Learning to Be a Mother

19. Gentle Parenting's.

"It seems like there's something adab needs to teach here."

I intertwined the conversation, continuing the debate between us as the rise of trampled self-esteem. It's not a coercion from my son, nor am I doing this for him. I spoke, I tried to raise my family's status again.

"What do you mean, huh?" reply to the woman next to me. "Isn't what needs to be taught Adab is your child? Which was never noticed, so it's easy to play his hands."

"It wasn't my son who started first" I said as I looked at him boldly. "You know, no matter how old you are, mocking the old man is still wrong. Joking also there are bates, I am sure Kalista before must be a warning to Natasha but not digubris with his son."

"Lied!" spray that teenager on me. "She suddenly hit."

"Playing victim lo!"

"Udah, there can be no further debate about this at school. If there is something to be discussed more slowly, please talk carefully outside the school environment," Ms. Irma cut us silent. "As a lesson, I give the first warning letter to Kalista Natasha. If this letter comes out three times because of your behavior, I make sure your name is not in this school."

I exhaled, trying to look better even though my head was getting noisy. The woman beside me clucked, she got up from her chair and pulled her son away from the counseling room. They went outside before receiving any further explanation from Ms. Irma.

Meanwhile, Ms. Irma shook her head. "Kalista, the UKS room is next to this room, yes. You can heal your wounds there, someone wants me to talk to your mother."

I approached my son, rubbed his hair as gently as possible and went down to look at his face that was still shocked by what happened. I can't leave her alone, but what Ms. Irma said later seems important and should be heard.

"Later Mama followed you, yeah. Rest there."

Kalista smiled slightly, as if trying to convey that she was fine now. I pulled his body into my arms, revealing it as a form of tranquilizer while rubbing his back as well. I don't want my son to be okay, I don't want him to get a lot more injuries.

Then, the woman in the messy uniform stood up from her place. He took the time to bow in respect to his teacher, then left us with an increasingly quiet and awkward atmosphere.

"Bu Laras, I know how the condition of his family Mother at that time, I also know what kind of child Kalista. I'm sorry that this happened."

I shook my head lightly. "It's not Miss Irma's fault."

Miss Irma smiled. "Mom, this is also not entirely wrong Kalista. Maybe I don't know the same child named Natasya earlier, she was Kalista's classmate, and the one sitting next to Bu Laras was her mother, Ms. Gisel."

I'm nodding. Feeling that there will be further discussion, I did not make a sound until Ms. Irma connected her words again.

"I'm not in fact Kalista or Natasha, but I kasian .. really the same pattern of parenting Gisel to his son. Maybe it's been taken care of so from childhood, so his son did not want to admit his mistake or apologize first."

"Foster pattern, Mom?" ulang remembered.

I don't understand what she's been saying since, about parenting and the role of a mother in it. What else will the role of the mother be blamed also by Ms Irma? Will the child's fault always be seen as coming from his mother as if we were telling them to do evil?

"Because of the fault of the child so that the mother is wronged, Mom?"

Ms. Irma just chuckled. "It's not so, Mrs Baras. From what we saw earlier, Ms. Gisel is clearly still defending her son even though she knows that her son first mocked. There's a fire there's oil, isn't there, Mom? He didn't listen to his son's explanation and he could blame someone else."

If I'm honest, I'm surprised to hear him say that. Does such a parenting pattern really exist? Can the treatment of Gisel ma'am be interpreted as wrong parenting? If so, then the effect on the child is also not a small thing, yes.

"Children become unusual instrospection of the same self, parents also always nganggep his son real and not horrified the version of others. In fact, parents with Permissive Parenting can also use their power and money just to fool their children, Mom."

Continued flabbergasted, I spontaneously answered his words as well, "The effect is great, Mom?"

Miss Irma nodded. "Children are less self-disciplined and have poor social skills."

"Keep if the correct parenting is like how, Miss Irma?"

"We use Gentle Parenting alone, this parenting pattern his parents keep calm and willing to listen to the explanation of each party involved. Parents can also learn to understand the child's feelings and psychological limitations so that we do not impress their meaning, let children not feel always required to be perfect even though in our eyes only small things to do."

My eyes sparkled to hear the explanation, I just knew there were various parenting patterns to children. I just understood what Kalista felt when Ms. Irma's last sentence was uttered. Maybe all this time my son felt always required to be the best beyond his ability.

I exhale, my son must be depressed with his parents. For now, I need to worry more about my son's condition first. I don't want to make him lose any more control, I have to make sure Fathan and Kalista are with me in good shape.

"Unfortunately, this parenting pattern will be burdensome to parents because of the long process and the many demands," he said made me remember the role of the mother figure for me who was already heavy. "Also, the gentle attitude of parents can sometimes make a child misunderstand, it could be that parents will be considered rich enough already."

No matter how good a direction, there will always be consequences and weaknesses in each choice.

I will always be prosecuted and misunderstood by them. Although all this time I have experienced it often, but I know that what I will teach them is the right thing, even though they do not know what the impact will be.

"I didn't tell Bu Laras to do everything, I also have children, and know exactly how heavy it is. I'm just making it clear that parenting will have an impact and what's good like."

"Thank you very much, Ms. Irma. I know that parenting is also very bad for the child, sorry I have not been able to treat my child well."

Ms. Irma shook her head. "Bu Laras already know and understand about parenting little by little, then please find more information on the internet. Hope Kalista can learn better, ma'am."

My smile expands, of course Kalista will learn from me at her best. I will not allow my son to be tainted with the free association of today's children, he and his brother will always be in my care.