been having a hard time eating" my mother explained my curiosity

"Well, how can you!, have you been taken for treatment?" I kept asking mom

"Somethah may catch a cold, have been treated from Erni's midwife" replied the mother sadly

"so how's that?" I keep asking, wondering

"it's kind of better, it felt good last night, after I pricked" she continued

"thank God, I hope he gets well soon"

I replied so that my mother would not worry. Hangup phone. Trying to continue the activity in the morning, at first glance I thought of my dream that Andi dressed in clean black white does it mean Andi will die?, for some reason I predict like that.

Not long ago I distanced my thoughts, I received a phone call from my mother, who spoke was My brother Hery "Hello, Andi is dead" Hery's brother tried to tell me the news. I heard the mother's voice screaming and calling Andi's name...Andi..Andi..

My God, what trials are fitting a year after the departure of my brother Andi's father following the father, actually have not accepted that the father left too soon has been followed again by my sister Andi. it is unthinkable to feel the sadness of mother due to Andi's departure.

I told this news to the husband, it happens that the husband works the night shift, goes home at 8 am. The husband is silent.

"you and the children are the only ones who go home? ask my husband

"you don't feel like I don't care, you know that I work, anyways if I come along, we're gonna need a lot of money, I only have 600,000 dollars to use and good enough good enough"

"ok, I'm done right first" soon passed to end our conversation.

I have arrived at the village overnight, because it was from the city already past the middle of the new day to get transportation, all solid transportation. The distance from the city to the village is taken by 6 hours. There is no longer transportation towards the house, because bus transportation from the city only until the terminal does not reach the house that is still in the course of 1 hour to the far side of the village.

I called my sister Mory, a mory above Andi. She wanted to pick me up and the kid from the terminal. After we got home.neighbors have been crowded to mourn, I saw the mother had swollen eyes and face, surely the mother had just cried.I also tried to hug the mother and calm her. so that the mother is patient, sincere and still maintain health because the mother is elderly.

All customs and funeral processes are going well and smoothly. After the funeral it was almost dark afternoon because the cloudy atmosphere wanted to rain like it.

At home there were two aunts who were mother's sisters who came to accompany us along with their children. Fortunately they came to accompany because the mother was always crying, there were those who advised the mother not to cry continuously. We were afraid that Mom would get sick. Me and the children almost one Sunday in the village accompanied the mother, I contacted the child's teacher to give permission because we were in mourning and were in the village, fortunately, the teacher is an understanding child teacher and indeed the school atmosphere is no longer the exam season.

I don't know how my husband felt after my brother Andi died, whether he was sorry or just plain old. Andi who used to be bandal hopes that he can change, father hopes that he will stay with us, so that his college can be finished, but the husband can not compromise and tolerate the cute nature of Andi, so Andi must spend time, and, and it turns out Andi lost control, the messy lecture never went to college, finally stopped unable to follow again.Last condition is a lot of confinement in the room do not want to socialize, sleep late at night, sleep late, wake up in the afternoon until the afternoon, as soon as his daily activities, I slice. his future is destroyed. Perhaps this is the best, Andi died at the age of 32 years and has not married.

After Andi died, mother still did not receive him much crying, understand Andi is the youngest child in our family. Mother often visited Andi's grave and continued to cry at her tomb, I can not forbid mother, mother still insistent on doing her. Until she got sick, I couldn't do anything. I can only pray for my mother to stay healthy.

Destiny is in the hands of God, what can be done to prevent it can only surrender and knowakal only. What we do is what we get, the good deeds we do good deeds will come back to us, but the evil deeds we do evil deeds will come back to us.

I hope my little family, my children in particular do not experience what I experience, it is easy for them to get an understanding husband, a husband who can feel their feelings are not selfish, he said, do not feel to be respected, should husband and wife is equal, the same have obligations and responsibilities in terms of taking care of children, and responsibilities to their respective families.

Both the husband against the wife's family, on the other hand the wife against the husband's family, there is no term because of custom, the wife has become the right of the husband, so the wife no longer needs to take care of her family. very selfish in my opinion. Though the wife is required to consider the husband's family is his family now, while the family of the wife as not considered.

Hopefully my husband can also be a husband who can understand his wife is not calculating or stingy, consider his wife's family is his family too, can appreciate his wife, can respect his wife, wife does not work does not mean so as she likes to hurt her feelings, on the contrary if the husband who works does not mean so royal give to others or at will buy something that she wants, but instead if the husband who works does not mean so royal give to others or at will buy something that she wants, must first meet the needs of the wife or at least ask permission from the wife. Open to the wife for everything, not hiding your hands behind her,

If the husband can run it all, surely the sustenance for the family will be open. If the husband calculations all will not be a blessing even tend to be in vain. The slightest income if the husband and wife should think as surely enough, on the contrary if the income of many if the husband and wife is not as thought it will tend to run out just like that. The wife does not ask to buy this or buy it, enough the wife must be understood, a wise wife will not demand much, she knows the circumstances, the situation and the condition of her husband.