Marriage Ends in Love.

CHAPTER 43 NGUNDUH MANTU

Ngunduh Mantu, Wukirsari

A series of events and the process of ngunduh mantu has been held when the reception process has been held now entered the Temon Ceremony. Ngunduh mantu is an additional traditional procession that is usually carried out by Javanese bride and groom. Ngunduh means harvest or harvest, while mantu means son-in-law. In other words, ngunduh mantu can be interpreted as a family that has obtained a daughter-in-law. If in the wedding party the bride is the one who will hold a hajat, then in the ngunduh ghost, the family of the groom is appointed as the host. This tradition is carried out to welcome the presence of the bride as a new family member of the bridegroom's extended family. Usually, the event ngunduh mantu held about 5 days after the wedding day is over.

Usually the ceremony of Panggih or Temon is done at the residence of the bride but because when the event at my place is not held this Temon event. His mother mas Tama took the initiative to choose this event at the end of a series of ghostly ngunduh events at his residence. But when the event at my home, I refused this event because of course the bride will be a spectacle for the family as well as the invitees considering this event is quite unique and thick with cultural customs.

Sophisticated or Temon is Kata Panggih in Indonesian means ‘meet’. In this Advanced Procession brings together the bride and groom as a husband and wife after being legally religious and State.

Beautiful and mystical sound from Gamelan combined with the tradition of Advanced or Meet: the meeting between a beautiful bride and a handsome groom in front of a house decorated with Tarub plants.

The bride, in between by two of the elder women, walks out of the bridal room. Her parents and close family walked behind her. In front of him two princesses are called Broken, with a fan. Two of the poured women or two of the sons carried two Mayang Twins that were about a meter or more tall. One woman from the groom's family walks out of line and gives Sanggan to Tama's mother, as a sign of appreciation to the host of the ceremony.

By wearing traditional Javanese traditional clothes, I and mas Tama were met in the courtyard of the Tama mas house. After that, the Panggih ceremony will immediately begin with the accompaniment of Javanese gendingnya.

at the balangan session tell Me and Tama mas positioned face to face approximately 1 to 1.5 meters away and we are both given the order/sirih roll. Tell the ones that have been rolled and tied with thread. Then the organizer ordered to be thrown into the body of Tama mas and I. With the cue from the organizer we together throw a roll of tell to the body of each partner.

The meaning contained in this procession is to symbolize the love and loyalty of the bride both in difficult and happy circumstances always passed together.

In the Jumeneng session the couple stood face to face. This procession is a continuation of the procession balangan tell by this procession procedure me and Tama mas stand each other upright facing each other approximately 1 to 1.5 meters away. I looked at Mas Tama somehow the more days I feel the charm of my husband is getting handsome.

In the third session is Stepping on eggs or Minak tigan. The bride Mas Tama stepped on the egg with her right foot until it broke in the hope that we were given offspring according to Temon's host, and then I washed the feet of the Tama mas with seven-figure flower water. As a testament to the devotion of love and loyalty to the husband in a state of difficulty and pleasure and the readiness of a husband to become a responsible family head. And the bride will serve her husband faithfully until the end of her life.

The words of the last host are

"serving the husband to the end of life" it shook my heart as I washed the feet of the Tama mas somehow my chest churned so violently and suddenly there were grains of pearls that felt hot flowing on my cheeks. I remember how he patiently did not touch me for one week where it should be my duty and a husband's right to his wife.

and at the Sindur session. Syndur is a kind of scarf in red, white edge meandering.Sindur fabric is spread on the shoulders of Aku and mas Tama by the mother of the bride of her mother mas tama. Based on the narration of the host It can be interpreted that the bride I have been accepted as a child by the Tama mas party. then the father of Tama mas ‘meneret’ both I and Tama mas slowly headed into the house, Mak e and mom join ‘push’ from behind.

And the Weighing and Tanem Jero sessions were canceled because we held this Temon event at the ngunduh mantu ceremony.

We were led into the bridal room once in the bridal room there was some yellow rice in a small tray with all kinds of complementary side dishes.

At this session is Dhahar Walimah or eat together. The meaning of this procession is the steadiness of the bride's heart in the household.This procession also illustrates the harmony of husband and wife will bring happiness in the family that will be built later.

At this session I again felt like crying when I got a bribe from mas Tama. His hands are so soft.... And her smile made my heart tremble. I also fed Tama mas and either intentionally or not Tama bit my fingertips a little while smiling seductively. Then we gave each other a drink from a prepared glass.

After all was done now we were asked to take a short break because it was 1 and we had not had lunch. After everyone came out of the living room I was both with Tama mas.

I who was now sitting in front of the mirror next to the bed was trying to open some accessories that were in my head. Mas Tama without me asking to come closer and mambantu release the accessories left behind a black hijab and cream that is still left wrapped around my head and neck.

"Ran Cape?" Tanya mas Tama who stood behind me with both hands massaging my shoulders.

"A little mas" I'm still focused on my hijab but my heart feels misbehaved with a touch of Tama mas on my shoulder.

"In a moment, we've changed one shirt already that we rest let me say to mom later"

"hueeee...hueek...." Suddenly my stomach was so nauseous.

_______________________

#####Given this work of fiction, then on this Temon show there are some parts that do not match the custom of Temon in general. Because this is at the show ngunduh ghost so it is not the same as at the event in the House of Women.######