DUDA IMPOTENT DESIRE

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I felt my voice run out, because of the many sermons I read. I feel in prank by Mr. Penghulu, actually anyway, reading the sermon is not a necessity. It's mutah, or it could be. Without reading it, the marriage process can go on.

Proks

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This time, the fathers in this room gave me an A plus. The claps of their hands sounded full of admiration. Instantly I felt my degree lifted in this place. My passion has multiplied, to get married. The science of religion that I have been studying so far, the school is tested to its validity now.

Huuff...

"Thankful that you are ma'am Imah, you have a ghost like this. Looks like your future son-in-law knows all too well about religion." Said Mr. Penghulu to Bi Imah, who will soon be my mother-in-law. I finally have parents too.

I read Bi Imah who sat to the left of the Rose. He smiled happily with his glass eyes. He seems to be crying happily.

"May sir, that's what we all hope for." My Sahut ma'am Imah with sobbing. Staring at me with sadness.

"Yes ma'am, let's just start the kabulnya ijab!" Said Mr. Penghulu clear and solid. Mr. Penghulu noticed everyone in that place.

Uncle Danu was ready to sit in front of me. He seemed to catch his breath before sticking his hand out at me.

From earlier the rose sculpted, like insecure seeing me with all my advantages. He must be sure that I can be happy. As long as she obeyed her husband.

Bismillahbornrohmanirrohim

“My son Akram Wicaksana bin Musthofa, I'm married and I trust you with the Rose of Qudsiyah bint Ramli whose guardian has submitted to me to marry her to you with a dowry of 30 million rupiah paid in cash.”

“I received the marriage and marriage of the Rose of Qudsiyah bint Ramli with the dowry paid in cash." I said firmly and loudly.

"SAAHHH....!"

One successful direct speech.

Huuff..

Don't ask me how my heart is beating right now. The ijab kabul moment is the most frightening moment for the prospective groom. Although this is not my first. But, this incident is very stressful, really for the heat of the nape and stomach mules.

After ijab kabul aju asked to pray for his wife. God, I have a very young wife. He will be 19 next week. We are a long way adrift, 9 years old.

My mother-in-law, ci ell.. At once I said that. Yes indeed Bi Imah who is now my mother-in-law, asked for Roses and I hope ahead. Rose lowered her head, my hands trembling slightly holding her headscarf covered with hijab while reciting prayer.

“Allahumma baarikli fi expert wa baarik li-ahli fiyya warzuqhum minni warzuqniy minhum.”

Which means: “Yes Allah, O Lord, bless me in my family's troubles.

Proks

proks

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.Yeee's...

This time, Uncle King who made a joke by clapping his hands, he seemed happy to see his nephew married, As soon as the tense atmosphere I felt, when kissing the forehead yes the rose evaporated already.

Rose smiled sweetly at me, as she grabbed my hand for her salim and kiss. I don't know why my heart warms up because of her. Sakti heart and a sense of disappointment because in Alda stay, yawn already. Now there is a plain woman in front of me who I will guide to be a good wife and a good mother for my children later. I have to have a child quickly, I'm 28 years old.

After that proceed to the dowry handover event, there is money worth 30 million so the Rose Mahar. And change the ring. The ring is actually just one, not exactly a ring exchange anyway. I couldn't buy a two-ring. Be I pin the ring on her ring finger The plump rose with the gold ring that my mother gave me, which I kept long in my wallet.

Now we've been juxtaposed. When he heard the marriage advice, from pak pengulu, hopefully his advice is not long. Because I've been and been so sleepy. Last night, I only slept for 4 hours.

"The marriage will fulfill half of the dien antum (your religion). As great as anything before marriage, still not complete our Islamic existence. The wedding is circumcision. Mumpung antum have not met the prospective wife, multiply worship, qiyamul lail, antum will be met by Allah Subhanahu Wata’ala couple who are in agreement with antum.”

Hadeuh.....

His lecture seemed unspecified to us when, earlier I wanted pengulu to give a lecture on this childish Rose.

Pak Penghulu looked one by one at this place. I see them, looking seriously at the lecturer sir. Especially Uncle King, who until the age of 5 years not married.

“But it can be an antum pair to get, not in accordance with what antum imagine. Not the same as the criteria that are not desirable, as in books that have been antum read, or lectures that have been antum heard. Attitude as God's best gift for antum. No need to protest, do not complain.” This time, pak Penghulu focused on talking to Roses.

Yes

May Roses can mature in wading through the household Big Dipper Later. Problems in the home will always be there.

It is not only the Rose that is serious about listening to marriage advice. The guests are also paying more attention.

Pengghulu turned his head towards Uncle Raja,

“SUDAH nadhor and taaruf with wife-to-be?” ask me pak Penghulu to Uncle Raja. Yes, Uncle Raja, is his brother Bi Imah, already 45 years old unmarried as well.

“Beluuuum!!” replied Uncle King with a sad face.

"Ooh.. May soon come her soul mate." Said pak Penghulu smiling kindly at Uncle Raja.

“That marriage unites two different beings of God. Men are dominated by logic. While women, more exposed to his feelings. Not to mention family background, education, environment, and so on. So rare or impossible, in marriage it instantly fits, exactly. There is always a lack of.”

The roses look more and more.

“The job of the husband is to protect the wife. Make the wife comfortable with the presence of antum. The husband was a priest at home. That is why he knows best where his household is being taken. Husband and wife must be able to formulate the vision of his family taken where. Of course, all refer to al-Qur’an and as-Sunnah. There are rigid rules there. Antum should learn from it.”

This time I scrunched my forehead.

“The husband also has the obligation to provide a living of inner birth to the family. So that the husband, as the backbone of the family, must find a halal fortune for the family. Wife, as the manager who manages the family finances. It is not about a lot or a little, but the main thing is the blessing. Because with blessing, the needs of the family will be fulfilled.

"Inwardly, the husband must create a sense of security and comfort in the family, while making the Qur’ani family. On the other hand, the husband is also obliged to provide biological living to his wife. Everything must be in a draw, and mutual understanding and understanding.”

“By the way,” continued pak penghulu again. “make your wife like an angel of heaven, Insha Allah antum will be treated as king. Don't be hardik and kasari your wife. Both physically and in words. For the wife always remembers what her husband did to her. Remember, they put feelings ahead rather than logic. Maybe for men it is trivial, but for women it is not.”

“Call your wife by her beloved name, which only you two understand. For example ‘love’, ‘cantik’, ‘mawar’, ‘melati’, and so on.”

 The people in this room I see started smiling, one of them came out, namely Uncle King “Bunga Bangkai.”

Everyone laughed out loud. This is a marriage contract event like stand up comedy only so.

“In building a household, it does not always run smoothly. There's always trouble. Sometimes it's just trivial. But don't be confused. No matter how small the problem is, it must be solved well, otherwise it could be enlarged. The devil will play there. And always take out slander, to make a mess. Talk to both, calmly. Find a time and place, which makes it convenient. Don't get into trouble, someone else knows better first. Moreover ngumbar vent in medsos.

So as a priest, Antum must try to solve all these problems fairly and compassionately. If it turns out that it can not be finished as well, ask for advice to murrabi, or ustadz who understand about sharia. In addition, supply yourself by reading Fiqh Munakahat, let me understand about the wedding.”

“God willing, soon to enter the wedding gate. (If later) the antum has filled half the dien. Be a husband and a priest. Which will bring the family not only happy in the world. But who will continue to gather in His land someday.”

TB