Girl Without Nasab & Ningrat Son

Manten Pingitan

From the process of registering the marriage administration to the wedding day it takes a month. It doesn't feel like three weeks have passed. Just counting the days for Satria and Indira to make a deal.

This time, from the side of the Eyeangnya Satria, Eyang Dirja from the Mother Galuh asked Satria and Indira to continue the pingitan tradition. Pingitan or dipingit tradition is one of the traditions that still take place in some parts of Indonesia. This tradition is most commonly found and known to be done by the Javanese who carry out this tradition since the days of the kingdom.

"Dipingit first yes, Madam Indi," said Mother Ervita.

"Well, Nda?" ask Indi now.

"Yes, if you meet Satria during the pangling, the aura of the bride comes out" replied Mother Ervita with a laugh.

Indeed, there are several purposes why Pingitan is still done today, namely planting longing for both brides, building trust in each other, and distancing themselves from various dangers.

"Mother used to be knitted too?" ask Indi.

"No, Mother used to live in a small house in the grounds of Eyang, Ma'am. Meet you the same Yayah. Starting from the person who was helped, eventually became the daughter-in-law of the Hadinata family," the story of Mother Ervita.

"Oh, that little house, Nda?" ask Indi.

"Yes, it's a historic home for us. Mother and you stayed there for two years. You are from a few days old and up to two years old. Day by day you grow up, and get to know the figure of the father of Jayah Pandu," Mother Ervita told.

Sometimes if you remember the past, the likes and sorrows of the past, tears can just flow. However, Mother Ervita will always remember that without a winding past, there is no way she can be close and in the end be a match with her husband.

"Indi has loved Yaah since childhood well, Nda?" ask Indi.

"Yes, if the afternoon used to play with Yamah in Pendopo. Sorry well, Madam Indi," said Mother Ervita.

However, Indi quickly shook his head. "It's okay, Nda. Let all the past. At first Indi was disappointed, Indi wanted to be his biological daughter Yamah, Nda. However, Indi knows that we can never choose from whom we are born, who our parents are. For all God has appointed."

Try to respond to what has already happened positively. Indi has been able to accept the past of his mother, the past which is certainly closely related to his origin. Initially disappointed, even the disappointment Indi felt with a moody few days, there were times when he cried when his sister was more spoiled to Jayah Pandu.

However, Indi can reveal it. The process of maturity that Indi experienced makes it more accepting now. More than that, Indi also forgave her biological father.

"Well, so Ma'am. The proof is that his daughter can reveal the past. Just counting the days before H, you're ready to be Satria's wife?" ask Mother Ervita.

"God willing, ready, Nda. While Indi hopes someday, Rama will give blessing to both of us. What did Indi do wrong no, Nda?"

"There is a sad side where one parent does not give his blessing. Hopefully later in the future with the passage of time, all will be good" replied Mother Ervita.

"That's what Indi thinks too, Nda. Indi wanted to accompany Mas Satria, Indi knew that now Mas Satria was much sad. Indi wants to share and share with him. It's hard to go through the hardest time alone. However, if we live together, everything will be lighter."

Mother Ervita nodded her head. The results of upbringing and teachings over the years make Indi can think and behave very well. As if Mother Ervita saw her past, how there is a figure of Jayah Pandu who is always there for her. True what Indi said, in the past time has not been tied to marriage, indirectly Dad Pandu who shared it. Pandu's father who saw and heard his cries. After becoming a husband and wife, the two are together every time. Cultivate love and nurture it.

"Yes already, now stretch first well. Let it be more beautiful later," said Mother Ervita.

"Let's what, Nda?"

"Let's get more and more kinclong, Cah Ayu .. the aura of the bride emanated. Later wear Ratus too," said Mother Ervita with a laugh.

Ratus is a type of handlebars to decorate hair. It is usually sold in the form of a coarse powder. How to use it is to burn hundreds on a small stove or brazier, then the fragrant smoke is directed at the hair. This way of treatment is commonly done by the princesses of the palace in the Nusantara region.

"Even though, only at home, but the treatment is a lot well, Nda," said Indi.

"Give your best to your husband" said Mother Ervita.

His daughter who will soon be edited Satria looked down shyly. Just imagining it with Satria feels really embarrassed.

"Sana, take care first to be beautiful."

Finally there are two mbak-mbak from traditional Javanese spa house that takes care of Indi. The girl wore mangir scrubs that were believed to make the skin smoother and her hair smoked with hundreds. It's like doing a spa treatment at home.

While Mother Ervita walked to the pendopo she had called the gardener to the house and later the pendopo will be decorated with janur and flowers. In the past, Mother Ervita gave birth to Indi at the age of 21 years, and now 24 years later when she was still the head of four, Mother Ervita will already have a ghost. It is considered at a young age to have a son-in-law and may be followed by having grandchildren.

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Meanwhile, Satria at the house of Eyang Dirja was also given advice about living the household later. Lucky Satria, because Eyang Dirja (her mother's parents) agreed and gave blessing for him and Indi.

"Living a few days, Sat ... later Eyang will be at the bride's house when the contract," said Eyang Kakung and Eyang Putri.

"Corn, Eyang. Matur nuwun, already want to accompany Satria," he replied.

"If a man has dared to marry, it means being ready to take responsibility. In our culture we married that once, Sat. Garwa, life coaching. You have half of your life, and so does half of your life belong to your wife. So, in careful. Wake up (household building) instead of one day, one month, or one year. However, until you age, you will continue to build it."

Satria nodded her head listening to the advice of her Eyeang. It is precisely grateful to still have a wise Eyang and give good advice.

"Corn, Eyang. Thank you, Satria will remember it and do it" Satria replied.

"Everything or paningset is ready. What you buy for Mbak Indi is well decorated," said Eyang Putri.

Satria did ask for help to be adorned. All of that he will bring when asking Indi later, when making a contract. Paningset is one of the completeness in the series of Javanese traditional wedding ceremonies. This peningset is a variety of items given by the groom to the bride as a symbol of the ability of a man to meet the needs of his future wife. Paningset usually consists of a set of prayer tools, jewelry, clothing suits, makeup tools, bags. Also Eyang Dirja will complement by bringing Jadah and Wajik, traditional snacks made from sticky rice symbolically to arrange, bringing the two families closer. Coconut ivory, and betel leaf ayu.

"Take it easy, memorized first the phrase kabulnya ijab," said Eyang Dirja.

"Excite, Eyang."

The sentence of kabul that Satria will say is certainly different. However, he had already memorized it. It feels like Satria wants the day H comes soon. Uniting with Indi is the best thing Satria wants.