Afraid to Widow

Chapter XXIII (Grizelle Prameswari)

Jams 

Callings.

I'm surprised, just got home when Jihan called again? Answering my curiosity, I received his call.

"Hello, Ji. There's a miss, so call again?"

"I forgot to say, tomorrow don't forget to come to my house."

"What's wrong?"

"Tomorrow 4 months of my pregnancy. But only girls. Have you not read my WA? You have bales."

I patted this eel must be Sahrial's job who dared to open the phone without my knowledge.

"Oh yeah, sorry I forgot," my dear.

"I just wanted to say that anyway. Yes, until tomorrow. Assalamualaikum."

Phone disconnected. I immediately rushed into the kitchen to approach Sahrial.

"Allll be!" my yelling.

"What the hell is screaming? I'm not a bitch."

"What do you mean open my HP? Make my fingerprints fit for sure!"

"Yes, I was curious. Who is WA. Who knows how important."

"That's a privacy violation, Ial."

"In the contract agreement, we cannot play secrets. Forgot, you also read my DM-DM Instagram?"

I'm speechless. Right too. Why would I be angry if he did something similar?

"I don't like you opening up my HP. Point. As punishment, you must anterin me to the four-monthly Jihan!"

***

I'm late because Sahrial is very difficult to build. As a result, until Jihan's house the event has begun. Now go to the religious session. I sat at the very back.

"Alhamdulillah, ladies and gentlemen, we can gather at Mother Jihan Orianthie's four-monthly event. In terms of this four-monthly, it is written in the Quran’an Surat Al-Mu’minun (23) verses 12-14."

 Verily, We created man from a essence (land). Then We made the essence of the starch (which is stored) in a firm place (womb). Then We made a lump of blood, and We made a lump of flesh, and a lump of flesh We made a bone, and the bones We wrapped with flesh. Then We made him another (shaped) creature. Blessed be Allah, the Best Creator."

Referring to the sahih hadith, four months as the sacred time the spirit is blown on the fetus is the interpretation of the Ulama, Mother. Among them are in the following hadith:

Verily every one of you gathered his creation in his mother's belly for forty days (as *****), and then became a clot of blood in forty days. Then it becomes a lump of flesh within forty days as well. Then an angel blew a soul into it and was commanded to write down four things; his fortune, his death, his charity, and whether he became a wretched or happy man.” (Muslim bin Hajjaj An-Naisaburi, Shahh Muslim, Cairo: Darul Ghad Al-Jadid, 2008, vol. VIII, juz 16, p. 165).

Based on the hadith above, the scholars translate the four months of pregnancy as an accumulation of forty days each stage of the fetal development process in the womb of the Mother.

In other words, the first forty days are ***** forming an embryo, the second forty days being blood, the third forty days being a lump of flesh and then the spirit blowing over the Fetus, Mommy. Three times forty days becomes 120 days or four months, Mother.

Therefore, it is not surprising that the four-month gestational age is commemorated with prayer or salvation as a symbol of happiness and gratitude is not measurable for the even creation of the fetus by Allah SWT in the womb of the Mother.

At this time it is recommended to increase prayers for the Little One so that he is born safely and grows into a child who is virtuous and devout.

"Till here does anyone want to ask?"

Jihan raised her hand. "Four monthly legal gini is mandatory or how is it?"

"The matter of his show is not written in the Qur'an or the hadith. However, it has become a tradition in our environment as gratitude and sharing happiness with people around. It would be haram, if his intention to show off or even sneeze deliberately heat up difficult mothers pregnancy."

I must have listened to the contents of the lecture.

***

Jihan passed in front of me. "Mbak Gisel nyari Abang Sahrial huh?"

"Where is he going?"

"There are also in the back garden, they are busy chatting with Mas Ammar and Abi. Yeah, I showed you the back garden."

I'm following Jihan. Sure enough they are busy chatting while playing chess. Sahrial against her in-laws Jihan.

"Well, it's fun playing."

"Eh, is the show done coming home now?" ask Sahrial.

"So continue playing until someone wins." I sat next to Sahrial. "Oh yes, Mr Kiayi, can I do anything about religion?"

"Of course you can, what do you want?"

"God hates divorce, but why does HE allow divorce?"

"So here you go, Nak Gisel."

I was ready to hear his hospitality.

 The Prophet said, 'Something that is lawful but most hated by Allah is divorce'. This shows on the one hand that sometimes divorce is inevitable so if there is one partner who is indeed no match is still forced to continue, it will harm all parties. So divorce is allowed, it is necessary to be reminded that divorce is lawful, but most hated by God.

Therefore, if you can still live together without divorce, then maintain the marriage. Some even say as follows 'That king's throne we know how solid it is. Moreover the throne of God, its strength is unimaginable. If there is a divorce, then the throne of God is so strong that it shakes.'

It can be illustrated that God hates divorce so much and restrains his anger that it vibrates his throne. Wasn't the one who held back his anger, his body trembling and his throne where he was residing quivering?” 

Well, the divorce caused the Throne of God (Istazza asrurRahman) because God hated it so much. But if there is an urgent need that can not be avoided because of the traits and shortcomings of humans who are a lot of harm or hurt each other then divorce is allowed.

"Where if the husband mabok-mabokan, DM-DM centil other girls, while the wife berushaa remind eh husband even angry and say divorce. Has it entered talaq?"

This is intentionally insinuating for Sahrial. Let him be sensitive. Capek persuaded mulu. The source of his fault is in him.

"There is talak 1, talak 2, later when talak 3, has broken up may return but - there is a lesson so hard that - your wife must first marry someone else, then if she is divorced, then if she is divorced, you can refer. That is also why Allah through His Messenger decreed that there is a divorce that cannot be judged to fall under special circumstances. Divorce was twice. First Talak fell divorced, then given the opportunity to husband and wife to think. That's beautiful isn't it?

So difficult are the requirements for the fall of this divorce, but so easy after 1 talaq to return. I give an example, in Surat Ath-Thalaq, and we also adopted in the Marriage Law, that the divorce can be judged to fall if in court or there are witnesses.

So if the husband is so angry that he says divorce, but if there is no witness still do not fall divorced. So difficult the terms of divorce. In religion also says so, there are people who cannot control themselves, dark eyes so say divorce, it is considered not to fall into divorce.

To come back again is very easy as long as it is still in iddah. Because God wills that. Suppose someone has divorced his wife, then the person sees, smiles at his wife and held his wife's hand, it is considered a reference. Easy right? Because God does not want divorce.

Again, talak 2, even that is difficult condition. However it is very easy to refer but very difficult to divorce. God gave me time. “By so now you hate, it may be tomorrow your hatred is gone”. God created something new in his heart. Oo, sorry why was this? God hates divorce.

That's why, too. Calculate the time of iddah. In our society, the iddah is not often counted. Her husband died, his wife did not want to intercede, Count iddah. Look into his iddo calculation."

"Then if the husband regrets his wrongdoing to the wife and begs to refer, but his wife sells expensive continues how Mr. Kiayi."

"Man does not escape from mistakes. The beginning of the household should be shocked not so familiar with his partner. It's good that the wife tries to forgive the husband."

"Sister!" shouts Sahrial.

"Well, lose again." Mr. Kiayi stroked his whitened beard.

After being satisfied to hear Mr. Kiayi's lecture, it happened that the chess game was also completed, we were allowed to go home.

"Sir Kiyai, Ammar, thank you for the invitation. Well, we came home treated by the science of the flesh. Thank you so much for your explanation."

"Either. Don't play here."

Mr. Kiayi, Ammar and Jihan drove us to his house.