Among Thousand Journeys

Stepping stone

“Typically the man is distracted by lack of mutual understanding and no communication at home, often between wife and husband is not open to each other, and the wife has no desire to make the husband happy, and the husband is not happy, the wife does not keep the appearance for the husband, but most even preen when out of the house, but,

Often there is no communication then what happens the wife wants the husband to stroke his head, but because there is no communication, the husband even being handled by his envy the wife continues, so the wife is disappointed, but because there is no communication, because the hope wants the head of Dielus never to be fulfilled, because there is no

communication, should be husband and wife open to each other, do not be confused, talk about whether the relationship between husband and wife in bed, or daily relationships, because two people are united, because two people are united, of course do not know what the husband wants and what the wife wants, also usually the wife is less willing to take care of herself, for example using gurah, so that the husband is satisfied.”

“I'm old cook wearing like that

kyai.” asked Muslihah.

“Even if it is old it is even more diligent

taking care of yourself, usually tend to wife mislead it because the husband is no longer mighty in bed, not nothing has KO, is the wife who is not satisfied will seek satisfaction, remember that the devil seduces humans, the devil is tempting, thing

haram is always beautifully presented, a husband who has a beautiful wife can be misled with his ugly maid because of the whisperings of the devil, and the devil gives a shadow

beautiful hayal shadow.”

“How do I solve my problem kyai?”

ask Muslihah.

“Mbak Muslihah take care of yourself, if you need to wear gurah, and take care of beauty, serve your husband lovingly, love her husband not because of who her husband is, but love her husband for loving God, longing for paradise, do all the services by imagining that the service will get the equivalent of an eternal paradise, so do not be considered the birth of a husband.” I explained.

“Then how, now only he

sews.”

“Mbak Muslihah still want to get together with husband?” my many.

“Ya is still kyai, because our children are already

rather large.”

“Ya then return to husband.”

“But I hurt kyai.”

“La heartache is nothing to pay, just make mental pressure, self-torture, but absolutely no benefit, calm down, no inner pressure.”

“How could kyai, in fact I was hurt, how my heart did not hurt.”

“Sickness does not solve the problem at all, only raises grudges, and hatred, if in the household then there are embers that are harbored, which can someday explode, he said, then I guarantee the household will not be happy…,

Remember that your husband's mother is only your stepping stone to heaven, do not then even plunge you into hell, hell world because it harbors heartache, and hell because it does not obey the husband, because it is not obedient, yes, I myself if my wife is cheating also not necessarily I am strong enough to bear it, but for me personally, the household is not boxed, it is often a quarrel, this is mine, this is yours, this is yours, don't wear mine, but in the household, it's a unit,

Both husbands and wives like to manage the ark, he if one feels his, the other then limits the rights of the other, yes it will certainly arise suspiciously, such as dogs and cats in one boat, he said, I myself as a husband, even sometimes cooking, washing dishes, it will not make me low, even though I am called kyai, I also sweep and mop, we are what we can do, we can do,

“If the household is built an affection that is based on the affection of the Most Owner of Compassion, then the house will be heaven, then the house will be heaven, the husband becomes the protector and leader of a wise and fair household, the wife becomes the house deodorizer and always makes the air bright, the children are like flickering stars, being the rule of the outside, and the outside, and being a lamp of the heart of the family, then it can only be said that the family is full of calm, and it must be built from small things, such as holding congregational prayers’ah, and so on, then after the husband and wife finished dabbling with each other, the children kissed the hands of the mother, her prayers were all refined, so the household was full of the light of faith.”

“It feels like I want to quickly marry mr. Kyai, so that I can pick up the reward.” said Laila.

“Married it perfects religion, the sunnah of the Prophet, said the Prophet, married it is my sunah, who does not like to marry then does not like the sunah, and who does not like my sunnah, then it is not my class then if not follow the class of the Prophet, then who will follow the group? Whoever has charity as high as the mountain of good charity, and has the right to enter heaven, but does not want to follow the Prophet, then if he goes to heaven, then never know where the path of heaven.”

Suddenly Muslihah cried. Nodding.I stopped talking.

“Thank me yes Alloh.. do’a I can obey my husband kyai, and do’ me, my husband returns to me, I forgive all his mistakes, from Alloh ridho to me.”

“Amiin.. insaAlloh her husband is back tomorrow, and do not forget to serve as well as possible, do not look at his behavior, do not see his physical form, or his personal shortcomings, if examined, if examined, then all those people must have their shortcomings, but make him, your husband, is your stepping stone to reach Ridho and paradise Alloh.”

“Good kyai, my heart is relievedaaa once.” says

Musliha.

The four women asked for themselves, I just hope that what I said can be useful for them.If the guests again season household problems and there is a relationship with marriage, the statement said, strangely that comes always a matter of household relations and who deals with it.

After this sibling there was also a guest of a girl with her mother.

“What's mom? What can I help you with?”

my many.

“It's about my son kyai.”

“What's with his son?” my many.

“My girl's son what might be tied up people

kyai?” ask the girl's mother.

“Tied? How can I see her hands and feet don't have ties?”

“I mean tied up so I can't marry the same

person.” is obviously a middle-aged woman.

“Wah I don't know ma'am, la I this is actually not

can be anything and understand nothing, if

people here also only ask for doo’ain, so that does not mean I know anything, even I do not know at all what do’a I diijabah what not, for me berTO’a in the right way, even, about ijabah it's the right of Alloh, la people here ask dido’ain, yes of course I do’ain, actually Mother can also, or mbaknya this can also, what is her name mbak?”

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