"My Husband Doesn't Match My Expectations"

When this trial passes

There is just the behavior of my mother-in-law who sometimes makes me upset, she asked to go to the bathroom defecating, even though only 1 hour ago she finished bathing, he finished bathing, because he said he wanted to defecate, I hurriedly took my mother-in-law to the bathroom to carry her by wearing her cane while I held her arm so as not to fall. when I got to the bathroom I left her, "later when I'm done saying yes Ma'am", so my message to my mother-in-law.

"yes", he answered quickly.

Waiting for almost 15 minutes, "there's out his shit", I asked him, "yet, no more maybe" he replied quickly. I waited another 15 minutes, and I approached. "If you really urinate, yes just tell me the truth, but this is no bowel movement" I was upset and angry with him. I'm tired of carrying it back and forth, any diaper that should still be able to use, can't use it anymore, because it's torn. So wasteful diapers deh.

It was so inconsiderate, for the sake of his pleasure. Mother-in-law may feel sultry, so she wants to go to the bathroom to be fresher, open diaper pants, may feel hot in diapers continuously. But how, if you do not want to wear diapers, there should be a healthy desire, go to the bathroom alone, not even ngerepotin people. There is still a lot of work to be done. Children almost every month always sick, changing replacements, sometimes the fatties first, then a few days later his brother, bothered to bring to the hospital because he had to queue, take an angkot, take a ride, after all, no one takes care of the mother-in-law, I only give children drugs sold in pharmacies.

That's why if the mother-in-law asks to go to the bathroom, I pretend not to hear it, "just throw it in the diaper" I said to the mother-in-law. He was upset, I don't care. Sometimes if in soft, mother-in-law so as she likes us. Mother-in-law also likes to forget what she did, she sometimes forgets to eat, she says she has not eaten, she also tells back and forth, forgetting that she has told a story over and over again.

Fortunately her mother-in-law, occasionally to the house of sister-in-law, Nosta and Asti. Besides being able to remove my saturation, Mother-in-law can also change the atmosphere, can be cared for by her own daughter.

"What do you think this is" said the husband while presenting a brochure about KPR, Judging from the installment is Not bad, it can be nyicilnya when viewed the amount of the current salary of the husband. Where does DP come from. I asked my husband, "I borrowed 20 million from a friend, maybe that's enough for DP. While for the completion of DP and file management to the agreement, there is still a deadline. So we focus first on paying off DP. After that think about the monthly installment of KPRnya.

With prayer and indeed we are one between husband and wife, this KPR management process runs smoothly, to the level of agreement. The house is legally ours, a certificate approved on behalf of the husband.

There is still much to be addressed in the new house, such as the kitchen there is no roof, the housing model is a minimalist model of the sink and to cook adjacent to the living room,. Behind there is a residual land along 1 m, so that the remaining land can effectively be used, the kitchen in the back we moved to have no money to build a kitchen, so we did not have money to build a kitchen, we can not fix the doors and windows directly, the canopy is also not all must be repaired little by little, Wait for there is money.

Our husband and wife from the beginning did struggle from zero, after marriage there was no capital given to parents. There is no inheritance of land or house that parents can give, even husbands also stop working and are unemployed for a year. I must not be discouraged even though the KPR house can not be immediately restored, with a kitchen that has no roof. I should be grateful, because this is a process.

Six months it's time to pay rent, the system pays in advance for a year. Rather than we have to think about paying the contract, but every month we also have to pay KPR installments. We just move to our house, I suggested to my husband. "What are you not ashamed of?, the kitchen has no roof, there are no iron doors, there are no window bars, there are no canopies and fences, too, though our neighbor already exists complete with the fence" said the husband with emotion, "no, I am not ashamed, anyway I do not depend on others, why should think about the words of others", answer me with confidence.

In addition to fixing the house, there is still a lot to think about, it needs a motorcycle, the location of the house is far from the market, from the workplace of the husband (husband shuttle because the workplace is outside the city), and so on, now a one-city workplace, away from a child's school. Inevitably forced was the nyicil of a motorcycle and learned to ride it, because indeed we are blind, do not know to ride a motorcycle.

The transfer process is not only draining energy, but it takes a lot of costs, it takes a large transportation to be able to transport all goods, not expensive goods anyway, almost to the goods butut, the goods, but it's a shame to throw it away. The location of the new house is out of town, so the freight is very expensive. Good thing my father still wants to help the cost of DP for motorcycle installments, and freight. Little by little the problem is resolved, staying KPR installments and motorcycles every month to be paid plus the cost of living Husband, wife, children and mother-in-law.

KPR installments and motorcycle installments are only a little of the amount of the husband's salary, if you think it is very less, and dizzy to think about the adequacy. Oh God, if God will suffice, that is always my prayer.

My father was an out-of-town expedition driver, Dad always passed from the city where I lived, I told my father a lot about our economic conditions, my father also supported us to take KPR installments, and my father also supported us to take KPR installments, but our living expenses will be very less even not enough to have to borrow money from a husband's friend.

Sometimes my dad tells me to come to the car wash, she says she misses grandchildren. We came and Dad always gave me a little money, good enough for the needs of 1 week.that's how dad, I don't know how many times I can remember anymore, the husband also either remembered or not if the father wanted to give money, to help assist the cost of living every month. Three months we've been living in a new house, Mother-in-law came with us boyong, father-in-law never came. It turns out that the mother-in-law is not getting better, even declining her health. Morning as usual I told her to get up, at least sit on her own in bed can still do her, but can't, I kept forcing her, every time she tried to sit down fell can't sit up straight.

Mother-in-law could no longer sit up straight and long, she could not speak, could not eat, every drink, always choking, we felt sorry to see her choking like hard breathing, we are also afraid to give it.

just drink choking especially rice, we also have to grind the rice, even then only given a few spoons. At noon we were worried that no food would come into his mouth. We called the father-in-law, as if it was hands off, meaning we were his son who made the decision how good.

Without a second thought we took my mother-in-law to the hospital, for 14 days she was hospitalized, there was no change, so that there is food that goes into his stomach we have to tell the nurse to install a hose, food is inserted through the hose. In order to get better care we refer the mother-in-law to a hospital in a big city. But it is very troublesome to go back and forth from the hospital to the house and the transportation costs are also large, because I also have to bring children. Frista also still had to go to campus back and forth, finally her mother-in-law was brought home to the village, anticipating also where to know the mother-in-law died, so no additional costs if she died, so no more costs if she died, let the mother-in-law be cared for in the village.

Experiments feel unrelenting ceasing to come, there is only expenditure. For the cost of living alone is not enough, there are only expenses that must be covered. It feels heavy, the 2-month KPR installment we did not pay, have been back and forth on the phone, to be paid off immediately, still 2 years we live, even though the house installment for 15 years, even though the house installment, we are able, Lord. We can get through it, God.