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Evan's jealousy

A few weeks passed, parenting two children with a span of 4 years was indeed a valuable experience and a challenge for Sara. Because, not every day Evan can be cooperative and sweet. There are times when Evan sulks and always wants his mother. Mama Diana and Papa Agastya have also returned to Singapore. So, Sara really devoted her time to her two Kiddos at home. There are times when Evan also whines and asks for more attention from Mama and Papa.

As it is now, since morning Evan seems to wake up in a bad mood. So from opening my eyes, Evan was already crying. Sara observes usually if Evan wakes up crying, all day Evan will often cry.

"Evan, take a bath first yuk Nak .. was Elkan's sister had a bath. Now it's Mama's turn to bathe Evan's sister first yuk, abis breakfast and watch the Youtube Channel," said Sara who reminded him of the daily routine Evan.

"No Ma ... Evan wants to watch television first" he said, still crying.

Even Evan still looks whining and does not want to take a shower. Though usually, Evan once awake will look for Mama or Papa and then ask to be bathed.

Sara sighed, apparently this morning she had to be extra patient to face Evan. Sara chose silence that saw Evan whining. Slowly Sara sat down near Evan, "Yuk, Evan took a bath first yuk. After this, we have breakfast, Mama has made her favorite Scrumble Egg Kak Evan," said Sara again.

But Evan actually cried and refused to take a shower that morning. Trying to be patient, Sara sat next to Evan while holding Elkan. With a little patience, Evan might want to take a shower. Waiting for a few minutes, Sara finally persuaded her eldest son again.

"Come Brother Evan .. get up early and take a shower first. Smell when you wake up without a shower. Many germs stick to the body. Abis we have breakfast, Mama is hungry, son," said Sara.

It is undeniable to be a nursing mother, Sara's stomach is also hungry. Especially Elkan who drank so much ASI.

"No Ma .. don't want to." Evan refused and did not want to take a shower.

Slightly annoyed with Evan's behavior this morning, Sara then stood up, "Yes already, Brother Evan just watch television ... Mama wants breakfast, Mama's stomach is hungry. If Mama is late to eat later can be sick, continue if Mama will be sick later who nurture Kak Evan and Adik Elkan who tried?"

However, just a few steps Sara walked, apparently Evan again crying. Even this time the crying was more intense. The 4-year-old boy was about to have a birthday at the age of five until he screamed and sobbed. Not having the heart of Evan, Sara stopped her footsteps. Sara turned her head towards Evan.

"What else is Evan? Brother wants to see that, right? Just watch, no need to take a shower," said Sara now with a voice that sounded more assertive.

When Sara reached her room, Evan followed her mother in tears. Sara puts Elkan in her baby box, quietly Sara immediately bathes Evan. Take off the clothes he was wearing, then clean Evan's body. Flush with a warm shower, and give soap on Evan's body. Finished bathing Evan, Sara dried Evan with a towel. Then, after drying, Sara began to give Evan oil and put on the clothes.

"Evan wants a good Mama" the boy said sobbing.

Hearing Evan's words, Sara looked at her son. "Is Mama no good, Evan? What kind of mother do you want?" ask Sara. Not angry at all, it's just that he gave an opportunity to Evan to dare to express his heart.

Although actually Sara was stunned by the words of her daughter. Maybe she hasn't been a good mom to Evan. Until there was guilt against him.

Sara was still tidying up Evan's clothes and combing his son's black hair. Slowly Sara asked Evan.

Evan also looked at his mother's face, "Evan wants to play with Mama ... Evan wanted to play Lego and read the book with Mama, but now Mama often carries Elkan's sister," said Evan in the end.

What Evan had just said really made Sara not expect that her daughter thought that way. Though all this time, he had tried his best to be fair in nurturing his two sons. Ignoring postpartum pain, and drowsiness that often comes during the day. Sara really tried not to ignore Evan. Unfortunately, the Eldest felt that his mother carried more of his sister.

Slowly Sara hugged Evan, "Sister Evan feels like Mama is like that huh?" ask her slowly.

Evan nodded his head, "Yes .. Evan wants to play with Mama. Good mom wants to play Evan."

Actually it is natural that the Eldest feels all the affection, attention, and focus of his parents began to divide with his sister. If in the past, before his sister was born, all the affection, attention, and focus was poured out for the Eldest and now it must be shared with the Bungsu. It was some time that made the Eldest become jealous. That's what Evan is feeling right now.

Trying to calm Evan down, Sara then holds onto her son. "Yes sorry, because now the time is divided first for Brother Evan and for Brother Elkan. Mama ignored herself. All the time you have is for Brother Evan and Sister Elkan. Later if Brother Elkan gets bigger, can play precisely Brother can be his playmate Kak Evan. Kan Elkan is still a child, the more days he gets bigger Nak. Share it first Brother Evan." Sarah tried to give understanding to her son.

"That's Elkan's sister just bobbing and crying for ASI continues, Ma .. ask to be carried Mama continues," replied Evan.

Apparently the Eldest observed that his baby sister was just a bobok and we could ask for ASI.

Sara also slowly stroked the top of Evan's head, "First Sister Evan was also as small as Sister Elkan," said Sara while pulling the nightstand drawer in her room.

"This is a photo when Brother Evan was just born, there is Mama and Papa who are happy to welcome Brother. Keep this up, Mama hold Kak Evan and give ASI to Brother Evan. Same with Mamar. Mama's affection for Brother Evan and Sister Elkan was the same. Just as big and as many. You two are precious sons of Mama, dear Mama. Mama's and Papa's most precious possessions" Sara explained to her son.

Slowly Evan nodded and hugged his mother, "Evan also loves Mama," he said by immersing his face in his mother's chest.

Sara smiled and kissed the top of Evan's head, "Mama also loves Brother Evan," he said with a sense of haru.

"Mama, later if the brother bobok friendin Evan play Lego and robot yes Ma," he asked this time to Mama.

Sara smiled and nodded her head, "Definitely Big Brother .. Mama will definitely accompany you to play when Brother Elkan is bobbed. Now, mumpung Adik bobok, we have breakfast first yuk? Mama's gonna bribe?"

"Yes Mama ... Evan wanted to," he said with a nod of his head.

Sara was able to breathe a little relieved, so long ago persuading her eldest son finally succeeded as well. In terms of parenting and taking care of children, Sara is willing to pay attention to herself as long as what her child wants she can give. All of them will do the same. When the incision wound on her stomach was not completely dry, Sara did not mind accompanying Evan to play, while ASI-hi the Bungsu, taking care of the Eldest with all his activity in the house. That's a sign of a mother's love.