Girl Without Nasab & Ningrat Son

No More Kanca Wingking

Satria and Indi now seem to get advice from Eyang Kakung and Eyang Daughter. As when elderly parents (advanced age) who want to tell stories and want to be heard. So that Indi and Satria also listened a lot to what was told and advised by Eyang Kakung and Eyang Putri.

"The one who agrees. May your marriage and Satria last and be happy always. In the past, it was not possible for Cah Ayu to find her own soul mate. After all, the world and order have changed" said Eyang Kakung.

Eyang Kakung only refers to the customs of the former State family in which all children will be found a suitable mate. However, it seems that Eyang Kakung himself can now think more openly and realize that the world and order have changed now.

"Then, in Java itself the wife was called Kanca Wingking or a friend in the back. Where the role of the wife is very minimal, only take care of the kitchen or wasp. In addition, the wife has the main task of Manak or produce offspring for the next generation of the family. Not so much the concept anymore. Now the wife must stand beside her husband, hand in hand. Despite standing to the side, there are times when the wife occasionally stands behind her husband, providing support."

Eyang Kakung explained everything. While Indi and Satria responded by nodding their heads. If Satria Eyangnya can think widely like this, but why did Rama Bima seem to imprison thoughts in return to the limits of tradition and culture that seemed to ensnare. Indi immediately thought of that difference.

"Would Indi want to stand next to Satria or behind him?" ask Eyang Kakung now.

Indi smiled again. This question sounds simple, but it's actually a philosophy. To answer it must also be careful of course.

"Jawab only Indi," said Bu Galuh.

"Without reducing respect for Mas Satria, Indi has his own answer, Eyang," Indi replied.

Eyang Kakung seemed to nod his head slowly. After that, Eyangnya gave time to Indi to argue.

"As a wife it is certain that Mas Satria has full rights over Indi. To that end, Indi would stand behind Mas Satria even under her to serve her husband. However, Indi would also stand beside Mas Satria, hand in hand undergoing each other and feeling the salt acid of marriage that had not existed for this corn, Eyang. However, if possible the wife can stand in front of the husband, Eyang. Show the right thing, and do it together. That was Indi's answer. Nevertheless, all respect and submission as a wife remains to Mas Satria alone as Imam and head of the household," replied Indi.

There Eyang Kakung and Eyang Putri responded again by nodding their heads. While Bu Galuh smiled because his son-in-law dared to give his opinion. Even Indi also did not hesitate when time had to stand in front of her husband, show the good and the right, and give direction. For Mum Galuh it was a good answer.

"Respect your opinion, Ms. Indi. Good, you dare to express your opinion. One also agrees there are times when the wife takes a step in front of her husband. However, that is only when it is needed. Back again well, the submission is for the husband only," replied Eyang Putri.

"Satria agreed too Eyang. A long time ago, in tradition we considered the man the truest. There is even a train Basa Lanang iku ala ning won, for Satria it is not right anymore, Eyang. If it is wrong, you must apologize. What can be true is not just men" Satria replied.

Yes, in the Javanese Literature there is the Kereta Basa which means a phrase formed to interpret the word by considering the word as an acronym. The man in the language of the answer is Lanang, which can be dragged or interpreted ning style win. This phrase means, even though the speech, thoughts, and behavior of a man is a (bad) style, but men still win. Women must submit always, and acknowledge the victory of a man.

Now, things like this are irrelevant. In the household do not look for who wins and who loses. All that must be done is to do the truth, be honest, reject each other gradually. Household is the most beautiful and longest worship of all time, so in order to be well established there must be acceptance and equal roles of husband and wife. When a man or husband makes a mistake, they should also admit wrong and apologize.

"Corn, Eyang. So, Satria refused if the wife was Kanca Wingking or a friend in the back. Satria accepts Indi as Satria's life companion" Satria said.

Indi felt her heart feel warm and at the same time raised by her husband. Where the husband who thinks it is important and not just behind the scenes. Can weigh and sort out which is more in accordance with the current order.

"Yes, yes, yes, Satria ... Anyang knows. Well, pray Eyang, you two guys get along well, working together. Toward a harmonious household that requires cooperation, the efforts of husband and wife. That's it," said Eyang Kakung again.

After discussing and talking for a long time, now Satria took Indi for a while to walk in the Tea plantation. Satria did not even hesitate to hold Indi's hand down the trail on the tea plantation.

"Makasih Mas Satria" said Indi.

"Hm, what for?" reply Satria.

"Have considered me as a companion to life, to a back friend," Indi replied.

"Definitely, Honey. I'm just trying to say what's in my heart and my head" Satria replied.

Indi smiled at the reply from her husband. Afterwards, Indi then looked at her husband. "Blood may be blue, but thought must evolve, Mas. Suitable and relevant ones that continue to be guarded, stolen. If that doesn't work out, let's leave it. Just conforming to the order and change of the world will not erase one's consciousness right," said Indi.

"My blood is red, dear ... not blue," Satria replied with a laugh.

"Kan Mas Satria is a noble class," replied Indi.

"Just the same. My blood is red, burning. Just as my love for you is always burning, all ages."

Listening to the words of her husband actually makes Indi feel amused. Sometimes her husband was joking. However, Indi felt that the man who could put the wife sometimes in front, sometimes on the side, or behind even though he was an extraordinary husband.

"Last night well, we make memories in my room of Jejaka's time" whispered Satria now to his wife.

Indi shook his head. Just now, she felt her heart warm, now that her husband was already that mischievous. Presumably her husband's mischief rate has increased since marriage. Indi shook her head.