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Wedding Preparation

Every human being certainly yearns to live with the person he loves and the way to live with the person he loves is through marriage. Yes, marriage is an inauguration of the relationship between a man and a woman based on law and sharia to build a household that is sakinah, mawaddah and warahmah. Every marriage that is lived must start with something good and this can be started by preparing for marriage carefully. So what are the things that need to be prepared before the wedding??

Definition of Marriage Preparation

Marriage or which in Islamic Sharia is called by the term marriage is one of the principles and needs in social life. Islam considers that marriage is not only a noble way to be married and have children, but it is also a door of introduction between one tribe or community with another tribe or people, the other society, as Allah SWT said in his following words (read the law of marriage in Islam)

يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقْنَاكُمْ مِنْ ذَكَرٍ وَأُنْثَىٰ وَجَعَلْنَاكُمْ شُعُوبًا وَقَبَائِلَ لِتَعَارَفُوا ۚ إِنَّ أَكْرَمَكُمْ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ أَتْقَاكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ خَبِيرٌ

“O man, We created you from a man and a woman and made you nations and tribes so that you may know one another. Verily the noblest among you by Allah is the most feared among you. Verily Allah is All-Knowing, All-Knowing. (QS Al Hujurat: 13)

Thus, marriage is a common sunnatullah that applies to humans and marriage is a way given by Allah SWT to preserve the lives of mankind. Marriage preparation is one of the important things to continue the relationship to the level of marriage and includes several aspects including the preparation of the bride and groom, legal and sharia preparation and preparation of the required budget. Here are the wedding preparations in Islam :

* Preparation of Bride Candidates

The prospective bride is a person who will be married or married and before the wedding takes place of course the bride and groom must already have readiness. The readiness of the bride and groom can be seen in several ways, namely as follows

* Physical Preparation

A bride-to-be who is getting married should be ready physically and her body in other words, she has reached puberty and is ready to fulfill her duties as a wife and as a husband. Before the wedding should check the health of the body first, especially those concerning reproductive problems because one of the goals of marriage is that later the couple will have offspring. Therefore, if there is a problem with the physical and organs related to it then it should be addressed first.

* Mental preparation

The bride-to-be should be ready for marriage and have realized that she will get married and have a new life. In order not to stress or experience problems after marriage, the bride should prepare mentally so that she can accept all the responsibilities as a husband and a wife. Forcing yourself to get married when mentally unprepared can cause problems later in life.

This usually occurs in those who are married young and do not have the mental readiness to live a married life. If before marriage, a person is free to do anything and manage his life, after marriage he is not only responsible to himself but also to his partner.

* Spiritual preparation

Marriage is not only something that requires mental and physical preparation but also spiritual readiness. A married person should ask Allah SWT for guidance and draw closer to Him so that the marriage he later lived is in accordance with the sharia given to Muslims. This is why a person who is going to get married is also encouraged to pray istikharah and diligently carry out other worship such as fasting so that he really feels steady to get married.

* Economic preparation

Thus, the, before marriage, one should have a job that can later support married life even though this is not a benchmark because God himself promises to combine sustenance and bestow it for those who are getting married.

* Social preparation

Social preparation in question is everything that concerns the position of a person in society, the, in this case someone who will get married should have a good relationship with the community, especially in the place where the married couple will live. Marriage will not only concern the bride but also involve the participation of the surrounding community.

* Legal and Sharia Preparation

In addition to the preparation of the bride and groom, other preparations that are no less important are the preparation of marriage in sharia and law. Before marriage, the couple must first take care of all the state documents needed to get married and register it in the KUA or religious affairs office. In addition, couples who are getting married must also prepare all the necessary terms and conditions at the time of marriage.

Among the terms and conditions that must exist in marriage is the presence of the guardian of the bride (read the widow's guardian) and witnesses who will be present in the marriage. Everything that concerns it must be prepared properly because if it is not fulfilled then the marital status of a person is not valid either in the eyes of religion or in the eyes of the applicable law.

* Budget and Material Preparation

Preparation that must be considered next is the preparation of the budget or funds to be used at the time of marriage. Although this is not mandatory or does not have to hold a festive party for the wedding, but still in the wedding, there are costs that must be incurred for example for the transparency of documents, marriage contract events, etc, and so forth. If someone will hold a wedding party that will invite the public to watch his wedding then he must consider everything well and should not be excessive because the act is not liked by Allah SWT.

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" yes, paaa "