The Journey of Love Habibah..

Depressions

For several months since Qodir learned that Habibah was pregnant, Qodir had been more understanding and attentive to Habibah. Whatever Habibah did he never again protested and objected. Even before leaving for work, Qodir helped ease his wife's work by washing clothes and cleaning the house. He really tried to make his wife feel comfortable during her pregnancy. Until the gestational age entered seven months, they were asked to go home to Habibah's parents to hold a seven-monthly event. Although they do not use customs and traditions, but they cannot refuse the wishes of their respective families.

The seven-monthly event was done simply, because it was a requirement given by Habibah to his family so as not to hold seven months using complete customs. There is only sagging and flower baths, others Habibah does not want to do it. Because for him many traditions are not in accordance with his beliefs.

One week after the seven months of Habibah's house, the Qodir family asked them to come to the house of Qodir's parents and requested that Habibah give birth there. But Habibah did not want to linger there. Because she still very vividly remembered in her memories everything that second brother Qodir had said when she was three months pregnant, she said, when she almost had a miscarriage, she had to listen to what hurt her heart.

" You are yes if you are the wife do not like spoiled. Do not be too troublesome husband, let alone you know your husband is work. You should support all your husband's ideals, not even want to hinder him. You know your husband has S2 education, so he knows what he has to do for your future. Whatever your ideals you have to support, do not expect too much of your husband because he will not be like other husbands. Don't complain and demand too much strangely with your husband. You as a wife should be able to be independent do not like to depend on your husband. I know exactly what your husband is like, because I helped fund the school and also the college of your husband. So do not want to be spoiled like the wife of others, because she will not have time to pamper you. There's still a lot more important than that." The words of his brother-in-law were very important in Habibah's heart. This made her even more unable to love her husband. Even just loving is hard. All she did was respect a wife for her husband. Although there was guilt about it, he could do nothing about it. Because he himself was already feeling depressed about everything that his sister-in-law said. But Habibah still tried his best to be a good wife for Qodir.

Habibah felt lucky to have a mother-in-law who loved her very much. Who always gave strength to his heart to be strong and patient in facing the test of his marriage.However somehow the pressure he felt was greater than the strength he received. Maybe because Habibah was pregnant so it makes him feel his pressure becomes greater. The days passed heavily at her in-laws' house, although her mother-in-law loved her very much but she also had to accept the consequences of jealousy from other daughters-in-law. Habibah was treated like a princess by her mother-in-law. Perhaps because of the many similarities between them that make their closeness strong intertwined by itself. Although it was very rare, but that was the luck obtained by Habibah, he got a mother-in-law who was very dear to him.

" He's a lazy son-in-law, a favorite son-in-law.. I don't know what made him a golden boy. Every day his work is just silent in the room, all served by the same mom, very visit to be a daughter-in-law." Those are the days to be with from the other daughters-in-law. Though not because he was lazy, but his mother-in-law forbade him to do any work at home. She was only asked to rest, because her in-laws were afraid that the incident would repeat itself. That is why he is not allowed to do something that would make himself tired. And unconsciously the affection of his mother-in-law was adding to Habibah's depression.

" So, ma'am, sir... The patient has a false contraction, but if this contraction continues to occur it may be a real contraction and the patient will give birth prematurely. It seems that the patient is experiencing quite severe pressure that causes the patient to experience depression. Fortunately, the depression experienced by patients can still be handled without many obstacles. But the risk that can occur is the patient gave birth prematurely. Thankfully, the patient's condition has stabilized.. So, I ask for cooperation from the patient's family to help maintain the patient's mental condition, because the feelings of a pregnant woman are very sensitive and vulnerable to depression. If this happens in the first and second trimester of pregnancy, pregnant women can have a miscarriage, and if it occurs in the final trimester it can cause pregnant women to give birth early or prematurely. So please pay more attention again yes. if you have any questions please come to my room. I stay first yes ma'am, sir excuse me.." said the hijab doctor at length. Habibah's in-laws and wife-in-law just fell silent listening to everything the doctor said.

" Well doc, thank you." they answered almost simultaneously. Her mother-in-law immediately entered the room Habibah treated and approached her. Habibah fell asleep because of exhaustion. Looking at his daughter-in-law's face, he thought of everything the doctor had said. He pondered what exactly made his son-in-law so depressed. While he himself has tried as much as possible so that his daughter-in-law is not tired and has a lot of thoughts. What is the burden on your mind, son? Do you feel uncomfortable living here? Forgive me for forgetting to ask what you really want. His whisper while grasping the hand of Habibah lying before him. While the dislike eye view of Habibah's wife-in-law is increasingly visible. Their jealousy grew bigger for the sake of seeing the treatment of their mother-in-law who was much different than they were. What good is he until his dear mama is the same as him? Is it because he's a veil or what? Their hearts were grumbling, yet they did not dare to say so.

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one roof with brother-in-law is hard ya🤔🤔