LOVE STRING POPEYE

32. Outpouring of the Wife

Neta rushed to the room where Selvi was treated, as soon as possible to complete all the needs for cesarean section

"Assalamualaikum

greet him upon entering room 104

"Wa'alaikumsalam

"Where did you get the medicine ?

tanya Wawa made sure

"Alhamdulillah got the deck, he gave it to the nurse earlier

"This is there a form that must be filled in mba ?

Neta gives it to Selvi

How is it ? Dance is not coming

ask for help mba who is vicein huh ?

"Can you ?

her question was hopeful with a sad face..

How not to be sad when you need the support of the closest people actually have to be far apart, the husband that is expected to be able to protect it does not care in the least

Selvi has sent a message to her husband,

"Pa I'm in the bleeding hospital

but his answer was beyond expectations

" Do you still need me ?

"what's his dealings with me ?

" didn't you say you could take care of your own child ?

" I'm busy, just call your family

Reply messages that have destroyed the confidence of a wife, think her in this state her husband will be a little empathetic, a little thought to care but real her heart is really petrified..

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Family is a process of mutual maturation that occurs between husband and wife. In the process, the spouse is expected to fulfill the roles and obligations under the agreement. But if one of them does not meet, for example, the husband is not responsible for the needs of the family, the harmony of marriage can be threatened.

“My husband always talks about the responsibility of fighting again. For example, “you should obey me, I am your husband, you are my responsibility, not your parents anymore.” He said that, but in fact I was never given monthly money at all, most be given 2x a day.

If breakfast in the morning, I am not given lunch, new dinner. He had a small business, was told to work never to.

If you want to buy what to ask first, sometimes loved and more not. plus the harsh words of the in-laws that make me reckless to get out of the house of in-laws and occupy the house given by my sister.

After the first child was born, I thought he would change.

Husband does not want to work even though the needs of the baby are not small

Like diapers are over, I asked for money to buy, he instead said “wear diapers cloth ajalah.” Even though diapers are used only for sleeping at night, let it dede serene bobonya.

I told him it was less. If you can work. Because the baby needs are not small. But he never wanted to. Ask to buy a toy that costs 15 thousand is not given the money.

If dede is sick also I ask to see a doctor or poly child, he always thinks “later pay how, wastage he said ?”

My husband also does not allow me to be close to my parents and family, while they have been more than enough for me so far

Lebaran time also I finally had to be lebaran to the parents on the second day because the first day is full day at the place of his extended family., he said.,He said because if in his big family the dede dapet a lot of money and large, if in my family dapet at least. 

O Allah indirectly why am I like a beggar carrying his son on the streets ? 

Though who likes to buy the needs of the dede it is my sister, especially my youngest sister, her family never at all memubris my son. And I also rarely get to the parents' house, even if I have to stay at the parents' house, he never wants to come along. Though my parents really love him, although daughter-in-law but already considered her own child.

But I don't think he ever wanted to think of my parents as his own, 

'According to the teachings of Islam, both husband and wife have their own responsibilities and rights. Husbands in particular, have material and non-material obligations that should be addressed.

Material obligations such as

1.Dowry

Mahar is a treasure that must be given during the wedding contract. The purpose of this dowry is to glorify a woman.

“And give mascawin (mahar) to women (whom you marry) as a voluntary gift

.” (QS. Annisa’ verse 4).

The majority of scholars agree that a living is obligatory given to the husband to the wife who takes care of him and the family. Related to this obligation, there is a proposition behind it.

“And the obligations of the father bear their living and clothing in a proper manner.” (QS Al-Baqarah :233). In addition, in the hadith also explained about the obligations of this one husband.

Mentioned the narration of Aisha ra. he said, “Hindun bin Utbah, his wife Abu Sufyan came to Rasulullah saw. he said, “wahi Rasulullah saw. indeed Abu Sufyan is a stingy man, he said, he did not give me what sustenance could suffice me and my children, unless (by the way) I took some of his property without Abu Sufyan's knowledge, did I sin? The Prophet said, “take from his treasure what can suffice you and your children in the right way.” (CHR. Al Bukhari and Muslim).

Dress up

There is a reason for the obligation of the husband to give proper clothing to his children and wife. It is mentioned in the verse of the Qur’an and the hadith.

Hadith narration of Jabir bin Abdillah mentioned in one of the contents of the speech of the Prophet SAW, when Hajj wada’ is, “and for them (wives) it is mandatory for you to provide good sustenance and clothing to them.” (CHR. Muslim).

Giving decent clothes was taken from the postulate in Surah Al-Baqarah verse 233 “and the obligation of the father to bear their living and clothing in a proper manner.”

Give a place to stay

Another material obligation that should be fulfilled is to provide a decent and appropriate residence at the level of ability. “Put them (wives) where you live according to your ability” (QS. At-talaq verse

6.Non material obligations

In addition to material terms, the husband should also pay attention to the obligations in terms of nonmatter. Outside the clothing, food, boards, some things that should be considered are :

✓Graining wife well

In Islam, it is mandatory for every husband to treat his wife well during sexual intercourse. Of course, every husband should prioritize the comfort of the wife.

Some adab in getting along should be considered every couple. “And marry them (wives) well”. (QS An-Nisa :19).

From Aisyah R.A he said,“Nabi SAW never kissed while he was fasting, and he had touched the skin while he was fasting, but he was more able to resist his lust.” (Muttafaqun).

In his attitude, the Prophet has also exemplified various behaviors that can and should not be done.

✓ Not being rude

In everyday life, the husband is also obliged to be kind and wise. It is not permissible for every husband to be rude either physically or verbally.

It felt like I had a husband who did not understand that at all..

I think time will change what else has 3 children and soon be born the 4th. Actually, a slacker is still a slacker who even feels happy when continuously getting help from my sister..

"Mba....? I fill ya ?

neta's voice breaks her daydream

"Yes, thank you very much

Neta immediately prepared all the files, after which immediately handed them to the officer

"Thank you guys for so much I've bothered today

selvi sobbing

"already mba, do not think much, while in surgery must be strong mentally and mind

"We'll stay here until the mba family comes

holding Selvi's hand

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Kinara Riswari