SADNESS OF MY LIFE

42.Prepare for marriage

Elisa and Ridwan are busy preparing for the wedding? Or maybe you have an unforgettable experience when preparing for a wedding?preparing for a wedding always gives an unforgettable impression and experience.

The wedding was a dream for Elisha and Ridwan. Elisha prepared for the great day in the long run with careful preparation. But there are also weddings that are carried out with short preparation time for various reasons. If the wedding is done with only 2 months preparation it may be included in the category of short wedding preparations, including Elisha one of them. Starting from meeting a soul mate to the wedding Elisha felt all was short.

But before telling the grief of Elisha preparing for marriage, Elisha's first obstacle found his soul mate. Because the main requirement of marriage is the bride and groom. Elisha found a mate at the age of 20 years old. Since childhood, I aspired to be married at a young age of at least 25 years already married. But how a soul mate, Elisha has found his life partner.

The soul mate is slovenly, like sustenance that often comes at unexpected times. When Elisha was desperate and resigned, a soul mate suddenly appeared. Elisa and Ridwan have known each other long enough, about 2 months, but rarely say hello even though one room work. Maybe in 6 months they can be counted using their fingers directly communicate.

Suddenly, Ridwan reveals that he wants to meet with Elisha's parents and wants to commit to Elisha through marriage. Is Elisha surprised ?. "If again fantasize like someone wants to marry soon, continue to marry have children and live happily" said Elisha.But when faced with something like this between shocked, confused, there is a senengnya as well, all mixed into one.

Elisa and Ridwan both worked together, and our parents happened to be both bandung people. Therefore Ridwan could directly meet with the parents of Elisha. eventually Elisha also met with both parents Ridwan. This is where Elisha initially thought it was just a family meeting with the intention of getting to know each other but it turned out that Elisha was proposed. The wedding was left to Elisha and Ridwan. At first Ridwan and Elisha asked two months later to get married.

Nentuin the date of the wedding was complicated as well, Finally mostly on going to the wedding of Elisha and Ridwan.Ridwan also less srek initially, why should Ridwan who relented to change the date of the wedding that has been determined. But in the end they agreed on the date of the marriage was pushed forward to April 25, 2019. Fortunately, although they both come from bandung which is commonly known by the count of good days but they and the family assume that all days are good. So the family accepted both of their decisions.

Preparation for the wedding it takes time especially we have the principle not to be too troublesome family. The administrative affairs of the marriage was only done at the end of January because Ridwan had a time to go home only that time.  The concept of marriage from childhood I dreamed of a simple marriage concept quite a jab qobul in KUA and as gratitude and announced that we are married officially religiously and legally. Ridwan also agreed, there is no need for a wedding like others do with the reception and others.

Reality is not as simple as they think. Elisha was the only daughter and the first child in the family. Finally put aside Elisha's wishes and decided there was a small reception according to input from the family. Determining the concept of marriage and looking for wedding clothes, make up, catering and others with a time of two months it was very mepet once. Bridal clothes until many times change the concept, Elisa fits but Ridwan does not, not to mention parents and in-laws.

When it comes to matters of parents or in-laws it is most confusing, because we do not want the parents of Elisha and Ridwan disappointed. Finally, the concept of the traditional bride is chosen even though not all customary processions are carried out, only the most important parts. This is because of the calculation to the money that Elisha and Ridwan had. All expenses if possible all from Ridwan and Elisha both. Elisa and Ridwan do not want to burden both parents, although marrying the child is the responsibility of both parents. Honestly Elisha until dizzy set to this wedding money, Elisha's savings are not large in number. And finally Elisha and Ridwan married the dowry of a set of prayer tools alone without any other addition.

Not only the concept of marriage, small things if Elisha and Ridwan put their respective egos first will end in a fight. Small things like determining the driver had a storm, but eventually Elisha relented and chose the choice of Ridwan.which may often be felt during the last days before the wedding there-there was a scene. Starting from the sudden ex-girlfriend Ridwan who suddenly came. It was as if their story was not finished yet, even though Ridwan and Elisha had finished their story long ago.

Deg-degan, upset with the end of the story because her ex is more than Elisha she is more everything, she is more beautiful.her body is better, than family is and much more. Thank God Ridwan did not waver from his intentions and solved his problems with his ex. Not ending there, Elisha suddenly knew the bad behavior of Ridwan.Ridwan before close to Elisha. If Ridwan is not firm with the stance could be this cancel their marriage. But at that time Elisha could accept it and assume it was just a thing of the past. If Elisha saw one bad thing and saw not a thousand good things, it would be unjust. After all, every human has a past, and Ridwan wants to change for the better. Elisha was not a perfect person, he had many flaws.

Finally after going through various things, on April 25, 2019 at 09.00 WIB we are religiously and legally valid with a dowry of a set of prayer tools paid in cash. Marriage is not the end of a love story but the beginning of a true love story. The name of the union of two different people must not be as easy as uniting both hands. Differences of opinion and perspective must exist, as long as we want to discuss and do not prioritize the ego of each problem can be solved together. Speaking using the heart and want to know more about the personality of the couple. Now Elisha considers Ridwan is the rightful husband of Elisha.