"My Husband Doesn't Match My Expectations"

If my husband were not selfish

"Andi should stay at home with you, if indeed he still wants to continue his education" said my father to me.

The words of the father I told my sister and my husband, it just so happened that he knew my sister's background, who almost dropped out of school until 3rd grade of High School.

Because I care about his future, I take care of the school move from village to city.

Because of my brother's reliability, he was fired from old school. I took care so he could go back to school at least he had a High School diploma. And maybe it is more important to finish High School than to finish Junior High.

After graduating from High School, he fiddled with the test to enter the state college of gratitude, finally he could graduate to the state college majoring in teacher economics. My sister and my husband agreed to stay 1 house.

My sister also brought a cousin sister from the village, so we live together in a rented house with my 2 younger brothers.

"Andi, Tono got up", I kept knocking on the door of the room, for my sister to wake up because it's 7:00 in the morning, they have to go to campus.

They go to campus every Monday-Friday and enter 8.00 am. At 14.00 they return home, immediately take a plate for lunch.

After that 'gubrak' close the door, until the morning again to return to routine.

Out of the room just to take a shower, grab some rice to eat. And eat in the room, room once a week on the broom. They have a computer that can be a TV.

A month passed, there was no communication between my sister and my husband.

My husband protested "i'm not considered in this house, not a story, or a question, or anything just a stale talk how to get communication" my husband protested to me.

I also told my two sisters, my sister was silent.

The next day they tried to communicate with my husband, but my husband only answered yes, no, and remained cool to the game.

From morning until late at night, sometimes even until 3 am just sleeping, even if I remember, eating and bathing were sometimes late because it was too cool to play games.

My sister is lazy and feels in the cuekin, communication is stiff and boring, they do not want to try communication with my husband.

There are also cousins from my husband living next door, they want to come home, my husband can laugh, and my husband also wants to leave the game for a while, just keep talking.

If with my brother the husband does not want to make a new conversation, how to not stiff. I felt my husband was selfish but I just kept quiet.

Their communication is only limited to returning home campus at 14.00 "tok.tok.tok bang please open the door". The door was opened by my husband, and indeed my husband was playing games in the living room while sitting facing the computer.

The rice-filled plate should have stayed in the meal in a messy throw on the floor, my husband was angry.

And indeed to his marahan only on the vent to me, my sister in the room.

My husband screamed as loudly as he did "I'm not considered in this house", they (both my sisters), just eat, sleep, sweep no house, do not wash dishes, in the room continue, and so on, keep watching, the electric current goes back and forth, you teach it, do not mentang men can not work.

We're in my family working men" my husband shouted.

I was just teary-eyed, sobbing sobbing, I was sad and sandwiched between my sister and my husband.

Maybe because my unemployed husband was just at home. Every morning I have to work home in the afternoon, in the morning I prepare breakfast until lunch.

I have to prepare dinner so is my daily routine.

I do that routine every morning and when I get home from work I sweep home and I prepare dinner. Why would my husband mind?, I just thought, okay, just so my sister could be done.

But the desire of my husband, my sister, I have to have work to keep telling them, they agreed, they went home from college to do the dishes, did the dishes in the morning, did not have time to rush to campus.

The act of washing dishes by my sister does not make my husband feel comfortable. Still my husband is tempramental, there's just my sister's fault.

Especially if on Sundays or holidays, the campus has no lectures. My sisters all day at home, doing the dishes my sister does as usual, even though my husband wants them to do the dishes in the morning.

"Work itung-itungan, what is the difficulty of washing dishes. Why wait for the dishes to pile up, and to be washed in the afternoon, can not be washed immediately?", so protested my husband to me.

I just kept quiet, in my heart thinking, why my husband could not compromise with his heart.

My brother's house and meal money were paid monthly by my father. Why doesn't he consider my sister the one who sniffs at home, so he doesn't feel inner distress.

The meal money from my 2 younger siblings is very helpful to the family economy because my husband does not work just rely on my salary is not much, even though he has to cover his cigarette money 1-2 packs/day.

kring.kring phone call hp, phone call from my in-laws girl.

"Where is it or not?"ask my in-laws to me.

"yet ma'am, be patient, maybe God is not loving" I replied to him

6 Months into my marriage, I'm not pregnant yet. I felt it might have something to do with the inner pressure over my husband's temperament to my sister's sister.

If my husband is angry, there is something floating, such conditions sometimes make me always cry. At work I was also very tired.

I work in a paint factory with a profession as a warehouse admin, have to check which stocks are lacking and need to be added, check in/out the goods transported by the driver.

"I don't know why I'm not pregnant yet, maybe it's not time yet" I muttered in my heart.

My husband can't understand my feelings, he should be sensitive, don't protest too much about my sister.

Because after all, I would be offended if my husband protested about my sister's nature, not defending my sister anyway.

It means that my husband can not be more understanding and berapang chest willing to accept the shortcomings of my sister.

Though my husband was the first of 6 children, did he not think that someday his sister's turn would come to live with him.

Now maybe it's my turn, my sister's only Andi. Really my husband does not think ahead, how later if his sister who lives at home with us, can he impose his will?

My sister was also uncomfortable with the atmosphere at home, because they always heard my husband was angry.

But even that does not necessarily make them change, whether because they do not understand, or they feel right and ordinary times, he thought inwardly.

There was no wind, no rain, not to mention the anger of my husband. Suddenly my husband came to the room to approach my cousin's sister and floated his hands, with all my strength trying to pass her.

" Next year I don't want to go home with you guys, just don't want any more dots", rubbed, he passed out of the room.

How would it be if my sister wasn't home with me, she would lose control, and would drop out of college like back in High School. Hopefully he can be okay, I hope in my heart.