Husband, If Your Father Is On Your Mother, Your Sins Are On Me

Episode 38's

Many women choose to continue to maintain a toxic relationship rather than parting for a variety of reasons. Because the child, for fear of not being able to find money on his own and because he continues to hope that someday his partner will change.

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"My husband was working out of town, Neng. Just been back here a few months. He was dismissed from his job because he had been sick for a long time. Since then, his behavior has changed. He didn't hesitate to cursing and even slamming things."

I was silent to Miss Susi's story. There was worry that slipped into my heart.

The DPRT does not just happen. It all starts small, and that behavior will improve over time. If Bu Susi's husband now dares to curse and slam things, it is not impossible if the next Bu Susi herself will be the target.

Actually what has been natural Susi Bu is now included in the KDRT act. KDRT does not just happen physically. Many people think that the DDRT occurs after a persecution. Though verbal attacks like what Bu Susi experienced are now included in the KDRT action.

In fact, it is much more fatal, because it attacks the mental and the impact can be more damaging. Physical injuries can heal in a matter of time. But the inner wound, it may continue to be eternal and cause trauma that affects behavior.

"Now he's not working, and I can't just shut up when we all need to eat. I often owe it to my neighbors. Sometimes I'm tired, Neng. But I don't dare to end up here enough. I've never worked before. I'm afraid I can't support myself." Susi sighed.

"Where are the kids now, ma'am?" I asked.

"I told them to my mother's house. I don't want the kids to see their dad treat me."

Ms. Susi's actions to evacuate her children I think is appropriate.

Many couples decide to stay because of the child's reasons. The main reason, they wanted to give the figure of an intact old man. But baby, they still fuss and fight in front of the child. Indirectly, the togetherness that continues to be maintained actually backfires for children's psychological health.

"I cape, Neng. But I continue to strengthen my heart and hope that my husband will change as he once did. He used to be a loving husband and a good father to children."

I nodded in understanding.

"The patient mother. If you need a chat, you can find me."

That's all I can say. I don't want to talk much. I was afraid of mispronouncing, and instantly became a provocateur in Ms. Susi's household affairs.

After seeing the state of Susi who had calmed down, I said goodbye to go home.

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"Household of others is not our domain to interfere. But if something bad happens right in front of your eyes, it can be ignored.

Teteh's sense of humanity is questionable if Teteh sees violence in plain sight, but Teteh can only be silent because it stands to reason that it is a household problem of others.

Help as much as you can, but don't forget the limits. Tetuh is just an outsider who should help, not interfere."

My mother spoke at length when she called me. I told you about the incident that Miss Susi experienced.

Sometimes, in the case of the DPRT, people around are more silent because they are always faced with the reality if it is a matter of people's household and they have no right to interfere.

Indirectly it makes the perpetrators of the KDRT more free. The perpetrators will take cover behind words if no outsider has the right to interfere in the household affairs of others. In fact, acts of persecution, whatever form, can be processed legally.

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I who had just put on Dre's clothes jumped in shock. I hurried to the door. It turns out that Ms. Jejen and Ms. Romlah.

"So what's wrong, ma'am, I forgot to say hello."

Both faces were panicked. I feel like something has happened.

"Mom Romlah just ran to the Bu Indah shop! She said Susi got beat up by her husband! Come on, Re!" Mrs Jejen is out of breath.

I went inside and went to the kitchen.

"Bak Tinah, drop Dre for a second."

"Yes Neng" replied Ma'am Tinah.

My footsteps hunted out and rushed after Bu Jejen. While Ms. Romlah has left us to go to the house rt sir.

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"No one gets involved! This is my wife! This is my household business!" the screams of someone sounded from behind the crowd.

No one dared to go forward. Mrs Jejen next to me looks really upset. I think all of us here feel the same way.

Ms. Susi sat on the terrace floor of her house with alarming conditions. His hair was messy and there was a considerable bruise on his hand.

"This woman deserves to be beaten! Can't please my husband!" mom Susi's husband shouted. He still looks angry. As Bu Susi's cry grew, she kicked the woman's leg.

Me and Mrs Jejen came forward.

"Stop there! You guys don't interfere! It's my wife and my family's business!" he shouted at us.

Enough is enough, I'm really upset right now.

"Heh Father! Household affairs if done in the house and only between the father and the wife of the father! If it is done outside the house and witnessed by many people, it is not a household affair! It's our business together!" I screamed out loud.

Unexpectedly everyone present agreed to my words.

"Then it!"

"Neng Rere is real!"

"Yes, it's like that, Neng!"

"I or anyone can report you for molesting your wife, because this is happening before my eyes! Everyone here is witnessing it!"

The man who had earlier shouted at me looked surprised, in a hurry he walked towards his motorbike and left.

The other mothers immediately approached Susi to see her condition. While me? I tried to relieve the heat all over my body because of the intense emotions.