Marrying a Woman of Mother's Choice

Appanaik Leko Cakdi (Bringing Little Sirih Leaves)

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Married to Makassar custom of course have to go through several processes. Like Accinik Rorong or the male investigation process to find out whether or not he entered a family to propose to his daughter. But because Reno and Tenri's marriage has been approved for a long time, the process does not need to be done.

The same is the case with the process of Appesak-pesak or fumbling, whether there has been a man who has ever come to propose to the girl. If there is none, then the next process is carried out. Tenri and Reno are a pair of humans who have been betrothed as children so there is no need to do the process. Unless both families make changes to the matchmaking bond that has been discussed before.

Next was Akjangang-jangang, sending several people to the family of the woman to ask if the woman was willing to apply. So that the male party can arrange his arrival to come to propose. It was done by the Reno family to the Tenri family.

Previously, Mange Assuro procession has been carried out or come to apply. In the procession has been agreed the type and amount of sunrang (mating), doe’ balanja (shopping money or sometimes called panaik money) and the date of the wedding.

Some people who are members of the Reno family are busy preparing for the Appanaik Leko Cakdi event which will be held tomorrow morning. Reno did not expect that her entire family was preparing for her wedding so seriously. Follow all customary processions that apply in Makassar.

Reno was amazed by all the processes, seen the face of his mother who was getting healthier. Smiling meaningfully, showing off Reno in front of her relatives.

"Finally, bunting tommi my son daeng." (Finally my son got married too), Reno's mother said in the midst of the family gathered in the house. Happy laughter from all present.

Reno smiled a little smile to honor her mother.

That night felt very fast passing, Reno could not sleep well considering tomorrow is an Appanaik leko’ caddi event or carrying a small betel leaf.

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The next day, representatives of the Reno family had prepared 12 bosara’ (besek or basket typical of Bugis-Makassar) to be taken to the house of the bride. Usually for noble families, bosara’ amounts to 14.

Bosara’ contains shipping in the form of handful rice, coconut, brown sugar, betel, betel, betel nut and chalk and usually the agreed shopping money and a binding ring. This procession becomes a marker or inauguration that both prospective brides have been engaged.

The families of both will then pass on this news to their extended families as well as relatives and neighbors.

"Alhamdulillah .. the process went well. A few more days will be carried out the process of Appanaik Leko Lompo or Bring a large betel leaf. So it is better to be prepared everything, no one is lacking. We are a big family that always submits and obeys the Makassar tribal customs. So, do not let one procession pass you by because marriage is something sacred." Daeng Siga who was the old man from Reno spoke in the middle of his extended family.

"I am one of the people who is very happy Andi' for the match between Reno and Tenri. That is, our families are getting closer to each other." Daeng Ngempo the older brother of Daeng Siga chimed in a speech from Mr. Reno.

Everyone present seemed very happy, Reno's mother was busy with all forms of erang-erang (since) knickknacks that will be brought during the process of Appanaik Leko Lompo later.

"Of course you're happy, son. Parents are unhappy when they see their children getting married. Moreover, you are the son of the only mother, the son who will be the successor of our family. You tauk-ji mean mom son anyway?" ask his mother in a typical Makassar accent.

Reno nodded and hugged his mother's body which was not as fit as before. When she was sick, her mother's weight dropped dramatically. Although now the condition is fairly good, but still Reno is still worried about the condition of his mother.

"Don't-ki's too tired, Mom. Let the other family members take care of everything. Or just let Reno get involved."

"Iihh .. can't do that, son. I am your mother, of course I will be the one who takes care of all your wedding needs. I'm so happy, my son."

"Iyeok, but remember the condition of the mother well?"

"Good boy, son."

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The family group is all ready, the vehicle parked in front of the house is ready to leave. Bosara contains in addition to betel, betel nut, and lime, bosara’ will also contain tobacco, brown sugar, coconut, banana, pineapple, oranges and various other fruits.

Also present in the shipment are various kinds of traditional cakes such as cucuru’ bayao, se’ro-se’ro, roko’ roko’ unti and others. As a complement, also brought a variety of jewelry, women's needs and beauty tools. Not to forget also the entourage of the prospective groom's family accompanied by traditional music such as gandrang, gong and pui-pui.

Lots of atmosphere that day, all wearing custom uniforms with various shades and colors. Pabaju bodo with kingking lipak sakbena, looks very beautiful in a traditional uniform.

Meanwhile, at the house of Tenri the bride-to-be was also ready to welcome the arrival of the bridegroom. Families are gathered to witness the customary procession.

Both families are very happy to welcome the rope matchmaking between Tenri and Reno. Although considering the two are only betrothed but they are sure the two will definitely not refuse.

Tenri is very beautiful in her bodony clothing, sitting down to welcome the arrival of the groom's extended family. Many are amazed to see Tenri, she is a woman who rarely uses beauty knickknacks. So that when his face was polished, his face was shining and glowing. Real pretty.

In a different place, Reno was panicking because Elsa suddenly forced her to follow him to Makassar.

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Seriate.