"My Husband Doesn't Match My Expectations"

Dad left us forever

Five months after we occupied the new house, the mother-in-law died, after the mother-in-law died our finances were getting worse, he said, because the status of the husband who is the first son of 6 brothers all the burden of traditional reception fees until the funeral process is the responsibility of the husband, little by little the burden can be overcome.

A year passed after the death of her mother-in-law the burden of her actual debt had not been completed, hoping that this year could be looser.

Crane..kring. Husband gets a phone call from my cousin Sony, my mother is a sibling with her mother Sony. "Hello who is this?", asked the husband "I Sony bang, want to tell his father brother died" replied Sony on the other end of the phone "What, you are Serious?", asked the husband back. Actually I don't know who called my husband, because I'm still busy getting done for breakfast 'cause it's still early at 9, I've already taken the kids to school." Right, bang. this morning I called Bang Grand" replied Sony explained. The third brother of my brother, who was a job at the expedition company where my father worked, bang Grand as Admin who made a road letter if there was a driver who wanted to leave. "Yes, I'll tell your sister about this sad news.

Then Husband immediately hugged me, I was surprised what is this?, asked me full of question marks. "Patience" the husband said as he rubbed my back, tried to speak more slowly, and was patient, so that I could more calmly accept this news. "What is this?", I asked somewhat angrily. "Father passed away this morning, I was just on Sony's phone" my husband answered my question. "No way, you've been healthy so far never heard that you're sick, anyway Sony who called why not bang Grand who directly called me" I replied denying hearing this news. "Try calling bang Grand" My husband told me to. I called the Grand Bang.

"Hello bang, he said the father is dead?, asked me to bang Sony while crying as it happens." Never mind, there's no point in crying all the time", trying to keep comforting me. "you can't" I asked in curiosity. "Evening at 3 am disperse to sleep after gathering together with friends for 4 hours. It turned out that at 7 am this morning in wakein was no longer moving, now again taken to the hospital for fissure, to find out the cause of the consequences", bang Grand tried to explain it to me in detail. "When brought to the village of his corpse", I asked "after the fissure, maybe early Friday morning to the village" said bang Grand. "Who will take care of and finance to get to the village" I asked curiously, because we are all children of the father including the underprivileged, for the cost of the process of repatriating the body will certainly cost a lot.

"The boss in the company of the father who will spend all the cost" said bang Grand to relieve my worries.

Oh my God, I still don't believe anything today, I never thought I'd leave so fast, and I never complained that he was sick. I said to the elderly mother who was 5 years apart from the father, the father died at the age of 70.

How the mother will live life, during this time the mother is financed by the father, means the mother must work in the fields and in the fields very hard, in order to survive. While our children are not able to finance the life of the mother.

The night we immediately take tickets for 5 people, husband, me and 3 of my daughters we want to go home, not wait tomorrow, so we can clean up the house.

My position in the family is as a daughter, meaning that girls do not play much role, just as help help to clean the house what needs to be done, help help for the kitchen, what needs to be done, what needs to be done, my equipment and equipment that must be repaired, so the daughter is tired of her duties, my husband also has to play my position is his position, too, due to falling from the elevator while at work the husband is not strong to do heavy work.

Sometimes showing his anger in front of the crowd, I was also ignited emotions, also sometimes do not accept to see his behavior. Why can't my husband cover up his frustration, he's in my parents' house. Please understand, it is not a wise attitude in my opinion.

We did not spend the slightest money, for the cost of traditional receptions to the funeral process of the father, because all costs were borne from the sorrow money given by the company where the father worked quite a lot. That is, until the end of the father's life, the father does not bother his children. He helped us a lot in our economic situation.

The hardest hit for the death of the father I saw was my mother and sister Andi, Andi whose condition was only confined to the room, he said, after dad's body arrived at the house he just saw coming to the living room for a while not willing to join us.

I told Andi, how his future, when the father was there, the father bought him hp, hp, buying a comfortable bed for him also bought clothes and pants so that Andi can be excited and not embarrassed to interact with his friends, he said, at first if his friend was in the village he still wanted to sing in the stall and join his friend, now his friend's friend has married his friend's friend already on the wander to the city.

When I called trying to communicate with Andi, Andi never picked up my phone. There is no point in thinking it might be in the heart. I don't have much, I don't even have anything to do to help her.

School holidays arrived I also keep visiting my parents' house, I have to encourage my mother, after father died mother had to work hard to work on the rice fields and fields, in addition to living expenses, the cost of living, mother also had to give money to Andi for the cost of cigarettes.

Andi vented his boredom by consuming cigarettes can even spend 2 packs of cigarettes a day, because he was often staying up late, and I think even Andi was difficult to sleep at night, he even slept in the morning until late afternoon. Andi often forces the mother to give her money, even though the mother only has 10,000 it will certainly be forced Andi to give it to her. Andi did not want to help mother in the fields or in the fields.

Oh If I had a lot of money, have my own income already my mother to the city live with me, but what power, my husband would not agree mother to live with me, my mother, Tempramental husband to children, mother will be sad and stressed to see that children are beaten by husband, even to myself husband always talk ketus, do not think I hurt or not. Mom could stand watching me being mocked that way. Oh Mother may God give you strength, health, and long life and may I be able to make you happy with my labors, open the door of my sustenance, O Lord, grant your servant's prayer.