Love Without But
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"When you are called to face the principal it is true, Dek .... "
"If you get called and tried means right, right, if you have a problem?" I cut the conversation.
"No, Deck, it's not like that. Chronologically it does lead to such thinking. But it's just a misunderstanding."
Mas Agung also began to tell the true events without me asking.
At that time Mas Agung came home from taking part in the MGMP event held outside the school, because at two o'clock in the afternoon he had to fill in extra activities at school he took the initiative directly back to school. When he entered the teacher's room he immediately undressed then headed to the bathroom to change clothes. Because he thought there was no one else but him. It turns out that there is Bu Mega who will both fill the extra activity is also sleeping on the long sofa that is there and also happens to be by the school guard all the glass curtains of the room have been closed. Then there was one of Hariz's coworkers saw him undressing and there was Bu Mega also sleeping. Unfortunately his friend immediately concluded himself without asking the real incident and was immediately reported to the principal. Mas Agung and Bu Mega themselves did not hurt if they both had become gossip material behind him.
After being called to the special room of the principal then Mas Agung realized the problem and then told the actual chronology and asserted by Bu Mega himself who felt uncomfortable and of course the moral burden of having received slanted gossip behind without his knowledge.
After hearing the long explanation from Mas Agung I heaved a sigh of relief and gave thanks because everything was not as bad as I had expected. Even though I was almost desperate and lost my way the first time I received the painful news.
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Towards sleep with sleeping position facing each other I began to invite Mas Agung to speak from heart to heart. Expressing all the full-blown feelings in the chest cavity. Because all this time the worry is always a burden on the heart.
"Sister, you know why Adek didn't ask to come home from here?" the fishing line started a chat.
"Definitely because I thought I was the big sister behind Adek, right?" guess it.
"That's one of them, too. But there's a problem that you should know and be able to change" I added.
"What, tuh?"
"Adek felt the attitude of Big Brother from the beginning of pregnancy so turned into a creature that sucks. So quiet without warmth. Though that is expected by all wives especially in the state of conceiving it is given more attention not the other way around."
"Example?" tanyanya.
"Treat Adek as a wife. Let Adek feel needed and appreciated by the husband. Don't even exist as if it were considered non-existent" I said expectantly.
"Because what Adek felt all this time was the attitude of Brother bland, cold, indifferent without taste to his wife at home. Sister activity in this house as if only living alone without wanting to care about the feelings and what the wife wants. Sleep, eat, shower, pray, go to work without burden. As long as you know every night when you sleep lulled in a dream Adek cried alone shed tears feeling tormented with the attitude of Big Brother like that," I said at length. I wish that all I have said would be acceptable to the man who has now become my priest.
"From now on I will try to learn to understand the will of my wife and also learn to find out how to treat my wife well," he said softly right behind the ears that successfully made me happy.
Hearing his sincere words, my tears poured down the shoulders and hands of the shady-eyed man who was now more tightly hugging me.
"There's still a lot, brother, has been a good husband for Adek. Adek also apologized so far has not been able to be the perfect wife for Brother. Still often elevates the ego and is less grateful to the circumstances." I said while sobbing holding haru.
"Adek does not want to be a wife who delights with her own husband because he only sees and judges one side of the ugliness and mistakes of the husband. While the goodness and advantages of the husband are much more that you have given to Adek," said I sincerely.
I again sobbed in the warm embrace of Mas Agung. Soon the man's burly hands framed my face with both palms. Now our faces are facing each other. Looking at each other's eyes.
"Silver promises to learn to be a more sensitive husband and learn to be more romantic to the wife. Brother realized, it turns out to build a harmonious household that we have much to learn from experience and mistakes. The best example that can be imitated by us is to live a household that has been exemplified by the Prophet. If we race to His guidance, God willing will achieve peace towards true happiness that is marriage sakinah mawadah warrahmah." The Great tried to convince me.
"Yes, Brother, Adek agrees." I nodded quickly in response to his lengthy speech.
I was again lulled in the long arms of my best man. Shedding happy tears mingled with the haru taste that erupted in the chest cavity. I feel like I always want to be like this. Always be in the warm embrace of a husband who is able to give peace.
I am also more convinced by everything said by knowledgeable people. That looking for a partner should dare to choose. And the best choice is when we make a choice to someone who is just expecting His pleasure. Dropping a choice on someone who can bring us closer to the Creator.
And the promise of God is true. That:
"Women are good for good men, and vice versa. A good man will meet a good woman."
Deep down I hope that our household will always be happy and kept away from temptations and tests that are beyond our means.
What I was most afraid of and worried about during the marriage was the third person. For me a third person who intentionally or accidentally entered the household is something that is very undesirable. Maybe I'm not the only one with that feeling. I'm sure every woman or wife in every part of the world must have the same feeling. Very unwilling to be numbered duakan himself by their respective partners.
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