Girl Without Nasab & Ningrat Son

The Reality of Divorced Couples

Anthony was silent as he watched Arbe drinking formula with his drink. Looking at his daughter's eyes, Anthony often felt guilty. His daughter should have received complete affection from both parents. However, Arbe has lost his affection completely and fully. Being with Mom and Dad can't be every day.

"Oh, don't think about it. Next time you will also get used to it, too" said Viona who saw the change in the look of her husband's face.

"Realita's a divorced couple like this well, Vio. Much more stifling," said Anthony now.

For Anthony, this feeling was even more stifling. Want to do more, want to show attention, but hampered status as a former partner. Maybe if the ex-boyfriend feels nothing, while if the ex-husband or wife tastes worse in the heart.

It was as if a high wall had been built between him and Viona. Regretted? Of course, but everything can't be played anymore.

"This is the path we have taken and agreed on together, Thony. Must be a commitment to live it," Viona replied.

"Honestly, I regret everything" Anthony said now.

Viona smiled faintly. People say regret always comes too late. While Viona herself did not regret everything. Viona is more willing to accept the reality. Being a divorced couple can also work together and cooperatively for Arbella. Clever communication, adjusting, and of course putting yourself too.

"We can apply Co-Parenting together, Thony," Viona replied.

Yes, Co-Parenting is a shared parenting pattern practiced by divorced couples. Because, even though they are divorced and not together anymore in building a household heresy, but both must together try to provide the best care for the child, meet the needs of the child, and meet the needs of the child, and maintain the closeness of the relationship between the child and his parents.

"What does it do without feeling?" ask Anthony in a clean voice.

"Of course you can. Be professional," replied Viona.

"It's easy to talk, Vio, but the truth is that doing all of that is not easy" Anthony said.

Viona glanced at Anthony for a moment. "Talk about the past. And also our broken homes. There's nothing to grieve and regret. Now, it's time to focus on what's in sight while being Mama and Papa for Arbella. After all, we can both talk like this just for Arbe, right?"

Again Viona's speech was like a pinch in her heart. Instead of involving feelings, it is better to be professional. They're close now just because of Arbella. Maintaining and establishing communication solely for children only wayangnya.

"By the way, you're cured?" ask Viona now.

"Two to three more treatments. There are no wounds, rashes, and pus. Even so, I'm still afraid," Anthony replied.

Yes, there are no wounds, rashes, or pus that previously came out at the top of the navel. Anthony, however, admitted he was still afraid. While Viona tried to listen to him.

"Hm, now I'm talking about putting myself as your best friend, Thony. When healed later, take care of yourself more. Do not pursue pleasure alone. Remember Arbe's face, he also needs a good Papa figure. Sometimes we are kind, life never leads to the right or to the left, but there will be bad karma. So, be careful," said Viona.

To give advice and let it know that the true human life is only reaping what he sowed before. Some are straight, but their offspring reap what is not good. Ngunduh Wohing Pakarti it really happened. Depends on how we expose it. It's just that as a friend now, Viona told Anthony when to act and behave in memory of Arbe. Let the actions and good behavior of parents, later will also bring good for Arbella as an adult.

"I'll be more careful, Vio. Thanks for your advice. Although it's still hard for me to think of you as a friend or friend. I'm still hoping for a second chance" Anthony said.

Meanwhile, Viona smiled. Honestly, he felt trauma. Viona also did not think that she began to lose trust with a creature called man. Fear of being abandoned and cheated on.

What Viona felt was very natural. She left her husband cheating on her after childbirth and the early stages of breastfeeding. There is postpartum pain where the body is still in pain and hormonal turmoil that has an effect on emotions. However, when she is at a low point, Viona must be confronted with the reality that there is a woman who comes home and recognizes her as her husband's bedmate.

Viona's world was instantly destroyed. At that time, even up to a few days of ASI production was reduced drastically. Heavy thoughts that trigger excess stress eventually make ASI reduced production. Fortunately there are parents Viona who always support and also Viona herself bought an ASI booster to improve the production of lactose glands until the production of ASI can again increase.

"We'd better be like this, Thony. We were never fit to be a married couple. Our household is failing and falling apart, but we can work together not for Arbe? Failed to be husband or wife, but didn't fail to become a parent for Arbe" Viona said, nodding a few times.

"It's more ironic that I thwarted our own household" Anthony said softly.

Viona then smiled wryly. He sometimes wanted to laugh at what he had previously been through. All that was already messy, Viona wanted to let all that go. His heart was closed to any man. Viona's priority is to raise Arbe alone.

Arbe, who was drinking milk at last, looked at Mama and Papa. After that, he invited his father to play again. Finally Anthony stood up and played with Arbe again. While Viona tidied up Arbe's drink and closed Arbe's bag. While sitting down he observed Anthony and Arbe playing together.

"First, you never thought to take care of Arbe. For more than a week you did not come home. Whether your baby is healthy, already off the umbilical cord or not, you don't know. I don't think I'll be able to open my heart to men anymore. I'm happier this way, which is for sure your access to Arbe won't be closed."

Viona muttered like that in her heart. For Viona it is better this way. The two can't unite as parents for Arbe, there's a rift going on. For Viona, however, all of this was better. Besides, Viona was feeling happier. That certainly won't shut down access for Anthony to meet with Arbella.

This is the reality of a divorced couple. Maybe one of the parties is still using feelings or getting carried away with past memories. Professional attitude is needed, commitment is needed not to mix feelings and reality. It is better to keep walking in the corridors that are already available. Failed to be a life partner, but will not fail to be a partner and parent for Arbella.