Love is Different

Chapter 62. Inter-Family Introduction

After yesterday Adi asked permission directly to Mama and Mama to seriously marry me. Today Adi contacted me that Om Budi and Aunt Ratna would come to the house to ask permission to marry her son to me. 

"When are you at Ri's house?" Ask Adi.

"Tomorrow afternoon like Ka... What's up?" I reply quickly. 

"Ka Adi just called..." 

"OKAY.."

Adi called me right away. "Hello Assalamualaikum.."

"Ka Lalaikumsalam Ka.." Reply slowly. 

"At least busy, right?" 

"Not really Ka..."

"This is Ri.. Ka Adi nanya Father when at home. Mama and Papa are going home. Want to ask permission... Ka Adi will come later."

"Ohhh.. Yes tomorrow afternoon Mr. at home Ka... Today I didn't go home because of that..." 

"Yaudah later Ka Adi conveyed to Mama Sama Papa, the Father is tomorrow afternoon ya.."

"Yeah..."

"Duh Deggan deh Ka Adi."

"Sama dong's... I'm also very nervous. Yesterday when Ka Adi asked for his own permission, I deggan very. Especially later between parents.."

"Ihhh moreover I wet yesterday all hands tauuu.... To say that requires preparation and a strong mentality. If not strong enough.." 

"Hahaha yes... Alhamdulillah loh yesterday smoothly.. Deg - with severe yaaa whereas."

"Not mainnnn.." 

"Jaudah later I will convey to Mama and Mr. yaa if you are tomorrow Om same Aunt so go home. "

"Pearly okee.. Yaudah Ka Adi continued to work.."

"Okee.. The spirit is.." 

"Thank you dear.. Assalamualaikum." 

"Getishalam." 

I also hung up the phone from Adi and immediately relayed to Mama the news from Adi. And thank God it turns out everything is okay. You can, then Om Budi and Aunt Ratna are also no obstacles. Adi came home from work early. 

***

"You have to dress neatly Ri.. Don't wear a negligee." Mama said meledek. 

"Yeahha.... Mom yes I used a negligee.. I don't wear real clothes." I answered while laughing.

"Jaudah there ready first clothes that want to be used later malem." Answer Mama.

"Yeah..." Answer's short. 

I went to my room and picked out the clothes I was wearing tonight. For sure I will wear neat and polite clothes. Shortly after I was busy picking clothes, Dad came home. 

"Assynoltom..." Greetings, you enter the house. 

"Goddessalam.." Sapaku and Mama in unison. 

"Boyou brought the groceries. Cook our soup today..." Sahut.

"Alhamdulillah.." Answer Mama. 

"What time will Mr. Budi and Ms. Ratna come?" Ask Father.

"He said he would run out of Maghrib sir, coming home from Ka Ani's house." My answer.

"Jaudah there are still 3 hours... You want to sleep first.."

"Udah Prayer Ashar Sir?" Ask Mama.

"I went to the mosque and just got home." Said the father while looking for a towel to be ready to take a shower.

"Yaudah yuk Ri we cook..." Sahut Mama's.

"OKAY.." My answer. 

Until the Maghrb finally arrived. Om Budi, Aunt Ratna and Adi have been coming since 5 p.m. After the Maghrib they came to my house. 

"Assynoltomodel.." Greetings Om Budi, Aunt Ratna and Adi from the front. 

"Goddessalam.." My answer is, Mama and Father together from inside the house.

They entered the house and were immediately invited to sit down. 

"What kind of cooking is Ri?" Ask Aunt Ratna.

"Aunty vegetable soup.." I answered while smiling nervously.

"Oh seger dong.." Aunty Ratna smiled.

"What do you want to drink, ma'am?" Ask Mama. 

"Don't bother Lila..." Answer Aunt Ratna. 

"That's a guest, time is not in the water...." My mom was busy looking for a cup. 

"Auntie.. Papa water white.." Adi Sahut. 

"Oh yes Ma.. Gaek is usually white water cooked. Can't drink gallon water.." My solute.

"Well, Riri knows it..." Adi Timpal. 

"OKay okee... But Adi same Bu Ratna made warm sweet tea ya..." Sahut Mama's.

Mama also sat back to the living room, Dad was ready to sit in the living room with neat clothes. They were still joking and stale discussing the plants until I finally came carrying a tray and 5 cups filled with warm sweet tea and 1 glass of warm water. After that I sat down and Om Budi immediately started the conversation. 

"Live up...  Bismilbornrahmanirahim...So yesterday Adi had asked permission to come here to be ready seriously with Riri next year. Well today we as parents will ask permission again to accompany our child to ask permission again seriously marry Riri next year. And also we will explain our cultural procedures in the stages of introduction until the day H." Clearly Om Budi with a soft tone. 

Me, Mama and Father listened to the talk of Om Budi until it was really finished. 

"Today is the second stage, Yesterday when Adi asked for permission it was the first stage. Later the next stage Adi brought Riri to Om Ilyas, then after Om Ilyas okay continue the next stage. That is, there will be an introduction between the nuclear family. Just the core, yeah..." Sahut Aunt Ratna. 

"So Riri after Om Ilyas can be rejected dong Bu?" Ask Mom with a serious face.

"Sir InshaAllah.. Riri has been introduced to Om Ilyas.. I have met several times as well. So this is just the stage." Answer Aunt Ratna.

"Ohh there is still a stage like that ma'am even though he is familiar." Answer Mama.

"Yeah Ma'am.. It's because it wants the wedding process, so follow the Minangnya's procedures like that.." Answer Aunt Ratna.

Mama also nodded to mean that she understood very well the meaning of Om Budi and Aunt Ratna. 

After Om Budi and Aunt Ratna explained everything, they also decided to go home.

"R.. How's that drag?" Ask Mama. 

"Yes it is different tribes, we are Javanese they are Minang." My answer. 

"Father less sreg if the process gini.." Sahut. 

I was silent when I heard you speak. 

"Sir.. Our name is different from the normal culture..." Sahut Mama's.

"But is this Riri who wants to be married? But it's just Riri who wants to bed Adi.." Answer Mr. ketus. 

"Indeed, if Minang custom is the man who is proposed by sir." My answer.

"Well yes but what is the deal? Have you ever discussed the same Adi?" Ask Father.

"It's been.. Adi at that time also said the same to me if in fact he did not want to be bought. He wanted to propose to me because he had lived in Jakarta for a long time. It was actually just an introduction to Om Ilyas. Next up are the parents of the bride and groom who take care of all sir." I clearly. 

"Jaudah will be the faith... The important thing is that we are also Jawa Ri, we must continue to embrace our culture. You're the only child." Sahut. 

"Yeah Sir... Later I'm the same Adi also want to discuss again." My answer. 

"Yaudah you will have another discussion with Adi yaa.." Sahut Mama's.

After that day, my day was filled with tension. I have to take care of my parents' hearts and also take care of Adi's parents' hearts. A week after that, I went to the house of Om Ilyas accompanied by Adi. Adi also spoke only three, He, Om Ilyas and his wife. I was told not to hear their conversation. After the three of them finished talking, I was called back to Adi. 

"This is Om talking to Adi. Om actually agreed - just agree with Adi's choice. Riri has also met with Om several times.. So there's no problem with Adi's choice. For Riri's education has reached what stage?" Said Om Ilyas. 

"God willing next year I'm koass entrance exam Om.." Reply slowly.

"Oh yasudah, but for this event does not interfere with Riri's education right?" Ask Om Ilyas.

"God does not Om." Reply loudly.

"Okees.. So the stage has been explained to Adi. Later maybe let Adi explain directly to Riri to understand. Because after this there are many stages.. Because we Minang culture really appreciate the name of ethical manners before marriage." Obviously Om Ilyas with a relaxed sitting.

I nodded, "Yes Om.." 

"Judah that is.." Answer About Ilyas.

Because it was night, Adi and Ilyas were not long at home. But this time I was a little disappointed because when I visited his house, Om Ilyas did not offer a drink or just a snack. Or maybe I was less welcome in the Adi family because of tribal differences? 

Then Adi and I said goodbye and on the way I just kept quiet. Adi spoke shortly.

"R... So there will be another stage. After this Riri, Mama same Father to the house of Om Ilyas in Depok ya..." Adi Clear.

"Those three of me?" My question's short. 

"Yaiya three... His ways are like that. Later after that only Om Ilyas invited his brothers to Riri's house to get acquainted with Riri's family. Kayak Pakde Bude Riri later." 

"Oh that.. Continues to? Ka Adi, Om Budi with Aunt Ratna?"

"Well, we come to him later at the event. So after the meeting later it was discussed the continuation.." 

"Oh that's it.. Ribet is also the process. Lengthy. If Java is not complicated, just the introduction has been directly fiancee, proposal, midodareni continue to akad and reception. Done, if you want to add a show ngunduh mantu." My answer is a little upset.

"Yes, it's not really complicated Ri.. There are only stages, because after this Om Ilyas will convey the good intentions of Ka Adi to Riri the same brothers in the hometown. Well later they will ask who is the candidate Ka Adi, where all sorts of it will come from Om Ilyas who explained, not Mama and Papa Ka Adi."

"Oh that's it.. Yaudah later I will go to Mama and Mr. deh if we are going to the house of Om Ilyas."

"OK on.." 

After that conversation I just kept quiet and didn't want to discuss it anymore, honestly I was a little upset by this ordinance. I think we all live in Jakarta, does it have to be that complicated as the way to get married?

***

A week later Mama and I went to Om Ilyas' house. On the way to the house of Om Ilyas, the tire of the car at the right rear arrived - suddenly leaked. We were shocked when the car arrived - suddenly slowed down heavily and heard the sound of a rather large tire wind. Because the leak was quite severe, finally we all got out of the car and Mr. took care of the leaking car tires first. I got permission with Adi that I'm a little late coming to Om Ilyas' house because the tire of the father's car was leaking. I was silent and contemplating this incident, when I wanted to start a serious stage with Adi arrived - suddenly there was an incident that made me ask questions. 

Then after it was finished, Me, Mama and Father also walked again to the house of Om Ilyas. I'm ready to bring you the super delicious macaroni schotel by Ka Amel. Arriving at the house of Om Ilyas, I introduced Mama and Bapak with Om Ilyas. Om Ilyas responded well that day, even they served a variety of cakes at the table. I was a little relieved at that time because Om Ilyas and his wife were very happy to welcome Me, Mama and Father. 

"Okay, so it's likely that next month my brothers and I will go to Mom and Dad's house." Close the conversation that day. 

"Later in the morning sir, for fear I practice." Answer Father.

"Okay sir, I'll tell Adi." Answer About Ilyas. 

When I finished, Mom and I went home. During the trip, my father was silent. Mama's been babbling a lot. 

"This is a very complicated process, Ri..." Mama said as I was daydreaming. 

"Yes that Minang Ma. He said it's the way it is." Reply slowly. 

"Easy - easy to do." Answer Mama.

"Maddie.." My answer.

He was silent as if he did not want to talk. I know you don't seem to like this way. I'm the same, but I'm trying to appreciate Adi's family. Because they also want to follow our procedures later from the night midodareni until the reception. Hopefully not change.