It's up to God

The Single Time is over

When the day is waiting, today Haikal will release his bachelor. Nadira pondered what she experienced today just as her older sister had experienced when she was about to marry Ammar and this was a natural process in life. Nadira was happy, but it was not sincere to release her brother to another woman. In the busy time of Haikal alone, Nadira is often jealous, especially with the woman who will become his sister-in-law later.

Nadira should understand the feelings of jealousy experienced as a natural thing, but she should also be able to control these feelings so as not to damage the relationship with her brother and sister-in-law. She can try to distract him by helping with the wedding preparations, so as to strengthen the familial bond and show support to her brother.

In addition, Nadira also needs to realize that marriage is part of the sunnah of the Prophet and is part of a reasonable life for a Muslim. Understanding that Haikal has found a good life partner and is desired by Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala must be a happiness for his family. The meeting is indeed short, ranging from the process of ta'aruf (introduction), khitbah (lamaran or pinangan), to walimah (marriage).

Everyone was busy with their respective duties, even Haikal came down directly to prepare for his wedding. He wanted to give his best for this happy day, to the extent that the food and drinks that would be served to the invited guests, he prepared.

Both Haikal's parents were worried that his son was exhausted, but Haikal was not his name if he did not participate directly in serving food and drinks. Nadira was not surprised, because his brother was among the perfectionists. Want everything to be perfect, so 70% of wedding preparations are taken care of by themselves.

Even so, Nadira felt proud of her brother who was so excited and enthusiastic in welcoming her happy day. Although Nadira is jealous of the woman who will become her brother-in-law later, she still supports and respects her brother's decision to marry. This is an important moment in Haikal's life and he doesn't want to get in the way of his happiness.

As a sister, Nadira was able to provide moral support to her brother. He can be a good listener for Haikal when he feels stressed or anxious ahead of the wedding. Nadira can also help in the wedding preparations if her brother needs help. Although Haikal looks preoccupied with the wedding preparations, Nadira has to keep a close eye on her brother's health and make sure he gets enough rest.

In preparation for marriage, Haikal should also prioritize his health and not excessive in spending energy. He can ask for help from family or close friends to help with wedding preparations, so as not to get tired and still be able to enjoy his marriage happily. Health and happiness are more important than the perfect wedding.

Ultimately, marriage is about building a good relationship between the two families and Nadira has to be open and friendly towards her future sister-in-law. She should also appreciate her brother's feelings and happiness and introduce herself well to the family of her future sister-in-law. It is important to build a harmonious relationship between the two families and maintain the happiness of her brother in his marriage.

May Haikal's marriage run smoothly and bring happiness to his family, as well as newly married couples.

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"I received the marriage and marriage of Yasmin Khawla Aleena bint Gilang Ramadhan with the dowry. Paid, cash!" ammar said with one breath.

"How are the witnesses?" ask penghulu.

"Well!"

"Alhamdulillahi Rabbil 'alaamiin .... Baarakallahu laka wa baarakaa alaika wa jamaa bainakumaa fii khoir."

Tahmid reverberated, greeted with a roaring cry that flooded the room. His heart was pounding, as if he had finished a running race. Now, Haikal has officially become Yasmin's husband, taking over Gilang's responsibility to care for and protect women who have the meaning of beautiful women such as jasmine flowers, honorable, and charming. Haikal promised to continue until the end of his life.

Nadira shed happy tears. Not felt, his brother now belongs to someone else. Haikal's affection will be divided. Nadira must be able to be more mature to keep the feelings of his sister-in-law.

"Now, the bride can come out," said the pengulu.

Yasmin came out in a very beautiful dress, but still shar'i. All eyes were on the woman behind the veil. Highlight his eyes are very beautiful, Haikal to the point of trembling to see it, looking down for a moment, then staring fixedly at the beautiful scenery. Nadira accompanied her sister-in-law to the wedding altar, delivering to Haikal. He himself asked because that way, Nadira felt that he could release his brother to another woman.

"Masyaa Allah, what a beautiful marriage without courtship," said Nadira.

Nadira also recalled the story of his past, if time can be played back, want to feel back to the past before knowing the name of dating. She regretted what had happened before, but after escaping from Jerry, Nadira began to emigrate until finally meeting Ammar; the man who had now become her husband and father of her child. He pityed his fate first when feeling depressed, breaking up from Jerry. If only he had done the right relationship like his brother did, surely he would never have gotten a bruise in his mind.

"Taaruf, khitbah, walimah! Ah .., if it had been like that, even though the journey was not always smooth, at least she would never have been that sick when dating Jerry and after parting ways, had to fight to heal wounds," nadira's mind while staring at Haikal and Yasmin together at the temple.

The term taaruf is certainly familiar among Muslims. In Islam, taaruf is the introduction of a syar'i process to the sacred bond of marriage. In the teachings of Islam, there are limits and ethics of relations between men and women who do not have certain ties, such as family or husband and wife are halal. Restrictions and ethics such as forbidden to look or touch, prohibited alone with the opposite sex that is not mahram. This is prohibited because it can cause things that are illegal according to the religion of Islam.

Islam not only deals with marriage, but also with the sermon. In the Qur'an, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says: “There is no sin for anyone who invites these women in hiding or with only a desire in their hearts to marry them in your hearts. Allah understands that you will mention their names, so do not mention the marriage vows to the women in secret, except to speak (to them) a terrible word. And do not be determined or determined to have a marriage, before the woman has finished her term. And know that Allah is subhanahu wa ta'ala knowing all that is in your heart, then fear Him and need ye know that Allah is subhanahu wa ta'ala is Oft-Forgiving and Most Merciful." (QS. Al-Baqarah: 235)

In a hadith, the Prophet Salallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam said: “Prophet Muhammad Salallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam forbade a person to buy an item that was being bought or bid for by his brother and the Prophet also forbade a person to ask a woman who had been betrothed until the person who asked her to leave the woman or allow her."

The sermon is allowed in Islam because it aims to know the willingness of women to be lured. As well as a process of promise that the serious man will question the woman as a wife.

Quoted from several sources, the khitbah is one of the application processions where parties from the male family visit the prospective bride's house. In the meeting, the male family will reveal the purpose of coming home to invite the bride to build a household or get married.

The request can be submitted directly by the prospective bridegroom or can also be submitted by representatives of the family who are trusted and in accordance with religious regulations. In the process of preaching, women only need to answer “iya” or “not”.

Before performing the sermon, the bridegroom needs to pay attention and understand some of the things used to determine which woman to apply for. It is intended so that nothing unwanted happens in the future.

Because we need to understand that marriage is a very sacred thing and cannot be done in a way that is playful and does not follow the rules of religion. Therefore, some conditions that must be done before doing the sermon, namely to understand and have met or seen the bride-to-be. This is not included in the obligation of the sermon process. But it is advisable to do so so as not to arise slander or problems in the future.

As mentioned earlier, Muhammad Salallahu 'alaihi wasallam forbade men to propose to women who had been proposed by other men. This is explained in the historical hadith of Ibn Majah which reads, “A man is not allowed to propose a woman who has been proposed by his brother.”

Women are allowed to accept or reject their men. That's why when applying, it's good if prospective women are asked and awaited the answer first. This is so that no coercion occurs in the process of the sermon.

Women who are in the period of iddah or have just been left dead, divorced by her husband, have a pause that is not allowed to marry again. If the period is not finished, then the men must wait first and are prohibited from applying to him openly.

Whether it is men or women should choose a partner who is seen from his religion. Only after that can choose a partner based on good looks, beauty, offspring, and also his property.

Well, after going through two processions, namely taaruf and khitbah, the most awaited thing is the wedding process (walima). Everyone must want the best wedding, there is a dream wedding that has been planned, that's why wedding preparations are always carefully conceptualized. Although sometimes there are many tests that must be passed before the wedding. Yes, before marriage alone tested, especially after. That's why we have to marry people who understand religion because marriage is the longest worship in human life. May we all always be given ease in all matters. The unmarried, soon met with his soul mate. The married, strengthened his faith and given patience in building a household.

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