Lika Liku Luka's
CHAPTER 14
An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind.”
– Mahatma Gandhi's.
Often we feel disappointed and hurt for the actions others have done to us. Whether an act is intentional or not, it still hurts, doesn't it? “Pardon” seems not a word that is an option to do. There is another greater desire: the desire to avenge the actions of that person. The desire for revenge.
The word “revenge” sounds more familiar to fictional stories or action movies that are commonly present on the cinema screen. The word also feels so “evil” and is often associated with acts of violence that refer to death.
In everyday life, revenge can happen.
How exactly is that revenge?
Acquaintance with wounds
The name is emotional wound. His existence is often overlooked, because he is invisible to the eye. If a visible physical injury becomes important to treat, so is the case with emotional injury.
There are many things that can trigger a person's emotional wounds. Ranging from ridicule given by people around to secrets disseminated by close friends. Another example that is quite painful is when the lover is duplicitous with others.
Although not visible, emotional wounds have a great impact on a person's life. Pain caused by emotional disturbances is more pronounced and longer lasting than pain caused by physical injury. In fact, the most common cause of suicide is deep sadness and depression, not physical pain.
When we are hurt, we are always looking for ways to improve our feelings.
One way is to retaliate, take revenge and punish those considered guilty. Hope like, “May she get her reply.” Up to “Awas only, wait until he feels this way too.” Of course, it never gets caught in the mind when someone hurts us.
The results showed that the emotional state after revenge was similar to that of those who did not feel emotionally hurt.
In simple terms, the results of the study can be described as follows:
Feelings of hurt (Appearing negative emotions (Wish to get revenge (Chance comes (Vengeance (Emotional conditions return to normal like nothing ever happened.
Will revenge be much better?
Basically, the instinct for revenge is owned by everyone. It depends on how self-control and personality a person in accepting the instinct. However, revenge is a form of self-destructive (self-destructive).
Often, revenge is carried out with far more violent and painful acts. It is not impossible if the victim who originally caused us emotional injury, will retaliate. Doesn't this cycle create endless hatred and division?
Accepting the desire for revenge is a form of self-control
Everyone has certainly been hurt. We cannot expect others to do good to us at all times. Sometimes there are actions that others do, whether intentional or not, that hurt our feelings. It all depends on how we react to it.
Imagine if everyone thought of taking revenge. The world will be filled with hatred. Is that the life we want?
Perhaps what Frank Sinatra said is true. That “Best revenge is by achieving great success.”
