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Maintain household integrity
The obligation of the husband and wife is to build a happy household that is safe (quiet) and peaceful, so that the household really meets the word of the Prophet Muhammad SAW, namely “Baitii Jannatii” (My household is my paradise), and, both sides felt happy and at home in it. Al-Qur’an Surah Ar-Rum verse 21
It means: And among the signs of His power is that he created for you wives of your own kind, that you may tend and feel at ease to him, and He made you among you of love and affection. Verily in this are signs for a people who think.
Hadith of Prophet SAW :
عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بِنْ مَسْهُوْدٍ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُ قَالَ: قَالَ لَنَا رَسُوْلُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ سَلَّمَ: يَا مَعْشَرَ الشَّبَابِ مَنِ سْتَطَاعَ مِنْكُمُ الْبَاءَةَ فَلْيَتَزَوَّجْ فَاِنَّهُ اَغَضُّ لِلْبَصَرِ وَاَحْصَنُ لِلْفَرْجِ. وَ مَنْ لَمْ يَسْتَطِعْ فَعَلَيْهِ بِالصَّوْمِ فَاِنَّهُ لَهُ وِجَاءُ (متفق عليه)
It means : “From Abdullah bin Mas’ud r.a, he said: The Prophet said to us: O young people, when among you the power to marry, let him marry, the reason for the marriage is more authority to keep an eye on and ********. And whosoever has no power shall fast, for it is a watchman unto him.” (CHR. Muttafaqun alaihi)
So in order to maintain the integrity and maintain the household by the husband and wife, both are obliged to carry out some obligations. In detail the obligations include:
1.Know and be aware of each other's duties, obligations, and positions.
2.Mutual trust, respectful respect, affection for each other, must not lie, easily jealous, irritable.
3.Communicate in dealing with important issues.
4.Be patient and willing for their own shortcomings and weaknesses.
5.Respect for parents and brothers on both sides.
6.Leading family members to a good path for the happiness of the world and the hereafter (husband's obligation).
7.Giving a living according to the ability (duties of the husband).
8.Educating family members (husband's obligation).
Build the best household (the wife's obligation).
9.Obey all orders of the husband, except in the case of breaking the law (wives' obligations).
Husbands and wives are able to uphold the values of faith and devotion to Allah.
Based on the Decree of the Minister of Religious Affairs of the Republic of Indonesia Number 3 Year 1999 was established on January 8, 1999 on the Sakinah Family Movement, in Chapter III Understanding the Sakinah Family, Article 3 states that the Sakinah family is a family that is built on legal marriage, able to fulfill the spiritual and material life standards properly and balanced, and is capable of fulfilling the spiritual and material life, be filled with an atmosphere of affection between family members and their environment in harmony, harmony, and able to practice, live and deepen the values of faith, and, from some descriptions sourced from the Qur’an and Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad SAW as well as some applicable rules that have to do with the title that the author discussed, as well as some rules that apply, this is recommended to the Muslims and the Muslims:
1.Let us begin to house the household with the sincere intention to hope for the pleasure of Allah for carrying out the household (the marriage is half of carrying out the Islamic religious orders (source: Hadith of Prophet Muhammad SAW).
2.Then after that let us run the household with full responsibility both to ourselves, the family and to Allah SWT, in all respects the line of life because the husband is the holder of the trust that must be accounted for the world and the hereafter.
THE KEY TO A HAPPY HOME IS?
Creating a happy household is a lifelong task that may not be easy for some couples.
1.Good communication is an important foundation in a harmonious household. Communication is not just about delivering what you want, but also listening to what your partner needs. Maintain open communication with your partner through regular chats. Share your opinions and feelings in this chat so your partner can understand them.
2.Romance is an important factor in creating a happy home. Find some time for both. This activity is not only able to relieve fatigue from all household problems, but will also strengthen feelings and commitment to each other.
In addition, you and your partner also deserve to have time for yourself. Take up a hobby or meet friends. When you get back together, you will appreciate each other more.
3.Some people may find it unnecessary or awkward to express to your partner how grateful you have it.In the meantime, tell your partner that you are very grateful for his existence and grateful for what he has done, it will increase the happiness of each other.
4.After marriage, the couple's family will be your family as well. Of course, you need to have a good relationship with them. As much as possible know the name so as not to be wrong when meeting them.
You can ask your partner about the whole family. Maybe this can be an interesting topic of conversation when both. Asking about your partner's family is also a sign you care about him or her.
The key to a happy household is to maintain smooth communication with your partner. It takes also open to each other to always be harmonious until old age. Everyone who is married wants to have a happy home. The key to a happy household must be done by two parties.
Tips and Tricks to Build a Household to Stay Accurate
Maintaining Good Communication
Maintain Trust Within the Household
Harmonious Household Without Offending Words
Solving Problems with a Cold Head
Strengthen Each Other
Always Take Time for Family
Stop Comparing Each Other.
Building a household sakinah mawaddah warahmah is a dream for every husband and wife.
These are the 9 sins a husband has committed against his wife:
1.A husband is obliged to teach religious knowledge to his wife and children because the duty of the husband is to preserve himself and his family from the grievance of the grave and the torment of the fire of hell.
Allah says in the Qur'an Surah at Tahrim verse 6
”O you who believe keep yourselves and your families from the fire of hell whose fuel is man and stone, whose guardians are rough angels, hard and disobeying Allah for what he has commanded them
2.At the time of marriage the nature of jealousy is very necessary. The jealous nature of the husband can also keep his family from the nature and attitude of less praiseworthy. But jealousy in his partner should not be excessive which brings strife and household rifts.
The Prophet said in a hadith which means, ”There are three groups, namely Allah will not see them on the day of the apocalypse, someone who disobeys the elderly, women who resemble men, and Ad Dayyuts.” (HR An Nasa’i)
3.Not giving a wife a living
As in the hadith the Prophet said which means
”Someone is quite seen as sinful, if he neglects the shopping of the person for whom he is responsible.” (HR Abu Daud number 1442, Muslim, Ahmad and Thabrani)
4.A wife who works for her husband
If a husband does not work because he is lazy and gives all economic needs to the wife, then a husband like this will be cursed by God in the world.
In a hadith the Prophet said which means
”Will not be lucky a race led by a woman.” (HR Ahmad number 19612, Bukhari, Tirmidhi, and Nasa’i)
From the hadith mentioned above it is explained that the one who should hold the importance for the survival of his family is the husband.
5.I have hatred for my wife
The Prophet in the hadith says which means
”Don't a believing husband hate his believing wife. If he doesn't like one character from her, he must be happy with another.” (Moslem HR)
So the husband must not have feelings of hatred for the wife because not all the traits and attitudes that exist in the wife are always bad
6.Not helping with homework
Husbands, even as household heads and household leaders, should help ease the household chores of their wives.
As in the hadith of Bukhari's History it means
”Rasulullah helped his wife's work, and if comes the time of prayer he came out to pray.”
Spreading wife's disgrace
Aib a wife is a family disgrace, so the family's job is to close the disgrace so as not to spread to the community.
When a husband spreads his wife's disgrace to others then in the teachings of Islam is not justified.Rasulullah said in a hadith meaning
”Verily among the worst of his position by Allah on the Day of Resurrection is one who hates his wife and his wife hires him, then he spreads the secrets of his wife.” (Moslem HR)
8.Hurt my wife physically
Explained in the hadith of the Prophet said its meaning
”You shall feed him if you eat, clothe him if you dress, not smack him in the face, not impale him.” (HR Ibn Majah)
9.Undervalue of wife
It is expected that the husband does not underestimate the position of the wife in the household because the position of the wife is like a pole in a building that should not be torn down or underestimated.
When in the family helping each other, cover each other's shame, respect each other. Insha Allah will build a family of Sakinah mawaddah warahmah is also a blessing
For those of you who are married do not forget to always thank God and for husbands, do not hurt your wife
