SIN (Lecturer Dear)

Chapter 34: The Debate of the Carpenter

Darren certainly did not allow Karen to spend the night at her friend's house. He immediately typed in a reply message, but just wanted to send the message, instead removed it again.

"Wait on! If I ban him, he thinks I'm a possessive husband who has curbed his freedom!" thought for a moment.

Darren then looked at his deserted residence like never before. Honestly speaking, he was already used to Karen's presence in that apartment. Heard her noise while singing in the shower every morning, or the woman's complaints about college work when she came home from work. Although only two, but the woman he married brought her own color.

Darren was still dumbstruck as he stared at the screen of his phone. For various reasons, she chooses to allow Karen to stay overnight at her friend's house.

On the other hand, Nadya sobbed in Karen's arms while telling about her love affair with Farel, Feril's brother. Apparently, their romance is not as sweet as the Korean drama series. The man has shown his true nature.

"It turns out he was just sweet in the beginning. Once I get my virgin, she changes!" nadya said while sobbing.

"So you two are? You've only been dating for a month, haven't you?" ask Karen not to believe it. Because, Nadya had expressed the principle of no s3x before marriage in dating.

Nadya did not agree with Karen's question, but also did not dismiss. He said, "He manipulates me with dramatic words, stupidly I eat his talk and finally we do it. And now she turns rude and often makes me do what she wants, continue playing victim to her friends as if I were a girl who's not right!"

Nadya's curiosity about her boyfriend made Karen ride the apitam. "That's a real fuckin' boy! That's not the consent¹ of his name. I've broken up, than you guys cramming a relationship that abusive²! Do not show that you depend on him, because it only makes him control your life in the future. Mending you have it all, if it is executed it will be red flag³!"

Nadya's crying is getting louder. "But he took away my pride. How can I get him out of it."

Karen stared deeply into Nadya's eyes, as if about to transfer power. "Keep, you still want to hang with the toxic people like that? Nothing is taken in you. You remain intact, you remain valuable! People who really love you won't see you from it" said Karen gave support system⁴ to her best friend. Although Karen has a stupid nature, but about woman support woman she is always the front.

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At the same time, Darren looked back and forth like a policeman and then passed by in his apartment. He looked annoyed that Karen had ignored his last chat. I don't know how long he checked his phone just to see replies to messages that turned out not to exist.

"Tumben he cuekin I'm like gini. Usually also once I chat, replied with dozens of stickers alay," murmured Darren while again checking the WhatsApp application.

No time has shown at nine o'clock in the evening. Nadya is now calmer after devoting her problems to Karen. No more tears covered her cheeks. Just change with laughter that fills the room because they are watching a comedy film abroad.

Lingsir wengi's song suddenly softened in the room, surprising the two. From that ringtone, Karen could already guess who called her was Oma Belle.

"No, there's no other ringtone!" nadya's complaint was shocked.

"Ssttt ... don't be noisy! Oma I called," said Karen as she moved out of Nadya's room to receive a phone call from Oma Belle.

Nadya then scrunched her forehead while muttering to herself. "Omma? Since when did he call Oma? The feeling she always called grandma, deh!" Nadya certainly did not know that the one who called was the grandmother of Karen's husband, not her biological grandmother.

Outside the room, Karen immediately answered the phone. "Hello, Oma."

"Karen, you can come here now, can't you? Oma's not feeling well anymore, huh! Oma's leg suddenly swollen." Oma Belle's voice sounded weak from behind the phone.

"Huh? Why can it be swollen? Oma's falling?"

"No. I don't know why either! You can come here, can't you? Oma is alone at home. Grandpa just left again this afternoon."

Karen, who felt responsible for taking care of her husband's grandmother, said, "Okay, Oma. Karen's going straight there."

Karen then returned to Nadya's room, explaining to her best friend that she could not spend the night because she had to accompany her sick oma. She hurriedly packed her things and directly slid into the residence of Aswono's grandfather, her husband's extended family.

Arriving there, Karen who came with worry even gasped when she saw Oma Belle was painting casually in the family room.

"Oma ... Doesn't Oma get sick anymore? How to paint?" ask Karen bengong. His gaze then descended down, looking at Oma Belle's legs which turned out not to be swollen.

Oma Belle did not answer and only nodded while looking somewhere. Karen turned to follow the gaze of Oma Belle. Her eyes caught the figure of her husband who was in a rage because he was caught hiding. Because his hiding had sniffed, he also came out while participating in a stupid grin.

The conspiracy of Oma and Darren who tricked him into coming to the place, then made Karen upset. She looked at her husband sharply, like a bull about to butcher.

"Well, Darren suddenly came to Oma's house because of loneliness. He said you spent the night at a friend's house, but he wanted to make sure you had dinner. He is also worried about your feet getting hot water" Oma explained.

Hearing Oma's explanation, Karen who was upset because she got prank from her omana, now looks at her husband.

While Darren put on a shy face like an abege who was kasmaran. "But Oma doesn't need to lie to Karen too by saying pretend to be sick," said Darren who also apparently doesn't know why Oma called Karen for pretending to be sick.

"You are not grateful, you are Oma" said Oma as she played her brush on the canvas.

Karen ran to her husband and said to Oma Belle. "Oma, if that's how we go to dinner first, yeah!" he said, holding Darren's hand and pulling him away.

In the car, Karen again remembered what Nadya experienced. For a moment, he turned his head towards Darren who was busy driving. Honestly, he was afraid if one day Darren's attitude changed to him.

"Ren, you stay like this, don't you, ma me?" ask Karen slowly.

"meaning?" Darren asked back.

"I'm afraid that your attitude towards me will suddenly change" Karen said, bowing. He then told about the problems his friend had. About her friend's lover who changed attitude after their relationship was already involved far and unhealthy.

Darren responds to his wife's story. "In my opinion, if someone has the principle of boundaries in dating relationships, it should be if his partner tries to break the boundaries he has built, yes ... leave and do not continue the relationship!"

"Yes, if he wants any manipulation, in any way so that his wishes are fulfilled, still if women hold their principles firmly, it will not happen. Your friends should be able to take a stand right then and there by ending their relationship. Not even sticking with people who don't respect his principles."

"Loh .. why do you like to defend a guy, continue to blame my friend?" Karen suddenly did not accept Darren's opinion.

"Whose fault is your friend?"

"Yes, you!" ketus Karen while straddling.

"Kan, I'm just giving you a response from my point of view."

"Huh, just say if you're more ngebelain guy! All men are the same, yes!"

"So how does that mean?"

"Just the same behavior. Nothing is right!"

"You who open your heart to men are not really, the turn to be hurt even consider all men the same behavior. It was as if the true man only existed in a fairyland. Wonder!" This time it was Darren's turn to not accept Karen's statement.

"What a fact!"

"At first you've done a census all over the world that men are the same? If I say all women are the same, don't you take it?"

"Why are you so hard on me?" Karen was offended.

"Who started first?" darren asked half annoyed.

"Yes, you! You give me your opinion first, my friend!" reply Karen while raising her chin.

Darren rubbed his face violently. "I'm not nyudutin!" press it again, "keep asking, now I ask, which story about your friend's story first until we fight like gini who?"

"Oh, so now you're gonna fucking blame me, right?" Karen's getting tougher.

"@$__!2++$;?-!!" Darren clenched his lips tightly, with a crumpled face like crumpled rice-wrapped paper.

Either have to use the language how else, so that Karen does not misinterpret her speech. This proves the quote that says men are always wrong in the eyes of women is true!

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consent: consent consciously, without coercion, without incitement or threat, without manipulation in relation to the body. Or the simple term "like the same"

Relationship Abusive: A relationship in which one party is too domineering, controlling and controlling his or her partner in negative terms.

Red flag: a sign that the relationship cannot continue, because the relationship is not healthy and if insistent will further harm emotionally.

Support system: providing practical or emotional support.

If the person confides in you basically whether he is wrong or not, he does not want to be wrong.so, the right thing we do when people vent to us is to listen and listen carefully, so, then give the support system.

these terms you will get if you often surf in the Maya world, online consultations at marriage counselors, or interact in question-and-answer/chat forums about dating/marriage relationships. Modern slang children also often use these terms.