PREMARITAL

Anxiety

The review event has begun, everyone is solemnly listening to the topic presented today.

The theme of today's study is about domestic life, problems and solutions in marriage.

"Every household that looks harmonious must have gone through many tests until finally the two people can understand each other's differences. Some problems in the household that are considered trivial can even damage a marriage if left “ gnawing” relationship little by little.

For that, always face every problem in the household until you both find a solution."

Such is the content of some of the study themes today.

"So, anyone want to ask? Please," added the study host.

"I, ustadz." A woman raised her hand, she was none other than Airin.

At first glance Shara glanced at him, she was happy because Airin was able to actively follow his first study.

"Yes, please." The host invited Airin to raise his question.

"Regard Mr. Ustadz, what is the law of a polygamous husband? If a husband loves a woman other than his wife, can he be polygamous?" airin asked a little nervously.

Shara, who was sitting next to Airin, frowned, wondering why Airin asked such a question.

"Okay, thanks for the question. I will try to answer as clearly as possible" said Mr. Ustadz.

"A marriage that is both monogamous and polygamous still exists in one context of marriage. Equation is both this same marriage. Because it is still in the context of marriage, then in this marriage should not be out of the terms of marriage. Terms – terms of marriage that give birth to wisdom in life can be found in Al-Qur’an letter Ar–Rum Verse 21 which means: "And among the signs of His authority is that He created for you wives of your own kind, that you might tend and be at peace to him, and made of Him you of love and affection. Verily in that are signs for the people who think.”

From the verse can be taken wisdom that in a marriage is not just uniting two people. Both in monogamous and polygamous marriages. Not just for sexual needs, or not just igin meet a soul mate and unite. However, the biggest goal in marriage is to get two couples closer to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala.

The order for polygamy according to the cleric is just fine. But, this order can be up to the law to be sunnah, mandatory and also illegal under certain conditions. For example, a husband who is aware of himself cannot be fair, feeling that if his heart cannot lean towards one, then the husband can sin. Or a husband who is aware that he can not give a living, but still force himself to polygamy then it will be a sin. For giving a living to his lawful wife."

"One more Mr. Ustadz, what if a woman loves a married man?" ask Airin.

Shara was again surprised by Airin's question, as was Sakha. In a different angle, Sakha also feels strange with the questions posed by Airin.

"Well, Ma'am Airin's question is very bold." The performers joked for a moment in response to questions posed by Airin.

"Well, I will try to answer additional questions from Mbak Airin" said Mr. Ustadz.

"Love is not forbidden in Islam. Love according to Islam is a form.

Everyone has love in their heart. And yes, that's a natural thing. But love also should not be spread carelessly. Especially to the opposite sex who are not muhrim.

Of course, as a woman, you have to limit your relationship with men. Because falling in love in Islam cannot be expressed through courtship. Then what about the law of loving the husband of people in Islam. This condition often occurs in the middle of society.

If we think logically, we would have understood that loving the man's husband is a bad deed. The scholars also think so.

According to jumhur ulama love the husband of people to cause damage to the household of the man is illegal law.

Imam Al-Haitsami in his book Al-Zawajir ‘an Iqtiraf al-Kabair explains that damaging a woman's relationship with her husband is haram. These actions are categorized in major sins.

So I think it's better to look for a man who's not in a relationship than to love and hope for someone who already has a partner." Mr. Ustadz ended his explanation.

"Yes like that, the congregation also explained how the law loves people's husbands" said the show's filler.

Two hours of the study took place, and now the whole congregation has disbanded from the study.

Sakha was standing with her back against the car door, waiting for her wife.

Shara walked up to her husband, this time looking a little anxious.

"Hey, why?" sakha asked when Shara was close to her.

Shara looked at Sakha, then she shook her head with a slight thin smile.

"We're going home now" Shara said.

Sakha nodded, he immediately opened the door for his wife. Shara immediately got into the car, and was followed by Sakha who ran small towards the other door.

Sakha immediately started the engine of her car, and she also immediately drove her vehicle.

In the car, Shara did not say a word. Sakha who had been watching his wife, he was made curious by the look of his wife's face that was bent.

"Sir, are you okay?" ask Sakha.

For a moment Shara took a deep breath, she ventured to ask her husband something.

"Mas, do you have any intention of polygamy?" ask Shara.

Sakha is surprised to hear his wife's question, what makes Shara have such thoughts.

"Sir. From the time of Mas bachelors to deciding to ask for you, Mas never had the slightest intention to polygamy" answered Sakha.

Shara looked at her husband, she looked at his every move. There are no lies there.

"Are you telling the truth?" ask Shara again.

"Astagfirulloh, by Allah. I'll never ask for your love, deck." Sakha replied firmly.

"Even if there is a woman who approaches Mas, Mas will ask God to be kept away from the bad. I don't want to betray our love" Sakha added.

"Never leave me, my mother." Shara said with teary eyes.

"God willing, I will never leave you." Sakha clasped his wife's hand tightly without turning her gaze to the highway that was right in front of her.

Shara smiled softly, she really felt afraid if one day something bad happened to their household. And it is undeniable that he felt anxiety because of the question Airin who thought it was the thing he was experiencing.