Ustadz Ridwan's Dream

176. Secuil Advice

Ridwan after returning from the house Iis directly headed to the cottage which today scheduled the arrival of two mothers of the house, while the house will stay, while the house will stay, or taking place with children from the foundation is scheduled to take turns once every three months.

For at the beginning of this, the treasurer of the two foundations who were newlyweds, volunteered to be housed in the lodge.

The couple, who still have a sibling relationship with Pak Haji Imron, looks very enthusiastic will be housed in the cottage with many orphans and twofa.

The couple named Arif and Salwa are also graduates of pesantren like Ridwan, only they did not get as deep as Ridwan mastered science while studying at the boarding school.

They were only in pesantren for about three years, the rest of them out of pesantren, one year at home and then betrothed and married.

Their age is still very young, but indeed their marriage was held in order to avoid courtship activities and other things, to be equally awake of course.

Arif, who is the nephew of Pak Haji Imron, is the second treasurer to enter the foundation to be devoted to managing finances that are specifically channeled to the cottage.

When Ridwan arrived at the cottage, Arif and his wife who had occupied the building since yesterday seemed to welcome him happily.

"Children will enter tomorrow morning, there are only about eleven children, the data has been accepted?"

Ask Ridwan.

Arif and his wife nodded,

"Sorry Mr. Ustadz."

Replied Arif, who then let Ridwan sit to make warm tea because it happened to be outside began to appear drizzle.

"Sir Ustadz may not have lunch, would you like to be prepared all nopo? Here or in the dining room?"

Ask Salwa.

"Oh right, just prepared here, sir."

Arif.

"Okay, don't bother, later I can easily eat at home, this is the important thing I came to make sure everything is ready, it's all ready, at the same time want to meet two administrators who will help Mas Arif and Mbak Salwa take care of the children and the cottage."

Ridwan refused a smooth lunch offer that was actually quite late in the afternoon.

"It's okay Mr. Ustadz, we are even honored that Mr. Ustadz is willing to have lunch here, coincidentally, we cooked deliberately a bit so that the prospective stewards could eat directly as well as arrived."

Salwa.

"Well you know Mr. Ustadz, I jumped into the kitchen to help me buy everything."

Arif said making Ridwan laugh.

"But in fact it is the housework yo enter the obligations and responsibilities of the husband, so here who helps actually Mbak Salwa to Mas Arif?"

Ridwan towards Arif who so along laugh while sleepy.

"Isn't home business my duty as Mr Ustadz's wife?"

Salwa asked Ridwan who became interested, Arif looked deg degan looking at his wife who was clearly immediately enthusiastic.

She had to sit next to her husband Arif, because she wanted to hear Ridwan's explanation first.

Of course, Ridwan's eyes are not entitled to the woman who is the wife of another man, Ridwan is very trying to keep his view, especially today he feels he has acted with her at the house of Iis.

"No, Sister Salwa, the duty of the wife is to serve the husband and take care of the children."

Ridwan.

"Serving the husband, is not taking care of the house also part of taking care of the husband also sir?"

Ask Salwa.

Ridwan shook his head slowly,

"In a book that discusses the rights and duties of spouses, it is mentioned that in fact the duties and obligations of men as husbands not only make a living, but also take care of all the housework, he said, from doing laundry, to cooking to pleasing his wife."

Ridwan.

"Huh? has he? I just found out."

Salwa smiled widely, though,

"But..."

Ridwan smiled as he added the word but, which then made Salwa not to be teasing Arif her husband,

"But, if the man who is husband has done everything perfectly, then the woman as wife should not at all dispute what the husband wants when asked to be served. So the wife really should only be in the house, serving the husband whenever he needs to be served. Women only decorate themselves in the house only for the husband."

Salwa fell silent, replacing the smiling Arif,

"Well, in a household, especially in Indonesia which has become commonplace to take care of the house and others is the duty of women, of course this will be strange to see others. Sometimes we can't live that much, even though we should. Moreover, for example, the man who as a husband has not been able to pay a housekeeper, because actually what is meant by the husband is obliged to be free, cook, wash, of course, not only he does it with his own hands, because it is impossible if a man is tired of working all day, he still has time to take care of the house."

Ridwan.

Arif would agree.

"Our religion is very fair and wise in managing all things, even for household affairs. We take the middle, the sholihah wife, she will take over the duties and obligations of her husband that she can do in the house, take care of the children while taking care of the house, cooking and washing, he said, all of this is a reward field for him. Even mentioned, if she washed her husband's clothes, for one day the husband's clothes were dried, then every drop of water and also evaporated water will become a spirit for her, he said, to be the way to forgive the sins of the wife, as well as when she cooks and so forth, as long as she does so with sincerity and ridho lillahi ta'ala."

Salwa looked to nod her head.

"The true household is like a team to go to God's paradise, knowing the right obligations of each actually also to make it easier for us to put ourselves in the right portion, not to intimidate each other. Many couples are often wrong to use the word right and duty when married, a kind of husband who always easily says the wife of the ungodly just a matter of not wanting to serve when wanting in bed, though it could be that the wife has helped him complete his obligation to take care of the house because the husband has not been able to pay a housekeeper to replace him to take care of the house, moreover, the wife also has tired of doing her own duties and obligations as a wife and mother to take care of the children."

"Oh my God, yes."

Arif seemed to realize how many selfish husbands actually.

"Then the wives who had husbands economically were more than enough, having indulged him with all the amenities in the house, he was not tired at all, so actually her reward field is just decorated in the house for her husband only, and if she refuses the husband's request, then it can be said nuzus."

"This means that each of us men and women must first know the rights and obligations first, then intend what is done so worship. It could finally be a blessing. Like the team, of course, must know each other's tasks, if one of the difficulties, then the other helps, should not burden each other."

Ridwan.

Arif and Salwa nodded, they were very happy to talk to Ridwan, like back in the cottage, they listened intently to what Ridwan said.

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