PREMARITAL

Towards Halal

Day after day has passed, both Shara and Sakha families are getting busy preparing the need to carry out the marriage contract.

Today is the day where the ceremony was held at the Shara residence, he looks elegant with a white kebaya dress and jasmine flower decoration.

Some assume that the flush event is not in the advice of Islam, but there are also those who think that the flush is one of the sunnah that is also done by the Prophet SAW.

In a hadith, it is said that the Prophet also did a flush event which of course there are differences in governance with those that occur in the community today, but the substance is the same, namely:

*دَعَا النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ بِإِنَاءٍ فِيهِ مَاءٌ، فَقَالَ فِيهِ مَا شَاءَ اللَّهُ أَنْ يَقُولَ، ثُمَّ مَسَحَ بِهِ صَدْرَ عَلِيٍّ وَوَجْهَهُ، ثُمَّ دَعَا فَاطِمَةَ فَقَامَتْ إِلَيْهِ تَعْثُرُ فِي مِرْطِهَا مِنَ الْحَيَاءِ، فَنَضَحَ عَلَيْهَا مِنْ ذَلِكَ، وَقَالَ لَهَا مَا شَاءَ اللَّهُ أَنْ يَقُولَ

“Rasulullah took a container with water, the Prophet prayed, then the Prophet rubbed it into Ali's chest and face. Then the Prophet called Fatimah, he stood up in shame, then rubbed water on Fatimah and the Prophet prayed for her”

(HR al-Thabrani, hadith sahih*)

Before the flush, Shara performs a sungkeman to her parents. Shara was invited to kneel before her parents, the atmosphere felt so bad.

Shara clenched her hands together, she bowed deeply.

"*Umi, Abi, who Shara loves...

On this happy day, allow Shara to rest in front of Umi and Abi, to perform the service and thank Shara sincerely to Umi and Abi.

Umi, Abi, who Shara loves...

It seems that there are no words or sentences that can string Shara's gratitude to Umi as well as Abi, because Umi and Abi have been caring for, raising, raising, and educate Shara from the womb to adulthood as it is today. How Umi and Abi did it with patience, struggle, and an abundance of infinite affection for Shara. The love and affection of Umi and Abi is the most beautiful gift that God gave to Shara, how Shara thanked it all with all her heart and soul.

Umi, time after time you have passed by pouring all of Umi's affection on Shara, until this day comes. The day that Shara will step into becoming an independent person in the wedding container that Shara will soon live.

Umi, From the deepest heart Shara apologized to Umi. Sorry if so many things that make Umi sick, Open the door sorry Umi so that Shara can step with happiness.

Umi, thank you for everything. Pray for Shara to be a sholeh wife for Shara's future husband.

For Abi...

Abi, I'm sorry Shara. Sorry for not being able to serve Abi well. Forgive Shara for the many things that made Abu hurt, both in the speech and the behavior of Shara.

Abi, thank you for fighting to educate Shara so incredibly. Thank you for meridhoi Shara for breezing in the household ark.

Thank you for everything, Abi. Pray for Shara to be able to live a healthy household, mawwadah, and warrohmah*."

During saying each sentence, Shara cried sincerely. Likewise, both parents, they will immediately release the daughter they are proud of.

After all the preparation of the flush has been available, the watering was carried out with the first sprinkler, Abi Shara, then continued his Umi.

Continue with the arrangement of events that have been determined, until the event is completed.

***

At Sakha's place, also busy decorating the shipping that will be brought when as soon as possible.

"Mom" call Sakha.

"Why, Kha?" ask his mother while dressing the shipping box.

Sakha suddenly hugged her mother from behind, hugging her warmly.

"Kha, what's wrong with you?" ask her mother when she feels something strange about her child.

"It's okay, Akha just wants to hug Mom." Sakha tightened her embrace.

"Kha, soon you'll be a husband. Educate your wife with gentleness" Mother Salma's message to Sakha.

"God willing, pray for Akha always, Mom." Sakha looked into her mother's eyes.

"Without being asked, I will always pray for the best for you" said Ms. Salma.

"Thank you, Mom. Thank you for everything" Sakha said sincerely.

"Together" replied Salma's mother.

Sakha's father, who saw the scene, immediately approached his wife and son.

"Well, what's going on?" ask Sakha's father.

"Here, Daddy's son. Being spoiled with his mother," seduced by Mother Salma.

Sakha's father chuckled, he also felt happy because his son would let go of his bachelorhood.

"Kha, I'd like to talk to you for a minute" Sakha's father said.

"Can, Dad." Sakha followed her father's steps.

They sat down on the couch and started talking.

"Kha, in a moment, you'll be husband. I just want to give you some advice" said Sakha's father.

"Akha will be happy to take advice from Dad," Sakha replied with a smile.

Sakha's father smiled, he was happier because his son was now growing up.

"Sakha, be a good priest to your wife. If in this woman you choose you find the figure of a mother, then take good care of her. If you are married later, do not limit your wife only in the kitchen. If you want to live a long life, let your wife take responsibility for your salary. Never abuse your wife, the pain in her body is no different from the pain in her heart. You'll always be in trouble, if you hurt a woman. Son, if when you get married, you behave like a bachelor while living with your wife, be prepared later you will be single again. Sakha, remember this. If you say your wife has changed, then there are things you no longer do to her. And one more thing, never compare your wife to another woman, because your wife is also holding back from comparing yourself to other men. And most importantly, when your wife gets angry, don't turn around scolding her." Sakha's father spoke softly but sounded firm. He did not want his son to fail to become a household leader.

"God willing, Sakha will obey all Father's words. Pray always for Akha, to be a good husband, like Dad." Sakha hugged her father tightly.

"Dad will always pray for you, son. May your household always be blessed, also kept away from all bad things."

The child and the father dissolved in novelty, Sakha's father did not expect that soon his only son would soon become the head of the household.