HIJRAH IS LOVE

Chapter 89. The funeral of Mr. Abdul

Nur's mother sat in the corner of her room with tears that kept wetting her cheeks. Never did she imagine that she would part with her beloved husband in this way.

He used to think he would spend the rest of his life loving each other while his grandchildren. They will live in a village with a house surrounded by flower gardens.

Aisha approached her mother-in-law. Nur's mother immediately hugged the woman. Back the crying broke.

"Mother, please release all. Dad was calm in his place. Mother should not be too sea in this sadness," said Aisha trying to calm her mother-in-law's heart.

Annisa approached her aunt. He clasped the woman's hand trying to give her strength.

"Tante, be patient" said Annisa.

"Mom, soon father's body will be bathed. Do you want to go wash?" ask Aisha. Mother Nur replied with a nod of her head.

(There is no danger if you die before me. I will take care of you, bathe, groom, prune, and bury you.” (CHR. Ibn Majah no. 14 and Ahmad 43:81. Rated hasan by Shaykh Albani and Shaykh Shu’aib Al-Arnauth)

This hadith is a proposition that a husband can bathe the body of his wife. This opinion is the opinion of Jumhur (majority) scholars, among whom are Imam Malik, Asy-Syafi’i, and Ahmad (a famous opinion from him). Just as they are clothed with qiyas, a wife may bathe the body of the husband.

While a number of other scholars argue that a husband should not bathe his wife's body, among them are the opinion of Abu Hanifa, Ats-Tsauri, and a history of Imam Ahmad.)

The bathing of Mr. Abdul's body was carried out by Ghibran and other experts. Nur's mother only helped water at the last moment.

"Father, still attached to my memory, in the beginning of the marriage we often took a bath together. Now I am back to bathe you for the last time. I love you, Dad. I hope you wait for my presence even though you may have been accompanied by Rachel at this time. I sincerely let go of your departure. I'm sincere about everything you've ever done to me. I forgive all your faults, and I also apologize for not being able to be the perfect wife for you" Ibu Nur said in tears.

After the body was bathed and grazed, the whole family and mourners headed to the public cemetery. Mr. Abdul was famously kind and friendly, so many mourners drove him to his final resting place.

Nur's mother walked in Aisha's hand. Behind her are Annisa and her mother. It is quite surprising that the sister saw Mother Nur the older sister getting along with her daughter-in-law.

Ghibran went down directly to the burrow to welcome his father's body. After the body was placed well in a burrow, the man also accused the father.

After that, Ghibran went up. He and the others began to lower the ground to cover Mr. Abdul's grave. Every ground that enters, makes the heartbeat of Mother Nur faster. Tears he can't stand. His hands tightly hugged the son-in-law's wrists.

Syifa stood beside her mother. The little girl understood very well that if her grandmother needed Aisha's mami, she didn't want to bother Aisha. He stood beside the woman without asking for a hug as usual.

Aisha who understands that the princess is also saddened by the departure of the grandfather and hugs Syifa's shoulder, tightening their bodies.

"Good way Dad. You are great in-laws, though I have known you only for a moment, but you are very deep in this heart. You're a good man, if at the end of your life you make the mistake of marrying without permission, it's not my right to judge. I pray that you will be placed by His side" Aisha prayed in her heart.

Nur's mother was silent, without a sound. Only the crying is heard. Until the prayer is read. Nur's mother came forward and sprinkled flowers on the husband's belly button. Back tears fell down her cheeks.

"Good way, husband. May heaven be your place. Wait for me there," said Ibu Nur in his heart.

Shepherding and letting go may seem like you're giving up on that person or his memory. But certainly not like that.

There is no point in being stuck grieving or grieving over their loss. They don't want your life to stop or be limited because of their memories.

Yes, grieving and missing them is natural, and it can last a while. However, it is also normal to reach the point where you accept and let someone go, as well as release ongoing grief.

That doesn't mean you're not sad about losing them. Nor does it mean your sadness stops. However, it marks a shift in which pain that is so overwhelming and difficult to cope with, is beginning to subside. You see there is life after death.

"Love is stronger than death, though it cannot stop death from happening. However, no matter how hard death tries, it cannot separate people from love. It also cannot erase our memories. In the end, life is stronger than death."

"Hopefully we can all take up faith in the good that the deceased has done during his or her lifetime. We keep all the vices of the deceased alive, and we don't have to bring them back. Allah SWT will not give trials beyond the limits of our ability as human beings. So, stay strong for his departure because everything will be beautiful in time. Everything that happens is God's will, we must accept it with grace."

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