It's up to God

Just Miss

Not knowing, what other beautiful plans will be given by God to Nadira, so that problems come and go. In recent years, Nadira has begun to make peace with everything, but the wound seems to be gaping again.

Today, Nadira is missing her parents, especially her older sister; haikal. Since Nadira moved in the boarding house Al Fathonah, his father-in-law's parents and Nadira's brother never looked. Haikal has started to get busy with his work, focusing on raising money because he wants to get married. While both parents Nadira, always busy with their work.

Nadira looked at the portrait of togetherness with his family on his cellphone, not feeling tears just dripping. The morning air in the pesantren feels more soothing. The leaves fell, hitting Nadira's head. All the santri are busy with their activities, including Nadira's son, Hafiz.

In the pesantren environment indeed at every corner, especially in Taman— deliberately provided a seat because there are times when someone needs time to be alone while breathing the air in the park. Especially the morning air, it was very cold. Occasionally there are those who run in the morning for fitness sports while checking around the pesantren.

Nadira opens and plays his fingers back, there is writing to be completed. There is a fret that must be expressed. There is a stack of words inside the head that must be written. Nadira opened his laptop, there are already several chapters on his third book.

"Why don't you have any news yet, huh? I called too, they said again busy, even Brother Haikal who used to always be there, now rarely contact me." Nadira stopped writing. Cover 14-inch black objects with cute stickers. Nadira's mind is erratic, taking a walk to explore the things that are in his head. The contents of his head were really noisy. His heart was also angry.

"Maybe they are really busy, but at least can occasionally take the time to meet or just call to let go of longing," Nadira's mind churned.

His mind is increasingly uncertain, especially since living in the pesantren, many unpleasant events. Either this is just a coincidence or it was deliberately planned by someone. I don't know, Nadira's mind is really messed up. His feelings are not good, there are things that block his heart and his mind continues to think about things that are not sure to happen. Fear began to haunt him.

A few minutes later, Ammar, who saw Nadira sitting alone in the park, approached.

"Nadira! What are you all alone, here?" ask Ammar.

Nadira's face looked so anxious. Unaware that her husband was sitting next to her.

"Nad. You all right?" ask Ammar, worried.

Ammar's hand held Nadira from her daydream.

"When have you been here?" nadira asked, wiping away her tears.

"Just now, really. You haven't answered my question. You're all right, aren't you? What else is troubling your mind?" asked Ammar; powerless to see the sorrow that emanated from the look of his wife's face.

Nadira shook his head.

"If you want to cry, cry. Don't hold. Let not his breath," said Ammar, suggested. Then, hugged his wife.

A warm decapitation from Ammar, able to calm Nadira. His hands, giving strength.

Moreover, the main trigger of a person is sick, mostly because the problems faced make it stressful, until the physical condition weakens. That's why gentle pressure from hugging is thought to stimulate the thymus gland, which will regulate and balance the production of white blood cells. White blood cells are important to protect us from disease.

According to the National Sleep Foundation (NSF), hugging before bed for ten minutes can help you sleep better. Then, hugging or touching during the day even if only briefly can also improve sleep quality. However, it is recommended for halal couples or parents and children.

In addition, there are biochemical effects of touch, which include an increase in serotonin (the body's natural neurotransmitter antidepressant and antinyer) and an increase in oxytocin (the love hormone). According to a study in the journal Psychological Science, higher levels of oxytocin are associated with greater perceptions of partner responses and gratitude, as well as greater love. For people who get into fights, hugs can also help relieve tension or at least improve mood.

The benefits of hugging for health can potentially reach the heart. This has been studied and published in the journal Behavioral Medicine (Washington, D.C.), that participants who hold hands with their partners 10 minutes, then 20 seconds of hugging will experience a decrease in excessive heart rate.

Nadira often feels afraid of things that have not even happened, that's why a touch or hug from Ammar can help reduce anxiety and a sense of isolation in people who feel low self-esteem. If you have a close friend or family member like this, it never hurts to offer a warm hug.

There are many benefits of a hug for someone. Research in the journal Holistic Nursing Practice examined people with fibromyalgia (a disease with pain symptoms all over the body) who received touch treatment. Each treatment includes a light touch to the skin. As a result, participants admitted that the pain felt reduced. When you hug, touch, or get close to someone you love, your body releases the hormone oxytocin. The hormone oxytocin can help you relax and lower anxiety. This can ultimately help lower blood pressure effectively. That is why, Nadira felt better when in the arms of Ammar.

"You're thinking about what happened in the pesantren these days, huh? Moreover, someone wants to harm Hafiz the other day." Ammar guessed Nadira's mind.

Nadira nodded. Because what Ammar said is true. It was one that was troubling Nadira's mind.

"Darling, mom, dad, and sister Haikal never saw me again, huh, since we lived in the pesantren? Is it that busy, until you can't get here? Being called on the phone is also very busy." Nadira's face withered like a flower had not been watered.

"Are you really missing, are you the same?" ask Ammar.

"Use ask everything again. Kangen, dong. Before we moved in pesantren, they must have occasionally splinted to come home. Now, I can't do it, can I?" gerutu Nadira's.

"The distance from the house of mama and papa will be far to the boarding school, if to our house there, near. Maybe mom and dad are looking for a good time to get here, honey. Moreover, Brother Haikal, will soon want to marry, so much to be prepared." Ammar tried to make Nadira understand the situation and conditions.

"Yes, anyway. But right, I miss them very much," said Nadira.

"Oh yeah, we'll go there, yeah. Look at my mom, papa, all help Haikal Kak prepare for his wedding," said Ammar, peeping at the back of his wife's hand.

Nadira's face again shone and fresh, like a flower that had just been watered. That smile of sumringah that Ammar always wanted to see. Every couple needs time to talk about things. If we don't talk to each other, there's going to be a struggle.

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