It's up to God

The Struggle to Give Birth the First Child

Two months later, while eating breakfast, Nadira suddenly felt heartburn. Ammar stood up to calm his wife.

"What's wrong with you, Nad? Does your stomach hurt?" ask Ammar. There was clearly worry on his face. He rubbed his wife's stomach while looking for phone contact on his phone.

Ammar is really afraid of anything happening with his wife and baby-to-be.

"You calm down, honey. I'm trying to call your gynecologist again!" said Ammar who repeatedly contacted the doctor, but not yet connected.

"Honey. I couldn't stand it. It hurts so much, this! I think our son wants to come out of this," said Nadira while grimacing in pain.

"Duh, don't lift up either, nih!" Ammar panicked as his wife continued to feel pain.

Not wanting to take risks and not having the heart to see his wife constantly in pain, Ammar immediately carried Nadira to the car. He drove a little fast so he could get to Hidayah Mother Hospital soon. Approximately about two hours to two and a half hours if the road is not jammed, they have arrived at the hospital. However, if the road is jammed, it can be for hours.

"Honey. It hurts so much!" said Nadira while holding his distended stomach.

"You calm down, yeah. I follow the panic, if you do not calm down gini," said Ammar who focuses forward, occasionally looking at his wife.

"Yes, but it hurts so much. I couldn't stand it" Nadira said, screaming in pain.

Ammar increased the speed of his car.

"Slowly, Honey. Auu, sick. In this car, fighting sa ... ki ..t, there are three lives, you know! Adududududu .. pain ...! Prioritize our safety as well," said Nadira grimacing in pain while holding on because Ammar was driving his car a little speeding.

"Yes .., yes .., this is me slowly, but you also do not make me panic, dong." Ammar felt the pain his wife felt. Sweat until pouring, from head to toe.

"An hour to come, here! The situation is friendly with us again, the road is not jammed."

After traveling two hours, Ammar and Nadira finally arrived at Hidayah Ibu Hospital. Ammar immediately parked his car and carried his wife to the ER room.

Several sisters were busy with patients there and one of the sisters approached Ammar and Nadira. Nadira is already in a wheelchair.

"Why wife, sir?" ask the nurse.

"It looks like my wife is about to give birth, Sus," replied Ammar with a severed breath while wiping away the sweat that ran down his face.

"Then, let's take it to the delivery room to be treated by a doctor." The nurse guided Ammar to the delivery room, where the room was not too far from the ER.

Ammar pushed the wheelchair cautiously knowing that his wife was pregnant.

On the way to the room, the nurse, who had been with Ammar and Nadira, asked her friend to call a doctor.

Arriving in a room, the nurse asked Ammar to wait a while. Shortly after, doctors and several other sisters came to help Nadira and her future baby.

Ammar was asked to accompany his wife, holding the hand of the wife to be more relaxed (calm). Meanwhile, doctors and several sisters are trying to help Nadira who is about to give birth.

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In the past, vaginal delivery was the only way to get the baby out of the mother's stomach. As time goes on, let alone technology in this day and age is increasingly sophisticated, pregnant women who will give birth can choose to give birth through \*\*\*\* or caesarean section. However, if indeed the condition of the mother can give birth through \*\*\*\*\*, it is recommended to be born through \*\*\*\*\*\* only because the recovery is faster than giving birth by cesarean section. Both do have their own risks, but the goal is both to make labor run smoothly and ensure the mother and baby are safe.

The stages of labor in pregnant women quoted from the site halodoc, namely from the opening of one to ten.

This initial opening stage of labor occurs when the cervix opens by 1 centimeter. This can happen for several days, without any contractions. However, some women can experience contractions for 2–6 hours. This can make pregnant women experience feelings of nausea and pain in the back or waist. Sometimes mucus mixed with blood can also be found out from \*\*\*\*\*\*.

Two openings in labor mean the cervix has opened 2 centimeters. It is still entering the early stages of labor that can occur within hours. Pregnant women who experience this moment will feel contractions more often, accompanied by stomach heartburn and cramps. Try to walk lightly around the house so that the contractions that arise are not too pronounced.

The opening of three in labor explains, if the cervix has opened by 3 centimeters, then the contractions are more intense with only an hour apart. The fetus has begun to actively try to go to the cervix so that the birth goes smoothly. When this happens, it is better to go directly to the place of delivery.

At the opening of four, pregnant women will feel that the cervix is increasingly open, which is about 4 centimeters. This moment can cause pregnant women to experience amniotic rupture and the position of the fetus is getting closer to the birth canal to the cervix.

At opening five, this labor may give rise to a longer duration of contractions than before. You can feel it happening about 1–5 minutes each time. When this happens, the head of the fetus is getting in who is ready for labor.

In the opening six stage, the contraction will be felt more intense with a very close span of time. Medical experts who take care of labor may already be able to feel the head of the fetus when inserting a hand from the uterus.

When the condition of the opening seven, the cervix widens which reaches 7 centimeters. The fetus also continues to strive towards the birth canal. Pregnant women are advised to regulate their breath to be more relaxed and maintain energy until health experts tell them to push the fetus out.

The opening of the cervix has reached 8 centimeters and the contractions that occur are increasingly unbearable. You can also feel tired because you have spent a lot of energy when contractions continue to occur. Support from husband and family is very important so that the mother remains strong to give birth normally.

Then at the opening of nine, the cervix is getting wide open, but it is not yet time for the mother to push. Try not to strain despite feeling a strong urge from the body to do so. Prepare all the energy when the next opening occurs.

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"It's been an opening eight" the doctor said, asking others to prepare the tools needed for labor. Doctor Diana, his name is. This doctor who examined the content of Nadira during pregnancy until now she will give birth.

Ammar held his wife's hand while reciting the prayers of salvation.

A few minutes later, Nadira screamed from the excruciating pain. His strength was almost exhausted because he was shouting. Nadira let out tears, so sick.

"The power should not be spent, Ma'am. Prepare later when I ask to push. It's already opening nine. You set your breath, yes," advised Dr. Diana. Then ask the nurse to get water so Nadira can drink. "Suster, please get some water for Madam Nadira. She must not lose energy because Nadira will soon give birth. So, she needs energy to help her baby out."

Sister gave the drinking water to Ammar in order to help Nadira drink. Nadira drank a bottle of mineral water until it ran out. Then, catch his breath that seemed tight.

"Yuk, slow down, Ma'am. Arrange the breath, then if I tell you to push, please push, yes!" doctor Diana orders while focusing on watching the baby coming out.

Not long after, Doctor Diana told Nadira to push because the baby's head had begun to look. Finally, after waiting for a few hours, the little baby came out. Nadira let out a long breath with a bath of sweat. Ammar's hand became a victim because of Nadira's very strong grip.

The sound of the baby's cry was shrill, sounding all the way outside the room. Ammar thanked God for the most wonderful gift. Nadira has given birth to her first child in a healthy and perfect manner. Ammar also recited prayers for his newborn son as taught in Islam. In addition to parents who have to pray for their baby, anyone who visits the baby should pray. This can be done by his father or if there is none, then it can be represented by his family.

The procedure for reciting a prayer to a newborn child, namely :

In the right ear of the baby.

Reading in the left ear of the baby.

Praying for a newborn child.

Allahummaj'alhu barran taqiyyan rashidan wa-anbit-hu fil Islam nabat hasanah.

It means: "O Allah, make him (baby) a good, pious, intelligent person. Grow it in Islam with good growth."

Reading Al Ikhlas's letter in the baby's right ear.

Read Al Qadr's letter in the baby's right ear.

Read Al Imran's letter (3:36) in the baby's right ear.

Wa inni u'idzu bika wadzurriyyataha minasysyaithanir.

It means: "I ask for protection for him and his children to Your care from the damned devil."

Finally, closed with a prayer for protection for the child, as follows:

A'udzu bikalimatillahi at tammati min kulli syaithanin wa hammatin wamin kulli'anin lammatin.

It means: "I take refuge in the words of God from all demons, distress, and evil views."

After he finished praying, Ammar gave his son who was born male to the nurse to be bathed. Then, Ammar immediately saw his wife who had just been sewn. Ammar kissed his wife's forehead lovingly and thanked her for being a woman and now a great mother. Although there was a sense of worry because during pregnancy, a lot of drama happened. Moreover, GERD Nadira sometimes friday and had been rushed to the hospital when exhausted in helping him prepare for the National Culture Week. Nadira smiled and was impatient, wanting to see his son's face.

Not long after, the nurse brought the first child from Ammar and Nadira who had been bathed and dressed as a baby and put on a bed.

"Masyaa Allah, our son is handsome, huh? His nose is as sharp as his father's." Nadira kissed his son's cheeks and forehead.

"Yes. Alhamdulillahot. Our children are born perfectly healthy. This is thanks to God's help, through the doctors and sisters who are here," said Ammar, occasionally see Doctor Diana and some sisters there.

"alright. I live first, yes. There are other patients I have to deal with. Hopefully Madam Nadira quickly recovered and if there is anything, can call Sister Siska. He will serve as long as Madam Nadira is admitted to this hospital," said Diana with a smile.

"Good, Doc. Thank you for helping me in the delivery process," said Nadira who still holds her son.

"Yes. You're welcome, Mother." Dr. Diana left the room. Let Nadira and Ammar celebrate the presence of their beloved son.

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