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Wedding Event
the wedding. Arguably, the marriage contract is a religious ceremony to unite the two brides into a couple legally before God. In general, the marriage contract is held with a sacred, often even draining tears. This is the arrangement of wedding events that are generally done during marriage contracts.
Opening. The show will begin with an opening hosted by the host. The opening was done by reading ‘bismillah’ and prayer so that this event can run smoothly and full of blessings.
After the event opened, the event continued with the recitation of the Quran. This time, Adam will recite the Holy Quran.
يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱتَّقُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُم مِّن نَّفْسٍ وَٰحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رِجَالًا كَثِيرًا وَنِسَآءً ۚ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ ٱلَّذِى تَسَآءَلُونَ بِهِۦ وَٱلْأَرْحَامَ ۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًا
Ayyuhan-nasuttaqubuk rabakumullaishi khalaqakum min nafsiw wa khalaqa min-ha zaujaha wa baea min-huma rijalang kaialaw wa nisa`, wattaqullahallazhi tas`a bi wal-ar-am, innallha kanna 'alaikum raqita
Meaning:
"O mankind, fear thy Lord who created you from himself, and from whom Allah created his wife; and from them Allah bred many men and women. And fear Allah with (using) His name you ask each other, and (keeping) the relationship of friendship. Verily Allah is ever watchful and watchful over you."
Ar-Rum verse 21
The 21st verse specifically discusses blessings in marriage. When someone will meet a soul mate who is a reflection of themselves, this meeting will make his heart more serene and comfortable living life.
Pieces of verse that have beautiful meaning you can recite as follows:
وَمِنْ ءَايَٰتِهِۦٓ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَٰجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوٓا۟ إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِى ذَٰلِكَ لَءَايَٰتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
Wa min ayatihi an khalaqa lakum min anfusikum azwajal litaskunu ilaiha wa ja'ala bainakum mawaddataw wa ra simah, inna fi elika la`til liqaumiy yatafakkarain
Meaning:
"And among the signs of His authority is that He created for you wives of your own kind, that you may tend and be at peace to them, and be made among you of love and affection. Verily in this are signs for a people who think.
After that, the event is continued with ijab qobul, the supreme god of all wedding preparations, namely the process of ijab kabul.
"EXEL SON OF ELRAMDAN BIN EL RAMDAN GHIFARI SANJAYA I MARRIED YOU, AND I MARRIED YOU TO MY BIOLOGICAL SON SABRINA AMIRULLAH BINT AMIRULLAH, WITH A DOWRY IN THE FORM OF JEWELRY WEIGHING ONE HUNDRED GRAMS AND CASH AMOUNTING TO ONE HUNDRED MILLION RUPIAH, PAID. CASH"
"I ACCEPTED HER MARRIAGE AND MARRIED HER SABRINA AMIRULLAH BINT AMIRULLAH WITH THE MASCAWIN IN PAID, CASH"
"SAADUHSADHH"
After all shouting SAH, Kyai Jalil immediately recited a prayer.
بَارَكَ الله لَكَ وَبَارَكَ عَلَيْكَ وَجَمَعَ بَيْنَكُمَا فِي خَيْرٍ
بَارَكَ اللهُ لِكُلِّ وَاحِدٍ مِنْكُمَا فِيْ صَاحِبِهِ وَجَمَعَ بَيْنَكُمَا فِيْ خَيْرٍ
Barakallahu laka wa baarakallahu alaika wa jama'a bainakuma fii khair. Barakallahu likulli waahidin min kumaa fii shaahibihi wa jama'a bainakuma fii khair
After that, Sabrina came out led by Umi and her aunt, Kyai Jalil's wife. Then Sabrina sat on an iron chair that had been covered with white cloth and flowers. Exel immediately greeted her with a big smile, as did Sabrina. His face was timid.
"It's so pretty" praised Exel, whispered
After being declared legal as husband and wife in the eyes of religion, then the two brides are asked to sign the marriage document, one of which is a marriage book. In this way both are declared legally married in the eyes of the law. Exel eagerly signed the marriage book and some sheets of paper carried by the KUA officer. Finally, he had a book issued by the country. In this way, he could carry it wherever Sabrina went, without fearing anything.
After signing the letters. The photographer asked to take a picture with the pengulu and two witnesses. Then after that, Exel handed over a figura with a size large enough, in which there was already money inlaid beautifully. Not to forget, Exel gave the jewelry that became his dowry. One set of jewelry, one necklace complete with the Alphabet "E" pendant, a pair of earrings, three bracelets, two rings and one anklet.
After the dowry event, the bride and groom are taken to the stage of the ceremony.As the event continues, there is marriage advice that will be given by Ustadz Rosyid, Friends of Amir.
First, there are five obligations of the husband which are the rights of the wife, among others, providing a living, protection, religious education, caring for the wife well, and fair treatment. “The main responsibility of the husband is dowry here including to a living both sandang and food,” said Ustadz Rosyid.
The Prophet said, “You are the best (husband) to his family and I am the best to my family.” (SR Tirmidhi)
This shows how well the husband in the office will not be considered good because the best location of the husband is how he treats his family. In addition, said Ustadz Rosyid, the husband leads the wife because he has an excess of reason and energy. “If the wife breastfeeds her child two years, then the husband feeds her and sandangs,” she said.
However, Ustadz Rosyid said that sometimes polygamous husbands experience difficulties in doing justice, both food, clothing, and others. For no one can do justice except Allah. In addition, when a husband goes out of the house then what must always be remembered is that the house is a field of his sustenance. The more the husband speaks well to the wife, the more fields of sustenance he has.
Ustadz Rosyid continued the rights of the husband and the duties of the wife to be carried out consist of serving the husband, obedient to the husband, fulfilling the husband's request to have sex, keeping the house and ****** when left, when left, and treat your husband well. Although the wife has a position, title, or salary higher than her husband, she must still obey the husband. “The right of husband over wife is greater than the right of wife over husband. Because the husband has one level higher than the wife,” he said.
He said that the noble worship of a wife is a service to the husband, but many wives ignore it. Therefore, this should be noted carefully by the wife. The Prophet said, “If I had ordered someone to bow down to other than Allah Ta’ala, I would have the wives bow down to her husband”.
He also said, “For the sake of Allah my life is in His power, a wife cannot fulfill her duty to Allah before she fulfills her obligation to her husband”.
Ustadz Rosyid said obedience to the husband is a priority for the wife. This is in accordance with the word of the Prophet “If a woman performs five prayers, fasts in Ramadan, keeps *********** and obeys her husband; it will certainly be said to her: “Enter into heaven from whichever door you want”. (CHR. Ahmed)
Continuing, Ustadz Rosyid said that the wife can suppress and restrain her ego, not to denigrate the husband in front of others, and fulfill the desires of the husband except in the state of menstruation and puerperium. The Prophet said, “if the husband invites his wife to have sex then the wife ignores it then the wife will get an curse from angel”. (HR Ahmad, Bukhori and Muslim)
The husband does lead the household, but the leader of home affairs is the wife. That's what Ustadz Rosyid said, because the wife also became a madrassa of children's education, financial management, home hygiene, and so on.
In addition to the obligations of husband and wife, said Ustadz Rosyid there are also rights with both parties. They have the same rights as good treatment and good manners, do not bring up past gifts or mistakes, and maintain relations between relatives and friends of husband and wife. “The wife is not only relatives to her relatives, but also relatives of her husband and vice versa. This command is to keep kinship,” close it.
First: Intention. The first thing to consider for newly married couples according to Gus Mus is intention. If the intention is well laid out, then God willing the journey of life will be well lived. Marriage intentions for worship and following sunnah kanjeng Rasul shallahu ‘alaihi wasallam. Intention to be durable and do good not only to the couple, but to anyone.
Second: Be human. It means your partner is not an angel, let alone a demon. The angel is never wrong. The devil is never right. But humans can be right and wrong. Humans can remember and forget. So, because it views its partner as a human, then we can understand if there is khilaf and forgetfulness.
Third: Must understand the proposition of each as a husband or wife. Don't flip. According to Gus Mus one of the postulates of a wife to her husband is ayat Ar-Rijaalu qawwaamuuna ‘alan nisaa’ (Male (husband) is protective for women (wife) (Q.S. An-Nisa’/34). While the proposition that must be held by the husband in order to always respect his wife, among them is Maa akraman nisaa’ illal kariim wa maa ahaanahunna illal laiim. The one who glorifies women is only a noble person, while the one who despises women is the one who insults women. Same with insulting God's wrestling swt.
Fourth: So that you can consistently do good with your partner, pray, fight, teach, and all kinds, then do not overdo it in all things. A man who loves to be excessive in all things, then surely he cannot do justice. Even since thinking. He cannot be Istiqamah, because the conditions of justice and istiqamah are not excessive in all things.
Fifth: When there is any difficulty, no matter how small, and no matter how big, ask God's mistress ta’ala. No matter what your ability and your greatness, never forget Allah.
Ustadz Rosyid said that the rights and duties of the husband were always studied and reminded in domestic life, because many household arks were damaged due to lack of understanding about their rights and obligations. In his study, Ustadz Rosyid mentioned that there are five obligations of the wife that are the rights of the husband, and five obligations of the husband that are the rights of the wife.
