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Meaning of Name of First Child Nadira

The birth of a baby is the most awaited thing by married couples. However, we need to know that in Islam, one way to welcome the presence of babies, usually done with akikah events. Akikah is the process of slaughtering goats, which are processed into food and distributed to neighbors or relatives. As the slaughter of the goat has been exemplified by the Prophet salallahu 'alaihi wasallam when he slaughtered the goat for his grandchildren.

In a hadith narrated by Ibn Abbas RA that the Prophet salallahu 'alaihi wasallam slaughtered a goat (akikah) for his grandson, namely Hasan bin Ali ibn Abi Talib and Husein bin Ali ibn Abi Talib, respectively, one goat each. \[HR Abu Dawud (2841) Ibn Jarud in al-Muntaqa (912) Thabrani (11/316) with sanadnya shahih as said by Ibn Daqiqiel ‘Ied\]

In another account it is also mentioned that he slaughtered two goats. This is confirmed in a number of histories stating, every boy should be given a slaughter of two goats. As for girls, only one goat.

In addition to the above hadith, the ordinance of the implementation of akikah in the time of the Prophet wasallahu 'alaihi wasallam can also be studied through a number of hadiths. These include the types and numbers of slaughter animals, the time of execution of akikah, and the division of the meat.

From Salman bin ‘Amir Ad-Dhabiy said that the Prophet salallahu 'alaihi wasallam once said, “Marriage is carried out because of the birth of a baby, then slaughter animals and eliminate all distractions from it.” \[Shahih Hadith History of Bukhari (5472)\]

The meaning of eliminating the disorder is to shave the baby's hair or eliminate all existing disorders. \[Fathul Bari (9/593) and Nailul Authar (5/35), prints Darul Poles Al-‘Ilmiyah, pent\]

In the hadith of Tirmidhi, Samurah ibn Jundub RA narrated that the Prophet salallahu 'alaihi wasallam also said: "Every baby is mortgaged by his akikah which was slaughtered for him on the seventh day, then shaved and named."

From Fatimah bint Muhammad when giving birth to Hasan, he said under the Prophet salallahu 'alaihi wasallam once said: “Shave his hair and give charity with silver to the poor weighing the scales of his hair.” \[The Hadith is Hasan, the historical hadith of Ahmad (6/390), Thabrani in “Mu’jamul Kabir” 1/121/2, and al-Baihaqi (9/304) from Syuraiq of Abdullah bin Muhammad bin Uqail\]

The law of the seventh day of birth is not the price of death. However, the seventh day after birth is considered the most aphdol. This has been conveyed in a hadith which is considered a sahih hadith by some scholars.

“If it is not possible to do on that day because it is still tired and does not have time to take care of it, then I can do it on the 14th or 21st day. If it still can't, then I can be done at any time."

I can be done until there is an ability, even when it is an adult. Salallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam also accosted himself when he was sent to be a prophet. This history is also the basis for allowing a person to acclimate himself if his parents have not been acclimated when small or do not have the ability to do so.

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Azan Subuh had been reverberating, this time Ammar was performing dawn prayers at home because heavy rain flushed in the morning blind, making Ammar unable to go to the mosque. If forced to use an umbrella, his body will still be wet because the wind is quite strong. While the wife, still sleeping in her dreams with their children who are just one day old.

Abdullah ibn Umar narrated that the Prophet of Allah shallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam said: “Congratulations are more important than prayers alone with twenty-seven degrees." (HR. al-Bukhari number 609 and 610, and Muslim number 1036 and 1039)

The above hadith mentions the primacy of congregational prayer rather than solitude, but does not indicate the obligation to perform congregational prayer. Because performing salat alone (munfarid) still get the reward, it's just that— is not as much reward when congregational prayer. So, still get the reward, meaning it does not mean something that should not be done. If it cannot be done, then of course it is forbidden and those who do it are certainly not accepted and are not rewarded or even sinned.

The sun has shown its light from the quarrel, but the rain has not yet subsided. Nadira wakes up because her son is crying. Ammar who just finished taking a bath, immediately quickly helped his wife take care of the little one. Turns out their baby peed, so the diaper had to be changed. However, because it was morning, Ammar took the initiative to bathe him. Nadira was allowed to rest because her seams were still wet.

"You just lie down, yeah. Let me take care of our baby. He peed, nih!" ammar said as he took off their baby clothes. "Let's take a shower" he continued, holding the little one slowly because the bones were still soft. Be careful that nothing is fatal.

Nadira nodded with a fluffy smile. Ammar went straight to the bathroom with their baby. In the bathroom Ammar and Nadira, it can be arranged—ingin a warm or cold shower.

A few minutes later, Ammar had finished bathing his son and was ready to wear clothes, while Nadira noticed Ammar's treatment of their child.

While Ammar was putting clothes on his baby, Nadira suddenly shed tears.

Ammar, who was aware of it, immediately asked, "Why are you sad?"

"I'm a real hassle, huh?" ask Nadira.

Ammar wiped away Nadira's tears while laying his son beside his beloved wife.

"What are you talking about, anyway? I don't feel bothered at all, anyway. I am thankful and grateful because God has brought us together." Ammar smiles.

"It looks like our son is starving. It's time for breakfast" Ammar told his wife. Then his eyes were on the child. "You are this, yes. Can't see the little mama and papa romance," said Ammar while stroking the little baby's cheek gently.

"Yes, I breastfed our son first, yeah." Nadira made his body position comfortably when breastfeeding because he could not move too much.

Ammar went to the room, where he made paintings. There, Ammar began painting things while thinking about the lives of him and his family.

While playing the canvas, Ammar seemed to ask the inanimate object.

"Why in Islam, some paintings should not be displayed inside the house, huh? Painting is a work of art that has a high value. People even offered a painting, it could be up to hundreds of millions." Ammar looked one by one at the paintings in the room.

Not long after, the painting was finished. Ammar suddenly remembered that he had to call his ashes for a marriage.

"Astaghfirullahal. I forgot to. I'm gonna call abi." Ammar went back to the room to get his cell phone.

In the room, Nadira had finished breastfeeding. Their son fell asleep because he was full. Therefore, Ammar stepped slowly so that his son did not wake up.

"I want to call abi first, yeah. Want to talk about the akikah of our child," said Ammar whispered while reaching for his phone under the pillow.

Nadira nodded and said, "Yes. Greetings to Abi and Umi."

Ammar opened the door slowly and immediately called his brother. After deliberating with his brother, finally decided the day and date of his son's akikah.

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There was noise from all over the room as well as the front and back yard. Everyone is busy with their respective work, preparing for what needs to be prepared for the needs of today's event. Ammar was no exception who participated to succeed his son's akikah event. While Nadira, he sat down with some of his college friends who had been present since the morning by holding his son.

An hour later, the show began. Everyone followed the series of events solemnly, especially when the chanting of the holy verse of the Quran was heard.

"Wahid Amzar Hafizuddin Baraqbah bin Muhammad Ammar Baraqbah, the full name of the first son of Mr. Muhammad Ammar Baraqbah and Ms. Nadira Humairah Az-Zizah. The name is pinned by both parents so that their first son has a noble nature and has a strong shoulders in maintaining religion. God, what a beautiful name. May the prayer on the name pinned to the baby be a will for both parents" said a man whose age is no longer young. Then, it was approved by everyone present.

All series of events have finally been completed, from naming, shaving hair, and others.

Ammar and Nadira breathed a sigh of relief. Now their son has officially got a name. They agreed to call him Hafiz. Ammar did not forget to pin the name "Baraqbah” behind the name of his son because it is still a descendant of the ancestors of Al Baraqbah.

Quoted from several sources that were first dubbed or given the title “Al-Baraqbah” is the guardian of Allah Umar bin Ahmad bin Muhammad bin Abdullah bin Alwi bin Muhammad Al-Faqih Al-Muqaddam. The name of the word "Baraqbah" comes from the word “Raqbah” which in Arabic means shoulder. So, if someone has a strong shoulder, it will be nicknamed “Baraqbah” or the strong shoulder. The Ammar family hopes that their children have a strong shoulder in the face of the twists and turns of life, including fighting for the religion they believe is Islam.

For the word “Baraqbah” in question, whether it has to do with the title held by the waliyyullah Umar bin Ahmad Baraqbah or has something to do with somewhere near the town of Tarim Hadramaut which is overgrown with Dates trees where there are many wells which by locals names the place “Baraqbah"? Wallahu 'alamu bissawab.

Waliyyullah Umar Baraqbah himself was born in Tarim and was blessed with a son named Abdurrahman, who is the ancestor of Al-Baraqbah where his descendants are mostly in Indonesia. Waliyyullah Umar Baraqbah had returned to Rahmatullah in 895.

The four parents Ammar and Nadira scramble to hold their first grandchild. Ammar and Nadira shook their heads to see their parents' child-like behavior fighting over toys.

Such was the sundries when the presence of the first grandchild. Parents often become small children who will whine when they do not get their wishes. Funny, but that's what we'll go through if we live long and can be a grandfather or grandmother.

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