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The sin of a wife to her husband

Allah says in the letter of An-Nisa verse 34,

"Women you worry about nusyuz, so counsel them, and stay away from them in bed, and beat them. If they obey you, do not look for ways to trouble them. Verily Allah is Most High, Most Great.”

In the above verse, we can conclude that if the wife does something that violates religion, then as a husband should advise the wife in a good way and words.

In addition, the husband also should not hit with a stick and other objects that are hard. The only thing you can do is to use your hands and not to hurt. But only for lessons.

Compared to men, women are actually the weakest creatures, both physically and heartily. Therefore, the husband should be good with the wife because the heart of women is easily hurt.

The husband is obliged to treat his wife well unless the wife does a very heinous deed. However, the way of reprimanding him also should not hurt the heart of his wife or violence that can make him hurt.

Household life will run harmoniously when husband and wife understand each other and pray. When making a living, a wife is encouraged to always remember to pamper prayers for her husband. The same goes for his partner.

If the husband has a risky job or works in a distant place, a wife would always indulge in prayer so that the husband is always given health, safety, and blessed sustenance.

The wife's prayer for the husband is one of the practices that mustajab and heard by Allah SWT. This promise has been explained in a hadith of the Prophet SAW:

" The prayer that is immediately granted is the prayer of a wife to her husband who is not in the same place or far from each other." (CHR. Tirmidhi)

In the teachings of Islam, the husband has a higher position than the wife. Therefore, a pious wife must serve her husband and fulfill her duty sincerely and do so solely because of Allah SWT.

However, apparently not much has this scientific provision when building a household ark. So as a result, the state of the household can be involved in many problems due to misunderstandings and so forth.

There are also household problems caused by a wife doing reprehensible deeds to her husband and vice versa. There is a husband who does a disgraceful deed to his wife. Such acts include sins hated by Allah and the Apostle.

In the teachings of Islam, the husband has a higher position than the wife. Therefore, a pious wife must serve her husband and fulfill her duty sincerely and do so solely because of Allah SWT.

Adab a wife to the husband according to the teachings of Islam. When entering the household ark, the husband and wife automatically have their respective obligations and rights in accordance with their role in the household.

When carrying out their respective obligations and demanding rights, a wife and husband must know how to be civilized, behave in the household when facing a husband or wife.

One of the things that Imam Al Ghazali discussed was about having a wife with a husband. In his book Al-Adab fid Din in Majmu’ah Rasail al Imam al Ghazali, he said that there are several things related to adab wife in husband.

1.Always feeling embarrassed

Although the married couple is no longer a newlywed, but a wife should still maintain her shame to the husband. Of course the shame in question is in a positive sense.

Examples such as shame when the body smells, so that makes the husband or people around uncomfortable or embarrassed because it has a bad nature.

Not much debate

When domestic relations are experiencing problems, it is better to prioritize the discussion so that husband and wife get the best solution. Avoid arguing because it will only worsen the conflict.

The difference between the two is that debates are delivered in a more rigorous way and expressed to defend the arguments and egos of each party, while discussions have a give and take process in sharing information to solve problems.

Always obey the orders of the husband

3.Adab a wife on the next husband is obedient to the husband, as long as the husband's orders are not contrary to the Islamic law. When this happens, a wife can object in a polite way or reject the husband's orders in a subtle way, a wife can also propose alternative options from the husband's orders.

Shut up when your husband is talking

The wife who is silent when the husband speaks is a wife who is polite to her husband. If you want to cut the conversation, then the wife should ask permission first or wait until the husband finished talking. In this way, it can prevent the emergence of small conflicts caused by trivial problems.

5.Guarding the honor of the husband while away

A wife must have a good attitude of presence or absence of the husband at home. This is so that the husband has good dignity and the wife can maintain the trust of the husband. In addition, there is this can avoid slander that can occur when there is no supervision from the husband.

No betrayal when guarding the property of the husband

One of the duties of a wife is to hold the trust of the husband over all his property. One of them is not to spend the property of the husband on items that are not needed. In addition, when managing a husband's wealth, a wife should be able to get blessings for her family.

Keeping the body to always be fragrant

Adab seventh is related to the comfort that will be felt by the husband and family or the closest people. When a wife has a fragrant body, then the husband was at home lingering close to the wife.

Fragrance is intended not only about perfume, but also related to regular bathing to maintain cleanliness and freshness of the body.

8.Qana’ah display

A wife should not demand more than what a husband can give her. This attitude in Islam is referred to as qana’ah. Adab wife to husband must be realized with gratitude. Even so, a wife must also encourage her husband to continue to strive to keep seeking halal sustenance

In Islam, the husband is heaven or hell for a wife. Husband's desire becomes God's desire. Wives who do not get the husband's pleasure for disobedience or committing some sins are said to be women who are ungodly and kufur delights.

One day, the Apostle once said, that he saw women are the inhabitants of hell the most. Then a woman asked the apostle

From the hadith, it can certainly be concluded that a woman can go to hell or go to heaven depending on how she behaves to her husband. For the husband is the ridho of Allah.

any act that is included in the great sin of the wife against the husband, in order to avoid these sins and get the pleasure of God. Check out the following explanation.

Adultery with other men

Adultery is the most hated sin by God. The law of adultery is illegal. Allah has forbidden all His servants to commit adultery as mentioned in the word of Allah in the letter of Al-Isra verse 32.

“And do not approach adultery. Indeed, the act of adultery is a heinous act and a bad path.” (QS. Al-iszra: 32).

According to Islamic law, the act of adultery committed by a married person is called zina muhshan. According to Masykur Arif Rahman in his book entitled The Sins Most Hated by God Since the First Night, explained that the perpetrators of muhshan zina were sentenced to a heavier punishment in the form of stoning or stoned

Verily, Allah sent down the Book to His Prophet, and among those revealed to him is the verse of stoning. Prophet Muhammad SAW has carried out the stoning for us, and we have carried out (the stoning law) after him.

I was worried, if the times had passed long ago, there would be those who said, ‘We do not get the law of stoning in the book of Allah!’ so that they are among the heretics for abandoning the duty that Allah Azza wa Jalla has put down.

Verily (punishment) stoning is true and is in the book of God for those who commit adultery if ever married (muhshan) if it has been proven by witness, pregnancy or confession of self.” (CHR. Bukhari and Muslim).

Committing infidelity

The great sin of a wife on a husband is infidelity. Cheating done by a wife will certainly have a bad impact on the husband. The act of cheating on a wife is a betrayal of the husband who has both promised to be faithful before Allah SWT.Not only hurt her husband, but not only hurt her husband, the act of cheating can also make the wife become negligent of her responsibilities in the household. Examples such as not serving the husband wholeheartedly, ignoring the education of children, lazy to take care of the household and tarnish the honor of family and husband.More, infidelity of a wife can break household relationships and even break the bonds of marriage that are sacred and strong. For this reason, Allah rewards the cheating wife.

This is in accordance with the word of Allah in the Quran of At-Tahrim verse 10, the following letter reads:

“Allah SWT made Noah's wife and Luth's wife a parable for the disbelievers. Both were under the watchful eye of two righteous servants among Our servants.

Then the two wives betrayed their husbands. Neither can her husbands help them in the least of Allah's torment and it is said that to them, ‘Ench into the fire of hell together with those who go to hell.’” (QS. Pahrim: 10).

3.Refusing to ask husband to get in touch

A wife who rejects the husband's invitation to have sex, even though the wife is not being idolized or lacking anything, is a sin that is hated by God.

From Abu Hurairah states, that the Prophet Muhammad said

“If a husband takes his wife to bed then his wife refuses so that her husband is angry over her, then the angel accuses the woman until the morning comes.” (CHR. Bukhari).

Lying in front of the husband

Lying or lying is the sin of a wife to a husband who is certainly hated by God. Many of the wife's actions included lying. An example would be lying about money spent on shopping. Such lying is prohibited by the Islamic religious law in accordance with the words of the Prophet, the following.

“You must always be right. Verily, truth will lead to virtue and virtue will lead to heaven. As long as a person is righteous and always chooses the truth, he is recorded with God as a righteous or honest person.

Be careful of lies. A lie will lead to Hell. As long as a person lies and always chooses to lie, then he will be recorded with God as a liar or a liar. (CHR. Bukhari).

5.Leave the house without permission from the husband

Many of the wives left the house for a specific purpose without any notice from the husband. Quoting the book entitled Complete Family Fiqh by Rizem Aizid, the actions of a wife who is such a sin, despite having a good purpose.

Allah says about the prohibition of a wife who goes out of the house without permission from the husband in Al Ahzab verse 33 which means the following:

“And keep thyself in thy house, and do not adorn thyself, and act like the former Jahilites, and make salah, and obey Allah and His Messenger.

Verily, Allah has the intention of taking away sins from you, O ye temple, and of cleaning you clean (QS. Al-ahzab: 33).

Not accompanying husband to sleep

A husband and wife should always be obliged to sleep together and not separate the bed, as long as the situation and conditions are still possible. In other words, a wife who wants to sleep alone or sleep with her children must ask permission from the husband first.

If the wife does not accompany the husband to sleep, then indeed the action is a great sin as the word of the Prophet SAW follows:

From Abu Hurairah ra, Rasulullah SAW said

“If a wife sleeps all night apart from her husband's bed, then the angel will curse her until dawn comes.”

Of the six acts of a wife on the husband that include these great sins, a wife must also know that the duty of a wife is to serve her husband.

A wife should keep the trust of her husband at home, be it in the form of property of the husband, secrets and others. A wife is also better to be serious in taking care of household affairs.

This is in accordance with the word of the Prophet in a hadith narrated by Bukhari and Muslim. Here sounds.

“And the female is the person in charge at her husband's house and she will be held accountable.” (CHR. Bukhari and Muslim).

God says that a godly woman is a woman who obeys God. It is listed in QS. An Nisa verse 34. Here sounds.

“Therefore, the godly woman is a woman who obeys God and keeps herself when her husband is absent, therefore God has kept them.” (QS. An-lisa (4):34).