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Wife's law against husband

Women in Islam have rights and obligations that must be obeyed when she is already a wife. Marriage is not just uniting two people, but in carrying out many things that must be done in accordance with Islamic law, one of which is obedient to the husband.Suami is a household leader who is obliged to support his family life. Likewise with the wife, he must obey and respect the head of the household.

Respecting each other is the key to the success of a marriage. Not only the wife In the teachings of Islam, the law of the wife against her husband is haram. Everything the wife does with bad intentions and against the husband is illegal.

In the Arab country in this act is called Nusyuz which means high place. However, meaningfully in this context is the highly behaved wife of her husband.

In the teachings of Islam, stated in QS. An-Nisa verse 34 which reads:

الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ ۚ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ ۚ وَاللَّاتِي تَخَافُونَ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَعِظُوهُنَّ وَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ وَاضْرِبُوهُنَّ ۖ فَإِنْ أَطَعْنَكُمْ فَلَا تَبْغُوا عَلَيْهِنَّ سَبِيلًا ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلِيًّا كَبِيرًا

Meaning:

"The man is the leader of the women, because Allah has exalted some of them (men) over others (women), and because they (men) have given up some of their possessions. Therefore, a godly woman is one who obeys Allah and keeps herself when her husband is not there, because Allah has kept (them). The women whom you fear are nusyuz, so counsel them and separate them in their beds, and beat them up. Then if they obey you, then do not look for a way to trouble them. Verily, Allah is Most High, Most Great, (QS. An-Nisa Verse 34). alone, both must also be equally respectful.

Although sometimes in domestic life there are disputes that occur. As a wife, do not fight the husband

The husband becomes the most responsible person about the household, including the behavior of the wife. Therefore, he must provide examples of good behavior to all family members.

Women who dare to fight against their husbands are included in the wife of disobedience. He will be punished severely by Allah SWT.

This is because Allah SWT does not like bad deeds in the household, one of which is by actions that lead to disobedience.

“And the divorced wives (mandatory) held themselves back (waiting) three times quru'. They shall not hide what Allah has created in their womb, if they believe in Allah and the last day. And their husbands are more entitled to return to them in that (time), if they want improvement. And they (the women) have the right to be balanced with their obligations in a proper manner. But husbands have an advantage over them. Allah is Almighty, Wise.”

The above verse conveys duties and obligations between the husband and wife as priest and master. Both should be balanced and in tandem. Therefore, a wife should be a complement to her husband.

The wife is commanded to obey her husband, she must serve and obey her husband

When deciding to marry, a woman certainly has obligations to her husband, even more than to her parents. As long as the commandment of the husband does not contradict the Shari'a of Islam, it must be obeyed.

But sometimes there is a question if the wife still has parents, who of the two should come first, whether the husband or parents?

"As a wife, first and foremost is to the husband. First and foremost obedience to a husband, therefore the Imam in your house unless forbidden or ordered something forbidden, then it should not obey the husband," said Buya.

But that does not mean a husband must curb his wife to always stay at home and follow all his orders. Especially if the wife has parents who must also be considered.

"But remember, a good husband will always give the wife the freedom to serve her parents. Husbands say to your wives, "O my wife, wherever you go, you have to give me permission, unless you're called by your mother's father" she said.

Even not only that, in helping parents' finances, the husband must always provide support. Regardless, if they are already able and given excess sustenance.

As a husband, never be the husband of a hell expert who forbids his wife to be devoted to parents. Even reluctant to help his wife's parents from difficulties.

Similarly, for a wife, also do not forbid the husband to help both parents. As said by Buya, upon the arrival of someone who asked for his advice.

Therefore, he added, both parents are not allowed to intervene in the household life of his daughter. Including giving her any orders. When that happens, it's a big mistake. After marriage, then the child has entered a new chapter, no longer under the responsibility of parents, but the responsibility of the husband.

Allah SWT said, “The men are leaders for women, because Allah has overestimated some of them (men) over others (women)". (Al-Qur'an Surah An-Nisaa’ [4]: 34).

However, the obligation to obey the husband does not mean having to break the friendship with parents or disobey them. A husband is required to be able to maintain a good relationship between his wife and family. That commitment, with the current technological advances, can be pursued very easily. Connecting the communication and relationship of wife and family can be by phone, for example.

He added, among the wisdom behind the independence of a household is to continue the lineage relay. That is, the family is formed as a whole unit without any outside intervention. If there is always interference, the pace of the family will falter.

At once connect two large families from the bond of marriage. Allah SWT said, “And He (after all) created man from water and he made man (have) descendants and deliberation and is your Lord Almighty.” (Al-Qur'an Surah Al-Furqan [25]: 54).

He mentions several other traditions that reinforce the importance of prioritizing the obedience of the wife to the husband rather than the parents. Among these hadiths are hadith narrated by al-Hakim and narrated by al-Bazzar.

That said, Aisha once asked the Prophet, whose rights should be given by the wife? The Prophet replied, “(rights) her husband.” Then, Aisyah asked again, while for the husband whose rights are more important? He replied, “(rights) his mother.”

"After marriage, a woman has been described in one of the suras in the Qur'an stating that the man is the female leader" Drs said. Maswar head of KUA Rarowatu District, Bombana Regency, Wednesday (23/6/2021) night.